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Old 08-01-2018, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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Let's see...about 1997-2002 or so.

Cincinnati, OH.
My Aunt put me out of the house, at 18 and as soon as I graduated. I had a minimum wage job (actually I find out now, they paid me sub-minimum wage, it was legal because I was under 20 years old at the time, $4.25/hour) and she helped me find a cheap apartment. I didn't have a car or know how to drive. I rode the metro to work. My job cut my hours. I'd let a sketchy boyfriend move in, and he lost his job. Things were bad. I met an older man, who was on the verge of divorce, and he became obsessed with me. He loitered outside my work day after day. He threatened the live-in bf I wanted to get rid of, until he moved out. He wrote me poems and drew pictures for me. I was feeling like I wanted "something more meaningful" (like, anything meaningful of any kind?) than what I'd been doing, and maybe this guy who was 10 years older than me, would be the answer.

Things got worse and worse...but I didn't know how to get out of it. Especially after I got pregnant. My Mom moved to live with us, saying she'd help. Brought a ton of pets, and a ton of fleas. My little brother picked up lice at the local school and we had those too for a while. Living in a house with severe flood damage, renting from a slum lord, right next to the railroad tracks on the east end of Cincinnati. Rats the size of small terriers.

My man, my baby and I, could not keep living that way, and moved to an apartment, leaving everything we owned behind and not looking back. The apartment was on the edge of a Cincinnati neighborhood called "Over the Rhine." I walked through there in the heat of the summer of 99, which killed people, with my baby, to get free bread from the Mission. We had jobs on and off, but they weren't good ones. My guy had to have weed, he said if he didn't, he "would not be responsible for how he treated me." I went hungry. Weeks after I had my baby I was down to 98 lbs. (Healthy for me is 120.) We fought a lot. Things sucked.

I worked as a waitress, but wasn't good at it. I ate food off of people's plates that they didn't finish.
I sold everything I had that I could find a buyer for. I've had to do that more than once in my life.
I up and abandoned everything I owned and moved because things were either so bad, or we were broke and couldn't pay the rent and got kicked out...did that a few times.

Finally we relocated by Greyhound bus to Des Moines, IA where my ex's family lived so they could help us. Their help was limited, but appreciated. We got on our feet more or less. Jobs, a cheap car, a cheap apartment in a roach infested building. Then the ex got sick. Very sick. Diverticulitis, with perforation and septic shock. I watched his skin turn grey. He nearly died. It was a wake up call of sorts for us both. During his recovery from surgery (he had several) I gave birth to our second child. Our oldest was 2. After he fully recovered though, he shaped up for a while. Things got ok. The years went by.

Then he went back into the Army and they rained money on us for about 6 years. Interesting how very different your whole mentality is, when you are very poor, and when you are not. Living both extremes has been quite educational.

I'm divorced now. Life is better. I had to sell some band memorabilia to get moved out and on my own, but it was no big deal.
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Old 08-02-2018, 01:43 PM
 
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For all the guys on this thread that said that women paid them to sleep with them, my BS meter just hit its highest level ever.
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Old 08-03-2018, 08:18 AM
 
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To me there is a big difference between a dancer and an escort. A dancer with a good head on her shoulders can stay clean, sober, and not have sex for money. It's a job. An escort crosses a line, although I'm not judging anyone who feels they have to make that choice.
slippery slope......how many started out dancing then did porn/escorting?

Most pornstars have the same resume: dropped out of school, stripping, cam model, porn.

then it usually goes: drugs, rehab, retirement, feature dancing, escorting, back into porn to make more money
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Old 08-03-2018, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have been in heavy amounts of debt, but have never been really stuck with no access to credit or cash to get me through an emergency.
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Old 08-03-2018, 05:11 PM
 
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slippery slope......how many started out dancing then did porn/escorting?

Most pornstars have the same resume: dropped out of school, stripping, cam model, porn.

then it usually goes: drugs, rehab, retirement, feature dancing, escorting, back into porn to make more money
I have a former dancer working for me. She has two kids, great mother, owns her own home. If you didn’t know her past, you’d be shocked. For some, it is just a means to an end.
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Old 08-05-2018, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Ocean Shores, WA
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For all the guys on this thread that said that women paid them to sleep with them, my BS meter just hit its highest level ever.
I had an ex-wife who paid me not to sleep with her.

She didn't actually hand over money to me.

If she had I would have taken it.

But she paid for the divorce and all costs associated with it.
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