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Old 07-06-2018, 12:38 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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So my dog recently had pups, and my boss who is a CFO of a mulit million dollar company, was interested in our pups. This guy lives in a 500k house and drives a tesla. So he is pretty set for life.. He wants to come and visit me and the dogs, and here im the poor man living in a 75 single wide trailer, in a trailer park.. as some might call us trailer park trash. .But we are the cleanest community around. yards mowed, trailers are kept clean and updated. Just doesnt feel right or comfortable. Wife got mad at me for downgrading us, as we arent "poor" by her standards, but my standards is yea ,were poor.. one step up from being homeless, or one job lost away from living on the streets poor. Any advice? Put this in economics as this about it at personal level.
??? There are millions of 500K houses around. Nothing special or unusual about that these days. In fact, if he's such a tycoon he could just as easily choose to live in a McMansion. He doesn't. A house of that value isn't extravagant. For the same reason he could buy some highbred designer dog from an overseas breeder and fly it over. He didn't. He's looking at one bred by an employee of his own company. Someone he knows and works with. Probably someone he respects. So what if he drives a Tesla. Many people buy them because they are interested in the technology, giving a small company their support for what they might be able to accomplish, not the status. He could just as easily choose some ridiculous impractical Lamborghini but didn't. Just because you have money doesn't mean you can't be trash. Just because you don't have money doesn't mean you are.

TBH, He sounds like someone who doesn't really set much stock in superficial appearances. He sounds like someone who looks underneath the flash and "trappings". From what you wrote I suspect the person with the living standards hangup might be you. Look at it this way. When he does visit he'll see how much attention and effort you and the neighbors you put into your homes. That speaks to a lot more important things than money.

If you get rid of the should chip you might just find a human underneath your CFO after all. Hope likes your dogs.
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Old 07-06-2018, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Well, maybe it can't hurt for the CFO of a multi million dollar company to see what kind of lifestyle is supported by the salaries they pay.


But I don't know why you would feel that badly - sounds like you are living in a well kept home in a nice community. Even if it's a trailer park, there is definitely a difference between nice ones and trashy ones (by the way, same applies to non-trailer park communities too, many of those are also trashy)
That's what I was thinking.
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Old 07-06-2018, 12:59 PM
 
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The fact that he wants to come see your dogs makes me want to like him. Snooty people go to breeders.

Is there a way you can have the dogs penned up in the yard so he doesn't have to come inside?
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:04 PM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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Just because you are embarrassed by living in a trailer park doesn't mean your boss will think anything about it all. You are projecting your own insecurities on him which is not fair. He wouldn't be much of a person if he judged someone based on where they live. You said your property and home are clean and well maintained, so you have nothing to be ashamed about. Just show him the puppies, offer him a drink (it need not be alcoholic) and be proud of who you are. The fact that you have a job, a roof over your head, clean clothes and food are things a lot of people don't have. There will always be people who are better off financially than others but don't judge them, just like you are worried that they may judge you. Count your blessings!
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:12 PM
 
Location: between three Great Lakes.
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I agree with the poster who said it would do boss man good to see how his workers are living. There's nothing wrong with your set-up. But he needs to see the income disparity first-hand.

And while he's there: apologize for nothing. He's on your turf now. Be a decent host, but don't grovel about a thing (not that you would.)
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:17 PM
 
Location: in my mind
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Maybe think of this another way- this puppy situation has given you an opportunity to forge a slightly closer connection to this guy. Who knows where that might lead in the future? Think of it as networking rather than him coming over to judge your house.
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:18 PM
 
Location: NJ
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So my dog recently had pups, and my boss who is a CFO of a mulit million dollar company, was interested in our pups. This guy lives in a 500k house and drives a tesla. So he is pretty set for life.. He wants to come and visit me and the dogs, and here im the poor man living in a 75 single wide trailer, in a trailer park.. as some might call us trailer park trash. .But we are the cleanest community around. yards mowed, trailers are kept clean and updated. Just doesnt feel right or comfortable. Wife got mad at me for downgrading us, as we arent "poor" by her standards, but my standards is yea ,were poor.. one step up from being homeless, or one job lost away from living on the streets poor. Any advice? Put this in economics as this about it at personal level.
this post is adorable especially the bolded part.

i agree with your wife. dont sell yourself short. there is nothing wrong with how you are living, the guy wont have any issues with it.
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Erie, PA
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I can relate to how you feel, since I felt that way when I was younger since I came from a working class background.

My situation is different now and I do pretty well. I will say that you should not be ashamed of your home or not having a lot of wealth. It's more common than you think for people to live check to check; even some of the ones who DO live in the big houses in developments. I don't think any less of anyone based on their financial circumstances and will tell you that money doesn't buy class, common sense, or manners. Your visitor may very well have come from a working class or middle class background himself and worked his way up like I did. I am very comfortable in working class areas/trailer parks and middle class areas--it sounds like this is the case with your visitor since he is coming to visit you rather than simply go to a breeder.

One of the negatives of being in management is that people sometimes get intimidated by title and it happens to me. Just treat your visitor with regular courtesy as you would anyone else and it will be appreciated.

Life isn't a competition to see who can get the most toys/money. Don't let this nervousness cloud things and relax.

I'm sure that this guy will enjoy visiting
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:59 PM
 
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I can relate to how you feel, since I felt that way when I was younger since I came from a working class background.

My situation is different now and I do pretty well. I will say that you should not be ashamed of your home or not having a lot of wealth. It's more common than you think for people to live check to check; even some of the ones who DO live in the big houses in developments. I don't think any less of anyone based on their financial circumstances and will tell you that money doesn't buy class, common sense, or manners. Your visitor may very well have come from a working class or middle class background himself and worked his way up like I did. I am very comfortable in working class areas/trailer parks and middle class areas--it sounds like this is the case with your visitor since he is coming to visit you rather than simply go to a breeder.

One of the negatives of being in management is that people sometimes get intimidated by title and it happens to me. Just treat your visitor with regular courtesy as you would anyone else and it will be appreciated.

Life isn't a competition to see who can get the most toys/money. Don't let this nervousness cloud things and relax.

I'm sure that this guy will enjoy visiting
Maybe thats it.. IF it was any other regular tech that wanted to visit me, i wouldn't care as we are in same working loser class. In fact the 8 people i work with all live in low end housing or trailers and were close nit family. So we expect to see dirty laundry in the bathroom, or dishes in the sink. We attend to stick to our "kind". But him asking to visit just throws me off and didnt want to be rude and say no, "stick with your kind".
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Old 07-06-2018, 02:11 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Maybe thats it.. IF it was any other regular tech that wanted to visit me, i wouldn't care as we are in same working loser class. In fact the 8 people i work with all live in low end housing or trailers and were close nit family. So we expect to see dirty laundry in the bathroom, or dishes in the sink. We attend to stick to our "kind". But him asking to visit just throws me off and didnt want to be rude and say no, "stick with your kind".
my wife didnt have any money growing up but man she doesnt let me get away with any dirty laundry laying around or leaving dirty dishes laying around. when anyone comes over, she cleans up no matter who it is. everybody thinks my house is spotless at all times. the truth is, it pretty much is but not quite as much as when people come over.
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