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Old 09-12-2011, 09:15 PM
 
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My niece lives with us and is in second grade. We also get the list of "extras for the classroom". I refuse to participate in any of it. It is not my job to provide for the entire class, it is my job to provide for my niece...that's it. I also do not give gifts of any kind to the teacher.
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Old 09-12-2011, 09:23 PM
 
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My niece lives with us and is in second grade. We also get the list of "extras for the classroom". I refuse to participate in any of it. It is not my job to provide for the entire class, it is my job to provide for my niece...that's it. I also do not give gifts of any kind to the teacher.
If it's a list of EXTRAS for the classroom, then of course you don't have to participate. But man, the "me and mine alone" attitude displayed throughout this thread is depressing. It would be different if people were saying, "I wish I could afford to help, but I can't.". We can all understand that these days. But God forbid we try to help or give something extra. Is it any wonder more and more kids think they're above rules? Me and mine, me first, weaker or poorer be damned.
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Old 09-12-2011, 10:17 PM
 
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If it's a list of EXTRAS for the classroom, then of course you don't have to participate. But man, the "me and mine alone" attitude displayed throughout this thread is depressing. It would be different if people were saying, "I wish I could afford to help, but I can't.". We can all understand that these days. But God forbid we try to help or give something extra. Is it any wonder more and more kids think they're above rules? Me and mine, me first, weaker or poorer be damned.

If someone were in need I would help them, but as I said it is not my job to provide for the entire class. I provide for my niece as she is now my responsibility. Further more the last part of your comment is kind of uncalled for. You have zero clue about how we raise my niece, what she is taught etc. You also have no clue about what our financial responsibilities are.

Perhaps more people should try being responsible for their children, rather than expecting everyone else to pick up the slack.
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Old 09-13-2011, 07:49 AM
 
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I believe that when teachers ask families to provide extra's they are asking everyone to give just a little to help out those that cannot afford it. They are not expecting you to provide everything for everyone. I no longer have children in public schools since my youngest just started college, but when I went to Staples to get myself a calendar, it felt good to buy several school items that were on sale and toss them in the bin that was provided to help local school students.

sherrenee - Good for you for being the responsible adult to your niece. Sadly, many children don't have family to do that.
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Old 09-13-2011, 08:44 AM
 
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I have no problem sending in items for "the classroom" every now and then. Logistically it makes good sense for the class to share items. Can you imagine trying to keep track of 25 individual containers of hand sanitizer/pairs of scissors/glue sticks/#2 pencils/boxes of tissues in a Kindergarten class?

I can't.
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Old 09-13-2011, 03:09 PM
 
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My niece lives with us and is in second grade. We also get the list of "extras for the classroom". I refuse to participate in any of it. It is not my job to provide for the entire class, it is my job to provide for my niece...that's it. I also do not give gifts of any kind to the teacher.
So your niece doesn't use the tissues, hand sanitizer or any of the other "extras" on those types of lists?
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Old 09-13-2011, 04:10 PM
 
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So your niece doesn't use the tissues, hand sanitizer or any of the other "extras" on those types of lists?

She has her own stuff that she is responsible for keeping up with.
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Old 09-13-2011, 04:37 PM
 
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She has her own stuff that she is responsible for keeping up with.
ROFLMAO!!

I cannot imagine telling a child she cannot use the classroom tissues or hand sanitizers if she runs out. I have never, even as the secondary level, seen a child never run out of or never forget something at any point during the school year. Good luck with that.
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Old 09-13-2011, 06:52 PM
 
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LOVING my kiddos being in school these past two days!

Was surprised to find a letter in my daughter's backpack with an envelope attached with the words "due Friday" on it.

It was a letter from another teacher (and co-worker) announcing my daughter's teacher's birthday. It would be "VERY helpful" for me to send some cash to school so that this friend/teacher could buy the teacher (from the class) with the birthday a gift card to a nice restaurant to dine with "her husband and children" so that she will "know how much we appreciate her".

WHAT?! I just met her a couple days ago! Isn't Christmas, Valentine's Day, Teacher Appreciation Day and and end of school year gift enough? Apparently not.

There seems to be no end to their tactless begging. A couple years ago one of my daughter's teacher's alerted us to her Amazon page. Last year my other daughter's teacher not only sent out a "wish list" (she wanted a director's chair) highlighting favorite colors, stores, and restaurants, but things she DIDN'T like. "No coffee or hand lotion, please".

I don't know if this is done in other regions of the country--most of my friends have older kids. It DOES seem to get worse every year...

If I weren't worried it would come back to bite my kids (you gotta wonder) I would complain to the District. This has really gotten out of hand. And I hate when these 'room moms' get my kids to nag me for the gifts/cash. "Mommy, don't forget we're buying Mrs. So-and-So a pedicure before she goes on maternity leave! Nathan's mommy said they need the money RIGHT NOW!"

And if you're a teacher who thinks I'm an awful mom, too bad. You get paid, you have awesome health benefits, you have a pension plan, a union that will never fire you, you have ALL summer off, Christmas, Spring break, and most postal holidays off! Quit yer bellyachin'!

Tell me I'm not alone...
Seems like we've all forgotten what the OP was. I brought it back to remind us!
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Old 09-21-2011, 10:35 AM
 
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We do give our teachers nice gifts for Christmas and at the end of the year. We also give a gift to the mailmen, the paper guy, and the garbage collectors. We give our cleaning lady a gift at Christmas. If you don't want to give, or can't afford to give, don't. I really don't see the controversy. Lots of people get gifts throughout the year....why single out teachers?
Does your mailman or garbage man ASK for gifts? These teachers KNOW the 'room moms' are soliciting for them. C'mon!
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