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Old 03-06-2014, 08:07 PM
Location: Duluth, Minnesota, USA
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Originally Posted by strawflower View Post

IMO, the problem with the term bullying is that it's so darn subjective. Ask thirty different people about what situations would be thought of as 'bullying' and you'll likely get a large range of answers.

My son plays soccer, and was told by another kid that soccer is for gays. This particular boy apparently thought it was really funny and said it repeatedly to my son and the other soccer players at school. My son didn't really care because he's a pretty upbeat kind of guy and realized the kid's just really immature, but other boys were hurt.

I think it's tough to have conversations on bullying until 'bullying' is defined. Was what happened to my son bullying?
I don't see how the incident you described could be called "bullying". How many kids are on a soccer team? Like 15? He is outnumbered 15 to 1.

Bullying requires some kind of power differential. When a kid is ostracized by his entire class, that's bullying. When a kid sits all alone at a lunch table, and no other table will take him, that's probably bullying as well. When the popular kids or jocks make fun or play pranks of/on the nerds, that's bullying. When the only black kid in school is repeatedly called "*****" by kids with no humorous intent in saying it, that's bullying. When a single kid thinks of soccer as "gay" and is willing to state it, that's not bullying, that's just a weak insult.
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