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I'm seeking input from others that may be in a similar situation.
Our kids are enrolled in a great private school. We, the parents, have jobs that allow us to be very flexible most of the time in our work. The teachers are the absolute greatest and welcome us to visit and participate as much as possible. We return the favor by inviting them to our home for fun and social events. It is becoming apparent that the owner of the school is overwhelmed. The owner insists on maintaining sole ownership (without a board of directors). The teachers are treated badly including several labor violations.
We recently held a social event where we invited the teachers to come over. Prior to our event, the teachers were called into a meeting with the school owner and given a warning about coming to our house and threatened with unknown consequences about whatever talked about. As a result of this meeting, we did not have a very big turn out. The only teachers to show up were ones that are not returning next year.
Do I pull my kids out of this great school or leave them in and not be social with the teachers?
Maybe it's because I didn't go to private school but I've never heard parents hold social events for teachers.......(and if it is truly a great private school, this should not be a factor)
Maybe it's because I didn't go to private school but I've never heard parents hold social events for teachers.......(and if it is truly a great private school, this should not be a factor)
I also never heard of entertaining teachers in a parents home.
A question for the OP. Do other parents invite the teachers to their homes? If not, it sounds like you are trying to gain favors from the teachers. Perhaps the school head is just trying to curtail any question of favoritism. Perhaps he is also fearful of things going on behind his back.
I would leave my kids in the school, and play by the rules.
It's probably not a problem if it was an end of the school year thing where you have faculty/staff over to your house to thank them for the past academic year but if it's a frequent event, it has the appearance (though your intentions may be pure) that you're trying to bribe/win over the teachers for your kids. (That's probably what they were told in the meeting)
I'm seeking input from others that may be in a similar situation.
Our kids are enrolled in a great private school. We, the parents, have jobs that allow us to be very flexible most of the time in our work. The teachers are the absolute greatest and welcome us to visit and participate as much as possible. We return the favor by inviting them to our home for fun and social events. It is becoming apparent that the owner of the school is overwhelmed. The owner insists on maintaining sole ownership (without a board of directors). The teachers are treated badly including several labor violations.
These are not the signs of a "great school." They are signs of a shady private venture with no oversight, where turning a profit is often the priority at the expense of quality education. Depressingly common among the new breed of "independent" schools. Teachers who are "the absolute greatest" will not continue to stick around in schools where they are not treated well, for the long term.
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We recently held a social event where we invited the teachers to come over. Prior to our event, the teachers were called into a meeting with the school owner and given a warning about coming to our house and threatened with unknown consequences about whatever talked about. As a result of this meeting, we did not have a very big turn out. The only teachers to show up were ones that are not returning next year.
Do I pull my kids out of this great school or leave them in and not be social with the teachers?
Overall, inviting teachers over for fun and social events is generally frowned upon, and also falls in a grey area of ethics for teachers, regardless of shady actions of shady administrators. Many programs have policies in place regarding the conflict of interest in socializing with parents/students outside of school.
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