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Old 02-14-2019, 05:53 AM
 
Location: Cebu, Philippines
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Like everything else, you "get good at" something through practice.

There's an adage: Average minds talk about things, small minds talk about people, great minds talk about ideas. it is not that hard to find ideas to talk about. "What if . . ." is a good way to start. What if humans had long tails? What if Plastic had never been invented?
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Old 02-15-2019, 05:24 PM
 
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
Anyone who talks to you like and makes you feel that way tends to be seriously lacking in various departments......

Tell him to converse in the mirror if he doesn't do that regularly already.
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Old 02-19-2019, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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You could take college courses. History, English literature, debate, classics.

Anything where you learn something and then discuss its meaning or impact in class. Class discussion is required.

Another good place to develop conversation skills is to join a story telling group or event. The good ones allow and appreciate anyone telling a story regardless of how good or bad it is, they appreciate the fact you gave it your best shot. Eventually your best shot will improve and they will be clapping not just for you trying, but for your story.
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Old 02-23-2019, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
Hang around with me for a while.
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Old Yesterday, 02:16 AM
 
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You have to be intellectually curious first -


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e5_V78SWGF0
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Old Yesterday, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Sioux Falls, SD area
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
Let me lessen your stress. Dump the jacka$$.

People like that are exactly the kind of people to separate yourself from.
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Old Today, 12:01 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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If the issues is confidence in speaking about things that interest you with others, that can be remedied by practice and repetition and observation of conversational partners who are good communicators.

But if your anxiety is coming from being denigrated and belittled by a crappy partner, the far more likely solution is to ditch the crappy partner.
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