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Old 02-06-2019, 02:35 PM
 
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
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Old 02-06-2019, 02:44 PM
 
Location: Aurora Denveralis
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Choose a book on a subject you are both interested in and read it, then discuss its ideas. It doesn't have to be a massive textbook on some complicated subject - a short, even humorous book on something you both find interesting is a good start.
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Old 02-06-2019, 03:18 PM
 
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He sounds like a loser. He shouldn't be making you feel like that. You deserve better.
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Old 02-06-2019, 03:41 PM
 
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You don't. Tell him to stuff that idea. Talk about stuff you are both interested in. If he want's intellectual conversations he can watch youtube videos and post comments on them, or participate in online forums. If you have a good loving intimate relationship, that's all you need. If you don't, having intellectually challenging converstions won't matter. I just noticed a newer poster said he doesn't find you desirable. Now he doesn't think you are intelligent. Is this a joke?
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
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Old 02-06-2019, 03:41 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Why do you want to have intellectual conversations with a BF who is no longer sexually attracted to you? You’ve been posting about that too, right?

You should not have to change yourself so much to keep a guy.

And you would probably feel less anxious about sharing thoughts in a more supportive relationship. How could you feel comfortable having a deep conversation with someone who doesn’t value you?
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Old 02-08-2019, 04:34 PM
 
Location: midwest
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My anxiety has hindered my ability to communicate fluidly with others and my significant other doesn’t feel the like we challenge each other enough intellectually through conversation. He wants to have fluid conversation where we discuss topics and make each other think differently. So how do I go about learning how to have intellectual conversations?
Need some examples of the topics that come up. Just saying "intellectual" is way too broad. Is it sciency or humanities? Plenty of "intellectuals" look down on science stuff.

Check out C. P. Snow The Two Cultures.

http://s-f-walker.org.uk/pubsebooks/...2-cultures.pdf
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Old 02-08-2019, 05:26 PM
 
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There was a time when many intellectuals is America were self educated. You can still do this but there is no easy way. For starters find out who is lecturing in you area. Colleges, libraries, community centers,
and arts council bring in lecturers all the time. Find one that interest you. Libraries also have book discussions. You simply read a book and get together one evening and talk about the book.
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Old 02-08-2019, 07:53 PM
 
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There was a time when many intellectuals in America were self educated. You can still do this but there is no easy way. For starters find out who is lecturing in your area. Colleges, libraries, community centers,
and arts council bring in lecturers all the time. Find one that interest you. Libraries also have book discussions. You simply read a book and get together one evening and talk about the book.
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Old 02-08-2019, 09:56 PM
 
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In start, you can start communication in front of mirror to get rid of your hesitation. it'll help you to communicate.
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Old 02-08-2019, 10:01 PM
 
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Some android apps are available to communicate with other person or foreigner. he/she will improve your mistakes. i think, you should try this.
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