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Old 06-30-2008, 03:55 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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You don't have to do anything.. your an American.. he on the other hand may not have a choice and has to go back.. but if there is love there he would not put you at risk. So think about it for a while. If I was him I would tell you to stay where you are.. I'll get my stuff straight and send for you or come back when I have my papers. Or I would ask you to be in El Paso, and yes he can come over with a visiting visa.. we have Mexicans coming over here daily to shop and what not.. I don't see why he could not do the same. I know of some Apartments that are $250 a month.. not the best but they would get you by, while he gets his paper work in order. Lastly;

Separation makes the heart grow fonder. And the little saying I have heard and found to be true.. If you loves something set it free, if it comes back to you it was meant to be.. if it does not, do not fret, there is love around the corner yet.
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Old 06-30-2008, 04:08 PM
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Location: El Paso
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Originally Posted by Muhnay View Post
your gluten for punishment.
Contrary to popular belief, you will not turn into a protein that is found in most grains

But the glutton for punishment comment might not be all that inaccurate.

Alas, here are the good news

I live in El Paso, and work in Juarez, and as bad as the situation is in Juarez, chances are you are not going to see it.

Right now there is plenty of violence, and people that are involved with the drug cartels and corrupt policemen are being shot left and right. There has been 450+ murders, with some unfortunate bystanders being caught in the fire

So, if you avoid the nightclubs (antros), and going to eat at night, chances are you will be OK

It's a shame what's happening to the city, but hopefully this won't last for too long.

And living in Juarez without knowing in Spanish is feasible, but you are going to struggle.

I am not familiar with the jobs that might be available for your skills.

If you are going back and forward between Juarez/El Paso, and the waiting times for the bridge are driving you insane, consider the dedicated commuter lane, it's about $500, but worth every penny. I use it daily, and my wait times is less than 3 minutes on average
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Old 06-30-2008, 05:03 PM
 
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Luv2move,

'Sorry for the negative news, but this is reality and it's no joke. This is the reason you have received the replies you have to date, including mine in which I could not believe someone would seriously do this.

In any case, I detect a hint of desperation here. You say you have no choice? Really? Is the mob after you? I do question why anyone would gamble their life for a boyfriend (or girlfriend).

Lastly, why El Paso?

Now for the positive news... you might try teaching, teachers are always in demand and you can pursue your teaching degree while working as a sub.

Regards
No, the mob is not after me.

I will look into teaching...not a bad idea.....thanks.
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Old 07-01-2008, 03:14 PM
 
Location: MTY, MX
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Maybe you can find job teaching in some private school or university...

Living in Juarez is not as terrifying as they want to make you believe here.

Regards..
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Old 07-01-2008, 03:27 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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Maybe you can find job teaching in some private school or university...

Living in Juarez is not as terrifying as they want to make you believe here.

Regards..
Yeah don't listen to me or the many links I have posted proving how bad it is.. Or even the many other forum peeps here who have said the same thing... I am sure some kidnapper will love an African American hostage.. Or you may get really lucky and be one of the 4000+ women found dead over there in the last year or two.

So yeah go ahead and do what ever, listen to people like the one above and jfe instead.. I am sure you'll be fine. But when you not.. remember that I told you so... good luck.
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Old 07-01-2008, 03:54 PM
 
Location: MTY, MX
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^^ must be sad living with your level of fear...


regards!
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Old 07-01-2008, 04:11 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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^^ must be sad living with your level of fear...


regards!
Yes it is.. it is sad.. because I see what you don't. When you have to drag a kid out of a car who has been shot and is dieing and there is nothing you can do but hold him and try to comfort him and then watch as he dies.. then maybe you'll understand. I have seen way to much death in my time.. and I am only 37 years old. I have seen kids/adults killed in gang shootings, in car accidents, and in random acts of violence. I don't care to see any more. the hardest part of being a cop, was having to always see the dark side of things.. So believe what you want.. make your sad little commits and try to slap my face.. all your gonna get from me is my piety, because your too blind to the truth that surrounds you.

Shove your regards up your keister. Have a nice day..
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Old 07-01-2008, 05:43 PM
 
Location: MTY, MX
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Your experiences as USA cop may not be the same in Mexico. Theres nothing interesting to discuss with people like you; I better focus in help with the truth to the girl that start the thread.
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Old 07-01-2008, 06:27 PM
 
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Your experiences as USA cop may not be the same in Mexico. Theres nothing interesting to discuss with people like you; I better focus in help with the truth to the girl that start the thread.
Antgar, though Muhnay's comments were very blunt, please don't just discard them. You should at least try to empathize to what we (on the other side) see and hear about Juarez. It is not pretty.

Just as JFE has mentioned, sure you can go about your business in Juarez, but even JFE is cautious. Are you not cautious?

Let's say I was walking down the main boulevad in Juarez and there were two gangs shooting at each other. If I close my eyes, and pretend they are not there and exit safely, does that mean that Juarez is safe, and because nothing happened to me, I can say nothing will happen to anyone else? Of course that is silly, but do you get my point?

To deny that Juarez is not dangerous is dishonest. Don't let pride get in your way, if Juarez is unsafe, say so. If it's safe in your neighboorhood, then say that it is, and don't insinuate Juarez is safe.

450+ murders that we know of in six months? 300+ women murdered with no suspects? 30-40 murders in one weekend? How can you tell the OP not to listen to the others who post this information? Even you know these facts. As Pope John Paul said when asked what he thought about the portrayal of Jews in the movie 'The Passion of the Christ'.... he said "It is what it is". And so is crime in Juarez.

Lastly, answer this question to yourself, if you could live anywhere in the world, would it be Juarez? Chances are the answer is no. Ask yourself why that is. Don't help lead this woman to Juarez under false pretense.

Regards
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Old 07-01-2008, 08:19 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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Antgar, though Muhnay's comments were very blunt, please don't just discard them. You should at least try to empathize to what we (on the other side) see and hear about Juarez. It is not pretty.

Just as JFE has mentioned, sure you can go about your business in Juarez, but even JFE is cautious. Are you not cautious?

Let's say I was walking down the main boulevad in Juarez and there were two gangs shooting at each other. If I close my eyes, and pretend they are not there and exit safely, does that mean that Juarez is safe, and because nothing happened to me, I can say nothing will happen to anyone else? Of course that is silly, but do you get my point?

To deny that Juarez is not dangerous is dishonest. Don't let pride get in your way, if Juarez is unsafe, say so. If it's safe in your neighboorhood, then say that it is, and don't insinuate Juarez is safe.

450+ murders that we know of in six months? 300+ women murdered with no suspects? 30-40 murders in one weekend? How can you tell the OP not to listen to the others who post this information? Even you know these facts. As Pope John Paul said when asked what he thought about the portrayal of Jews in the movie 'The Passion of the Christ'.... he said "It is what it is". And so is crime in Juarez.

Lastly, answer this question to yourself, if you could live anywhere in the world, would it be Juarez? Chances are the answer is no. Ask yourself why that is. Don't help lead this woman to Juarez under false pretense.

Regards
I can't hookabrotherup with some rep points, have to spread them around some.. but when I can I will for this post. Very well said.
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