Should I keep wearing Hip Hop/Urban style clothes (brands, fashion, look)
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True. I feel like I am disabled or a racial minority or something cuz I gotta work harder to prove myself just in routine situations, since people's perceptions are-I must be ignorant, up to no good, uneducated white trash. You can really tell when people judge by the looks and would treat you otherwise had you been only dressed different. Sometimes it's too obvious, just by the way they stare at you if you are in an upscale restaurant, for example. I don't care about other customers staring and me getting looked down upon, I am used to it, but staff often does the same thing, and it negatively affected my service a few times.
Why since YOU force that perception upon others?
It's not as if you were born with a malformed leg or something which you cannot change and was not a choice.
People do not 'know who you are'... they are FORCED to judge based off the immage YOU present to them.
It is YOUR choice.
I'm sure you don't think the grizzled guy who's bodystink is matched by the smell of spoiled beer and unwashed clothing should justifiably feel the same as you...
But in both (And perhaps more in your case) it was what you CHOSE to show others.
It's not as if you were born with a malformed leg or something which you cannot change and was not a choice.
People do not 'know who you are'... they are FORCED to judge based off the immage YOU present to them.
It is YOUR choice.
I'm sure you don't think the grizzled guy who's bodystink is matched by the smell of spoiled beer and unwashed clothing should justifiably feel the same as you...
But in both (And perhaps more in your case) it was what you CHOSE to show others.
Yes, but this clothes style is not necessarily about being up to no good. Hip Hop actually got started by the pioneers to pull the youth out of the street life and into something positive so even though I understand why people may perceive it in the wrong way, it's not like the stinking guy analogy, where he for sure is a loser bum. Basically, not all Hip Hop dressing people are bad people, but automatically others think that we are.
Yes, but this clothes style is not necessarily about being up to no good. Hip Hop actually got started by the pioneers to pull the youth out of the street life and into something positive so even though I understand why people may perceive it in the wrong way, it's not like the stinking guy analogy, where he for sure is a loser bum. Basically, not all Hip Hop dressing people are bad people, but automatically others think that we are.
are you a musician? is someone paying you to perform hip hop music for them?
Yes, but this clothes style is not necessarily about being up to no good. Hip Hop actually got started by the pioneers to pull the youth out of the street life and into something positive so even though I understand why people may perceive it in the wrong way, it's not like the stinking guy analogy, where he for sure is a loser bum. Basically, not all Hip Hop dressing people are bad people, but automatically others think that we are.
I had a Plt Sgt explain to me one time that "Perception was reality" and I Argued with him to no end... (No, reality is reality... I don't care if you think the moon is made of green cheese)
YEARS later I realized he was right!
OTHER people's perception IS THEIR reality!
In this instance, through actual (real) exposure to 'thug life' types dressed that way, and through (Fake) TV of similar, that is other people's perceptions...
Reality (For them)
You can:
-Attempt to single handedly change 'their reality'
Not gonna happen.
-Realize you are swimming upstream and adapt.
(What I have done... no matter if I wore a suit or jeans to my internship I would do the same work, and often better in the jeans due to being more relaxed!)
-Or say F**k it I don't care what people think and suffer the consequences
(Something I did in years past until I 'wised up')
For YOU it's not like 'the stinking guy analogy'... for others ... IT IS.
i dont really understand your infatuation with hip-hop beyond the music and style. you are talking about some pioneers pulling kids off the streets, i thought maybe you are more involved than just wearing the clothing.
you will need to accept that its just music and doesnt deserve a larger place in your life.
Themanwithnoname-Yea, I agree. It's kinda hard to adapt though. It's like I have to bend for people I don't even know nor I care about or for. Feels like I would be giving in, which I don't like to do, it's almost like losing.
Themanwithnoname-Yea, I agree. It's kinda hard to adapt though. It's like I have to bend for people I don't even know nor I care about or for. Feels like I would be giving in, which I don't like to do, it's almost like losing.
one premise that we have here that is wrong is that there is nothing wrong with you, you just have a different clothing preference. there is something wrong with you. you are lacking maturity. the way you dress is telling people this, and it is true.
i dont really understand your infatuation with hip-hop beyond the music and style. you are talking about some pioneers pulling kids off the streets, i thought maybe you are more involved than just wearing the clothing.
you will need to accept that its just music and doesnt deserve a larger place in your life.
Well, it's kinda like an outlet for me, a release of some sort, especially before when I was going through rough times. I could ID with the hardships so it made me attached.
Do you care what people think of you? If yes, then slip into some Dockers and duck shoes and make society happy. If not, then continue to dress the way you do and hope to be judged on the content of your character and not your appearance.
Simple as that. End thread.
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