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Old 07-01-2012, 05:23 AM
 
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I am happy with my face and body. I don't think I'm ugly or unattractive and never been given a reason to...I think I'm just caught up in the process as much as I am the transformation. The planning and the saving gives me a thrill. Thinking of what I'll do next and how quickly I can get it done is exciting. It just consumes all my energy.

If this statement were actually true you would not be planning so much cosmetic surgery. You need to seek serious therapy from a professional and a new hobby.

 
Old 07-01-2012, 05:30 AM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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If this statement were actually true you would not be planning so much cosmetic surgery.
What qualifies as "so much surgery"? Are two procedures ok or three? So arbitrary.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 06:24 AM
 
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What qualifies as "so much surgery"? Are two procedures ok or three? So arbitrary.
In your case, even just one. Especially where the person is so clearly not in a healthy frame of mind...which you are not.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 07:03 AM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Especially where the person is so clearly not in a healthy frame of mind...which you are not.
Apparently the only evidence of that needed is that I'm planning to have 4 cosmetic procedures.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Holiday, FL
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Apparently the only evidence of that needed is that I'm planning to have 4 cosmetic procedures.
I didn't think about checking it until someone else mentioned checking out your picture. I agree with them...

Where do you, honestly, have room for improvement?????
 
Old 07-01-2012, 07:45 AM
 
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I can't decide if this thread is a cry for attention ("look at me!") thread or a cry for help.

How can you honestly say that you are happy with yourself and then schedule procedures that will completely alter the way that you look?

And all of the posters telling her how great she looks is only feeding into this. Come on, people. Why would you post pics of yourself if you don't like the way that you look? I think the OP
knows what she's doing.

It's like the skinny friend who is always on a diet because she thinks she's fat. Does she really think she's fat even though she's not (cry for help) or does she want others to tell her how great she looks (cry for attention)?

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Old 07-01-2012, 08:04 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I think you should focus your efforts on getting a husband, prior to doing any more cosmetic surgery. Usually I would not tell a woman to find a husband, but in your case I think it is a very wise idea.

You aren't doing anything with your life that will increase your earning power as you age, and in fact you have positioned yourself so that you most likely will be earning less money by your mid thirties. By this I mean you earn money based on being a cute young girl at your peak, but you are about to age out of that status and will make a lot less money as you continue in your trade. You are also act peak attractiveness now in terms of attracting a successful husband, and will already be on the way down in a mere year (I suspect you are aware of this peak hence your desire for more procedures as you are about to turn 27.) If you instead have these additional cosmetic procedures you are talking about on this thread, you will end up looking like someone no upstanding, career man would be able to take to the company Christmas party: a stripper or porn star. Nice guys aren't going to be interested, you will instead be stuck with more types like you fireman ex-bf.

I know of a bartender at a happy hour spot I frequent a few times a year. She is probably about 40 years old, has a fit body and gigantic fake breasts. She was probably hot back in the day, but now she is shlepping cheap drinks around a crappy dive bar all night. That's a tiresome career, but I am sure she isn't qualified to do anything else. This might be your world from midlife and beyond and it doesn't look pretty! That's why I say get a husband now (or stop working at Hooters etc and get a lower paying job with a future, or go back to college).

PS - did you ever used to hang out at a forum called nopc?
 
Old 07-01-2012, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Western North Carolina
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Maybe volunteer for something helping others and get focused on something outside yourself for a little while. Maybe you'll meet another "volunteer" (handsome male one, hopefully) who is also focusing on something outside themselves and not simply superficial attributes.

I understand it feels great to like what you see in the mirror, and to feel attractive. There's a great power in that. I also know that no matter what you do, that's all going to fade somewhat with time. One day, you will have to develop other interests and personal talents and gifts in addition to your physical ones, I don't mean that in a disrespectful way. I feel completely that we should all be in the best physical shape we possibly can be in at every stage of life. Just try adding some other "layers" to that as part of who you are, and help someone less fortunate or develop other interest. That can be quite "sexy" actually, and might bring some passion back into your life.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 08:54 AM
 
Location: US
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I have the opposite opinion. It sounds to me like you need some "me time." Many people find as they are focusing on transforming themselves (through weight loss, education, whatever) do not feel like adding something else to their lives at that point. All of their attentions are focused elsewhere.

I don't think you mentioned how long this whole journey will take for you, but I'd recommending staying the course for a month, and see how you feel then. It is OK not to want to date for a little while while you are focusing on something else.
This is how I see it too. Plus working so much is a killer.

I think also as you get closer to 30 dating just gets annoying and you start to becomes more selective and independent after you see you can have a full life without a guy.

Everyone acts like its crazy to NOT want to go out or date when you looks like you do. Plenty of people go through those anti-social phases. Especially when working a lot or going through major changes. (elective or otherwise) I think its probably actually a good thing. I would look into internal work too at this time. Maybe something educational, maybe something spiritual. Just something else to internally balance you and add to confidence or complacency.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 09:14 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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OK! You posted a very nice glamor shot. Suffice it to say that Mother Nature did not treat you badly. While that is likely not the effusive reaction you crave, I'm considerably older (66) and look somewhat askance at what you are planning. Chalk it up to having three daughters, two stepdaughters and four granddaughters, none of whom have sought to change their appearances artificially. You are who and what you are and quite frankly, I think that additional enhancement would not be "icing on the cake" but would detract and distract. It would likely serve to gain you attention but probably not the kind you envision and seemingly crave unless you're into cheap thrills and shallow relationships.

That's all from me for whatever it's worth which is obviously nothing.
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