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Old 07-21-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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I don't know where you all are meeting these people. The men that I come into contact with want someone who brings something to the table other than sitting there and looking pretty.

Looking pretty carries an advantage, surely. But if the choice came between gaining knowledge in my chosen field or having plastic surgery for purely cosmetic reasons, it's a no-brainer. Pardon the pun.
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Old 07-21-2012, 12:55 PM
 
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Most employers are going to meet you on paper before they see you in person.

Education > surgery
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Old 07-21-2012, 01:01 PM
 
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I don't know where you all are meeting these people. The men that I come into contact with want someone who brings something to the table other than sitting there and looking pretty.

Looking pretty carries an advantage, surely. But if the choice came between gaining knowledge in my chosen field or having plastic surgery for purely cosmetic reasons, it's a no-brainer. Pardon the pun.
Try living on the coast of California in a VERY expensive area surrounded by cute college students. Looks triumph experience and education here.

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Most employers are going to meet you on paper before they see you in person.

Education > surgery
I've been on the hiring side and while yes, they will see you on paper first, I was SHOCKED when we were hiring people and the only thing the men could talk about was how hot a potential applicant was. In my early 20s I worked at a quick lube place and at least half of the hiring decision was how hot a girl would look in the uniform. I had to fight the male management to get decent, competent people hired.
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Old 07-21-2012, 01:06 PM
 
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Most employers are going to meet you on paper before they see you in person.

Education > surgery
You usually meet with the referring individual for lunch or dinner before the resume gets exchanged. Unless you're doing cold-application... but only 20% of jobs are found by cold-application.
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Old 07-21-2012, 01:53 PM
 
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Education first, looks second. It doesn't matter how cute and perky you are, you aren't going to have the career if you don't have the qualifications. And when your youth has faded, it's better to be the dowdy woman who kicks butt at her job than the clueless old woman with a nice rack.
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Old 07-21-2012, 04:07 PM
 
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This thread makes me very sad.

Are men -and women- really that superficial? Really? I have never dated someone who didn't value a smart woman. Do men really want a woman who just sits there and contributes nothing? Who just looks good and that's all? Who wants to be that woman?

What type of woman would even consider this? I think someone famous said, "Beauty fades, dumb is forever."

And sorry, I agree with Trimac. Plastic surgery over a degree? Especially a degree in the healthcare industry? Why is this even a question?

And people are cosigning this mess? Sad indeed.
Did you read the above post,XXXabeechick?
She has men who don't even know her buying her things. You think if she was average with a Phd he would be doing those things?

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Old 07-21-2012, 04:08 PM
 
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Education first, looks second. It doesn't matter how cute and perky you are, you aren't going to have the career if you don't have the qualifications. And when your youth has faded, it's better to be the dowdy woman who kicks butt at her job than the clueless old woman with a nice rack.
Read NjBest's post. He admitted looks were a factor in his hiring a secretary.
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Old 07-21-2012, 04:11 PM
 
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Most employers are going to meet you on paper before they see you in person.

Education > surgery
True,but then after the interview when no one calls back,you know why.
I thought that was the point of interviews anyway,to see how you look?
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Old 07-21-2012, 04:16 PM
 
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What type of woman would even consider this?
Apparently, one who goes by "jerseygal." *rimshot*
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Old 07-21-2012, 04:28 PM
 
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This isn't an either or proposition in regards to looks vs. brains...it's more specifically what will have the greatest financial windfall, investing in your looks or your degree, which I think in this economy is an extremely viable question. I've invested thousands in my looks so far and I'm not an airhead who can't carry an conversation. I received a higher score on my SAT's than most of the men in successful careers that I meet. Because I like to think I'm both book savvy and savvy in the way the world works I carefully review my options and I'm generally pleased with my decisions.
Thanks,I was thinking which one would be greater financially.
Because a woman is beautiful she has a greater chance of marrying a stable,middle class man.
Having a degree means nothing,compared to looks.
As I said,there was a thread on the P and C forum, tilted" Black women not wanting black men"

The men who were black said they don't care how many degrees a woman has,that doesn't mean she is entitled to the lawyer or Doctor. They were saying what women think is important to men isn't that important. They were saying it doesn't matter what if she has her masters,if she is ugly,she is ugly and she shouldn't complain about not finding men on her level.


When I walk into a room,no one thinks "Gosh,I wonder what type of degree she has?"
A degree in healthcare doesn't guarantee a job. I know plenty of Bsn nurses without jobs, and they graduated 2 years ago and still don't have jobs.
I know some women who did get breast implants or nose jobs but didn't graduate beyond high school yet they are married to middle class men.
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