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Old 12-25-2012, 06:48 PM
 
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To be quite open about it, I am an old woman and will probably get some surgery done myself. All my life I have hated my nose. I should have had it done years ago. If something disturbs you and it is changeable, why not? Why go through years not liking your face or body?

Shaquille, I think your priorities are just perfect. Good luck.

I have a big nose that could be a lot cuter if it were "fixed" but to change my nose would be to deny my heritage. My dad had the same nose, as do my brothers (RIP). I don't want to change anything that reminds me of my family (Eastern Europeans). This is who I am and who cares about noses anyway? Its all about the smile. Thats the only thing worth investing in.
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Old 12-30-2012, 10:49 AM
 
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If someone can improve their life prospects through surgery, why should they simply accept their lot and adjust to it? I had procedures done to my peculiar-looking face and am glad I did. Research, realistic expectations, and not becoming obsessed with ongoing aesthetic improvements are important, though. And after the surgery project is over, learn to focus on things other than appearance.
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:18 PM
 
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Its how others responed to them.

That's what im have been trying to say. If no one responded to me throughout life the way they did,I seriously doubt I would have started this thread.
Looks are always a dwindling asset. Age catches up with us all eventually - it's the great leveler.

The right degree, on the other hand, is an investment that allows for an accumulation of value. Get some learnin', get the job, build the career and you'll notice how jabs at your appearance suddenly dwindle in perspective. And 10 years down the road, you'll be the one with money for the better clothes, the nicer car, the good shoes and the high-end manicure. And a little corrective work, if you feel like it.
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Old 12-30-2012, 02:57 PM
 
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I have a big nose that could be a lot cuter if it were "fixed" but to change my nose would be to deny my heritage. My dad had the same nose, as do my brothers (RIP). I don't want to change anything that reminds me of my family (Eastern Europeans). This is who I am and who cares about noses anyway? Its all about the smile. Thats the only thing worth investing in.
Me, I could not care less about heritage. Some aspects of heritage are good and others, not so good. My genetic heritage as far as noses go, is not so good. I don't like looking like my father. I'm a woman. As women age they take on more masculine characteristics. That big schnoz keeps looking worse, the older I get.
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Old 12-30-2012, 03:16 PM
 
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The problem isn't that I think I'm ugly,its that others do.
When I hear comments,twisting up of others' faces in public,I know its bad.
If I could go about as I am now,and nobody said anything, I would be alright.
But because of my appearance,I got bullied out of high school and didn't graduate(very painful for me,because I didn't drop out for being pregnant,a troublemaker,or any of the common reasons why kids drop out)
Men didn't take me seriously,family didn't want to walk next to me out in public, and cashiers and other customer service people who don't say anything to me,even though they say greeting to everyone else first.
Let me quote Holy Q'RAn for you.
When you see something beautiful
Praise the Lord
When you see something bad
Look at yourself.

There are quite few very successful people, that are not beautiful. Matter of fact, some Hollywood stars are not. But. They have at least appeal. My suggestion to you is - not to worry much about physical. Worry, why is it that people find you repulsive?
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:38 AM
 
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Well is it more economical to have plastic surgery, or eat a ham sandwich?

Translation: what does looking hideous, have to do with being uneducated? What does being educated have to do with looking acceptable? Answer: not a damned thing.

You need a better environment. Or, perhaps, you need grooming lessons. If you don't have grease dripping off the pustules of acne oozing all over your face, if you are still able to walk through normal doorways without requiring the fire department to cut a wider opening, if your knees aren't bending the wrong way when you walk, if your hair is usually clean and not covered in flakes of dandruff, if you still have most of your teeth and they are kept in decent condition, if you don't wear blue eye shadow and orange blush, if you aren't growing a third arm out of your chest, or have one eyeball dangling from its socket, if you don't have a pronounced hairlip, if you have good posture, and if you don't have nasty stanking foot fungus...

then your problem is either your environment, or your personality.

I have a friend who spends all his time in bed. Literally. All of it. His body is withering to nothing, because he can't eat through his mouth and instead has a feeding tube directly into his stomach. He can't breathe on his own, so he had a tracheostomy so that an electric bellows can do the breathing for him. He has a colostomy and catheter, because he has no control over his bowel or bladder. He cannot speak anymore either. He has ALS. And yet - he manages to earn money as an artist, by using technology that he helped to invent when he was still partly able-bodied, to manipulate a computer, which does ALL his communication for him. And he is loved by hundreds, and cared for by both paid 24/7 staff and a host of volunteers, many of whom are just friends who want this man to thrive despite his condition.

There is probably nothing about you, physically, that would repel anyone. Even if you were hideously deformed - people would get over the initial shock eventually, if you had the personality to help them get past it. Take a look at the girl whose cranial tumors deformed her face so badly that she was no longer able to breathe through her nose - because it had been completely enveloped by the growths, and she had to support the remarkable weight of her head by cradling it in her arms, or the weight would have snapped her neck. She had no lips, and her lower and upper jaw didn't meet - her mouth was just a little hole in her face and she had little control over it; she had a few teeth that were growing outside her mouth, because her gum and upper jaw had been pushed forward by the growths. Her village had assumed she was cursed, and avoided her, and wished she had died - even her mother was ashamed to have such a monster - but pity and sorrow overcame revulsion and finally the media got wind of her story, and the girl started having surgeries to remove the tumors and re-create her face, from lower jaw to hairline and everything inbetween. And the village finally came to love the girl and she was welcomed home with great fanfare. I don't know her fate - if she's still alive, but I saw the documentary of her through the third series of surgeries on the Discover channel awhile ago.

If she can get through THAT - then you can get through whatever your problems are. And unless - as I said - you're badly deformed, there's nothing that plastic surgery will fix, without the personality and environment to support who you are, as you are now.

Well,I'm not hideously deformed,but that's the problem.
If I was deformed,I would have an excuse for being ugly.
But I'm not deformed. My weight has nothing to do with my face,because when I was skinny I was called ugly even more. Plus,my face doesn't reallt get larger with wt gain.
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:39 AM
 
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Me, I could not care less about heritage. Some aspects of heritage are good and others, not so good. My genetic heritage as far as noses go, is not so good. I don't like looking like my father. I'm a woman. As women age they take on more masculine characteristics. That big schnoz keeps looking worse, the older I get.
What masculine characteristics do women tend to get as they get older?
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Old 01-01-2013, 05:53 AM
 
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What masculine characteristics do women tend to get as they get older?
Some women start growing beards...

I've seen it.
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Old 01-02-2013, 04:24 PM
 
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What masculine characteristics do women tend to get as they get older?
Well, you do know that your ears and nose continue growing all your life, so I'm starting to look like Charles DeGaulle. Then you start developing facial hair - you know, a beard and mustache. Your voice (most) lowers. Your skin starts sagging so you develop jowls. You body thickens, so your entire legs just get fatter. If your family has a genetic propensity toward a double chin, your chin sags. Your nails get thicker. Toenails become hard to cut. Fingernails get ridges in them.

Your hair gets thinner usually in the male pattern baldness pattern.

I know that not all of these are not masculine traits, but they are certainly more acceptable for men than for women. It ain't purty.

The grey hair - I don't worry about so much.

Oh, and women get more assertive as they age while men become more docile.

It's like your body starts to tell you "Time to leave!"
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Old 01-03-2013, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Up North
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I will always believe cosmetic surgery=self-hate. I have a 17 year old cousin who has already had a nose job (when she was 16). How can someone consider and undergo plastic surgery without hating themselves?

To prevent aging, you have to take care of your health!! They should start teaching this in schools, people are becoming so disconnected from whats real.
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