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Old 08-26-2012, 03:55 PM
 
Location: Boston
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I'm Black American and naturally a size 2. I however notice that people tend to laud thin Asian and White women, but seem to take offense when Black women are thin as well. It's almost like, they expect every black woman to have thick thighs, a big behind and huge breasts. I'm just curious if anyone else has noticed this general attitude towards Black women? Why is it that thin black women are shunned, while thin Asian and White women are viewed as prizes?
I feel your pain because I'm a Black Latina and I'm the same size as you, naturally, but I've never met anyone who's told me that I should be bigger/thicker. Not even random Black guys on the street.

My family, on the other hand, has been known to praise my figure to my face and talk mess behind my back. Dominican women are supposed to petite and thick, but I'm neither...and nor is most of my family for that matter, but I'm too skinny. When I finally graduated from a rectangle to having some measure of hips at 16, my great-aunt exclaimed, "Oh! So you finally have hips now?" I'll never forget that.
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Old 08-26-2012, 03:59 PM
 
Location: Bethesda, MD
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No..but they have the opposite problem. White women are the largest group with anorexia and bulimia. They have pressure to be skinny...while other groups have pressure to be "womanly".

White women in US with beyonce or shakira figures are rarely celebrated...it's only the slim ones with little or no muscle definition. It must suck to be one of the people who constantly see any little bit of extra meet on them as fat.

Why is it less 'womanly,' to be thin? I know you didn't mean to offend, but your statement is exactly what I was eluding to when I created this thread.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Up North
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I am an AA woman as well and I have noticed this, but only among other African Americans...men in particular.

I used to be a lot heavier (size 14) than I am now at a size 4". I got sick and tired of being fat and out of shape, so after my last child I decided to get the weight off. What should have been a positive experience turned negative because of comments I got from friends and family. I can't tell you how many told me that I shouldn't get too thin because "black women are supposed to be bigger". I think thats the biggest crock of sh*t I've ever heard in my life. I was/am married and my hubby loves me at the size I am now, especially. However, other black men in my life told me that if I got too small my hubby would leave me because "black men like their women thick" and "only white women should be skinny".

Thank God I didn't listen to any of those idiots, otherwise I might be a size 20 by now. Unfortunately, a lot of black women buy into the hype, which is one of the reasons heart disease and diabetes is so prevalent among African American women.

Keep eating healthy/exercising to maintain your size as long as YOU are happy.

WOW! That's insane. I think being healthy and fit is the ideal for women of all races. All women look better and even glow when they workout and don't put garbage in their bodies. I'm sure all of the men in your comment would drool over an hour glass figure over a size 20 probably quite unhealthy woman.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:04 PM
 
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I have never seen a person offended by a thin black woman.
I haven't either.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:06 PM
 
Location: Up North
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Why is it less 'womanly,' to be thin? I know you didn't mean to offend, but your statement is exactly what I was eluding to when I created this thread.

Womanly may have been a poor choice. I guess curvy is more accurate. It difficult using the word curvy since many people use the word as a polite way or gentle on the ego way to say fat.

But..curvy...like Shakira and Beyonce bodies.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:09 PM
 
Location: Bethesda, MD
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And I know this. I know I definitely have to change my eating. Did you eat a certain amount of calories, or you just changed how you were eating without counting calories, etc?
You don't have to count calories when you're consuming fresh fruits, veggies, healthy fats (olive oil, coconut oil, nuts/seeds), non processed whole grains, lean (non fried) meats/fish, and water. When you consume these foods, you can eat as much as you want. Most people that consume very healthy diets however, have no need to over-eat, because the fiber will fill you up quickly, and virtually eliminate your desire to consume more food. Also, when you consume natural foods, the body starts to naturally crave it, in lieu of the unhealthy sugary/processed foods.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Bethesda, MD
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I feel your pain because I'm a Black Latina and I'm the same size as you, naturally, but I've never met anyone who's told me that I should be bigger/thicker. Not even random Black guys on the street.

My family, on the other hand, has been known to praise my figure to my face and talk mess behind my back. Dominican women are supposed to petite and thick, but I'm neither...and nor is most of my family for that matter, but I'm too skinny. When I finally graduated from a rectangle to having some measure of hips at 16, my great-aunt exclaimed, "Oh! So you finally have hips now?" I'll never forget that.
I think there's more pressure placed on Black women to be bigger/thicker, irrespective of their cultural heritage. I wonder if White Latinas experience the same treatment...
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:32 PM
 
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I just wish that black women didn't have the curvy/big butt stereotype. Thin/skinny black women tend to be shunned, while big bottom black women are praised. The same is not true for white and Asian women. You stated that when you were a size 4, you received a lot of flack from people. Why do you suppose they had an issue with your weight?
Because I lost some of my a** honestly, and my legs were smaller. They just liked me better when I was bigger. They thought I didn't look as good thin.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:34 PM
 
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You don't have to count calories when you're consuming fresh fruits, veggies, healthy fats (olive oil, coconut oil, nuts/seeds), non processed whole grains, lean (non fried) meats/fish, and water. When you consume these foods, you can eat as much as you want. Most people that consume very healthy diets however, have no need to over-eat, because the fiber will fill you up quickly, and virtually eliminate your desire to consume more food. Also, when you consume natural foods, the body starts to naturally crave it, in lieu of the unhealthy sugary/processed foods.
Thank you! I agree and used to eat that way. I admit when I was pregnant, I started eating badly(lots of junk and sweets) and have tried to nip it in the bud, but haven't really. I'm still breastfeeding my son, and I always crave sweets. I have a craving for chocolate everyday.
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Old 08-26-2012, 05:07 PM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, FL
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I was made fun of by other black girls when i was growing up because i was skinny. It's funny when i talk to my white friends about how it's like opposite world when it comes to weight and the black community.

I've been told: that I will never get a boyfriend cause i don't have meat on my bones, that i have chicken legs, that i need to eat, etc. This was as a teenager in h.s. when i was a size 3 juniors. I've even had people tell me not to worry, i'll get fat after i reach 30 or after i have kids.

It's not as bad now, but i do get the "you need meat on your bones" comment occasionally til this day. I'm over 40 and i have gained weight and i have a child. I'm a 6 now, but apparently, that's still too skinny for some people. I've learned over the years to love my size.

My sisters have experienced this too, as our family is genetically inclined to be on the slim side.

I guess i say all of that to say is the only person that has to find your size acceptable is you. I finally figured that out in my late 20's and i haven't felt awkward about my size since.
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