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Old 09-01-2012, 01:02 PM
 
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Being thin is not as acceptable in the US as it once was, people here are fatter than anywhere else and it's becoming the norm. Plenty of bigger white women are celebrated (Jessica Biel anyone?) Thin women are automatically accused of having an eating disorder. It's also acceptable to use terms like "skinny b****" but don't dare say something negative about an overweight woman ("real women have curves"). White women undoubtedly do have the highest number of eating disorders, but just because a white woman is thin does NOT mean it's due to bulimia or anorexia. I'm white, 5'7 size 0-2, and I think I look totally average but people will gasp at me and say all kinds of rude things about my weight. Combination of balanced diet, exercise, and awesome genes.

OP don't listen to those morons. Be who you want and who makes you happy.
Jessica Biel is not big to anyone with any ounce of sense. She is probably a size 4. When I consider a bigger white women Jessica Biel is not who comes to mind(for most people I'd imagine).
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Old 09-01-2012, 05:07 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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And my opinion is that it is utter nonsense to claim that people are offended by fit black women. When one solicits opinions, sometimes it isn't an opinion that is expected. That is what an internet forum is all about, if you don't like it, why are you here?
Well just like you..Im here because its an internet forum. And just like YOU..I can say what I think. And I think what you said was "utter nonsense"..because it was. How the h#ll can you know what other people have experienced?? Just because YOU have not experienced it, doesnt mean others havent. SO SHE CAN CLAIM IT BECAUSE SHE EXPERIENCED IT. GET IT??

So, based on that my opinion is YOUR opinion was utter nonsense and lacked common sense. And yeah, I think you should get over it

So, lets just agree to disagree eh? Or is that utter nonsense too..according to the Book Of Onglet?

Too bad.
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Old 09-01-2012, 05:27 PM
 
Location: The Midst of Insanity
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Jessica Biel is not big to anyone with any ounce of sense. She is probably a size 4. When I consider a bigger white women Jessica Biel is not who comes to mind(for most people I'd imagine).
Wow, I sure ofended some people with the Jessica Biel comment. I wasn't saying she's fat...but was replying to a poster who said "white women with bodies like Beyonce or Shakira aren't celebrated" and I would put Biel in that category. And yes, her butt is big but I think she looks great.
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Old 09-01-2012, 05:29 PM
 
Location: The Midst of Insanity
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Do people really comment on y'all's bodies that much? Like, strangers? Or friends and family?

90% of the time when another person comments on my body, it's to say I have a lovely figure or something along those lines. Sometimes people will simply state "You're so skinny!" but I think usually mean it as a compliment.

Oh, sure, I have a handful of incidents when someone has thrown out the word "anorexic" or similar accusations, but those are few and far between. Do people say these sorts of things to all of y'all that often, or do you just remember those few rude comments more vividly than the positive?
Yes, people really do say things and I get the "OMG you're so skinny!" the most from co-workers. Usually heavy-set women. I've also been asked more than once what size I wear or what I weigh..no one's business I don't say to them "Wow, you're so fat! What are you, a 14?"

I just try to chalk it up to jealousy and move on
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Old 09-01-2012, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Here&There
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I think maybe it's the black people you are around that make you feel like you "can't" be thin.

Sometimes it just takes a comment from a family member to make it feel like the whole world feels that way.

I'm Latin and growing up mom always called me "flaca" or some other form of that word. She would address me as "skinny".


"SKINNY!! Come help me with dinner" I was never even skinny...just a size 2 as well.

It's just a cultural thing.
Well if it's a cultural thing you should also understand that 'flaca and flaco' along with 'gordo and gorda' can be (quite often) used as a term of endearment.
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Old 09-01-2012, 08:57 PM
 
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Wow, I sure ofended some people with the Jessica Biel comment. I wasn't saying she's fat...but was replying to a poster who said "white women with bodies like Beyonce or Shakira aren't celebrated" and I would put Biel in that category. And yes, her butt is big but I think she looks great.

I don't think it was offensive, just really bizarre. I've never heard anyone refer to Biel as "big" before.And obviously you weren't saying she was fat, but you did say she was big which is far from the truth. I'd say she's average or "small", but certainly not big. She isn't thin either. But she actually looks thinner IMO Shakira or Beyonce. Her butt isn't big to me, maybe it's big for a white chick though.
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Old 09-01-2012, 09:15 PM
 
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Yes, people really do say things and I get the "OMG you're so skinny!" the most from co-workers. Usually heavy-set women. I've also been asked more than once what size I wear or what I weigh..no one's business I don't say to them "Wow, you're so fat! What are you, a 14?"

I just try to chalk it up to jealousy and move on
But is it a "Yuck, you're so skinny. What's wrong with you?" sort of thing or more like "You cute little skinny thing, I would love to fatten you up a little."?

It's not terribly polite either way, but if there's no malice behind their words then it's not exactly the same.
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Old 09-02-2012, 08:55 AM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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Do people really comment on y'all's bodies that much? Like, strangers? Or friends and family?

90% of the time when another person comments on my body, it's to say I have a lovely figure or something along those lines. Sometimes people will simply state "You're so skinny!" but I think usually mean it as a compliment.

Oh, sure, I have a handful of incidents when someone has thrown out the word "anorexic" or similar accusations, but those are few and far between. Do people say these sorts of things to all of y'all that often, or do you just remember those few rude comments more vividly than the positive?
I've had people comment on my body since I can remember. (It started as young as elementary school.) The majority were complimentary, which kind of helped negate the nasty comments I received from peers and strangers.

I still get compliments on my figure, but now I also get comments and sincere questions from strangers, family & friends. I find myself often having to justify my "thinness," especially as a mom of three. Parties and events can be tiring and awkward for me because the majority of the conversations revolve around my weight & height despite my trying to redirect.
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Old 09-02-2012, 10:25 AM
 
Location: metropolis of dc
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as a black woman, i had never really noticed that there was a widespread stigma against being thin and black. which isn't to deny the experiences of the original poster or anyone else who can relate, but i really think unsolicited feedback about our bodies is pretty much a universal female experience. i've been called fat by some people (while others are like "but it's all in your butt") and i have friends of all sizes and races who've been criticized for their weight/body shapes even my extremely conventionally attractive white and asian friends (one of my white friends must have an imaginary magnet that says "please tell me what you think about my appearance" because she gets comments from *everyone* from her family to strangers about how thin she is). we live in a world where women's bodies are essentially considered objects for public consumption, and with that brings inevitably awful commentary - whether it's from your family, friends, men, strangers, politicians, etc...

all you can do is remember that it's *your* body, and what matters most is how you feel about it. as long as you're comfortable and confident and content, that's all that matters. people are going to talk and have their own (sometimes completely uncalled for) opinions, but at the end of the day, you're the only one living in your body, so your opinion is the most relevant.
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Old 09-02-2012, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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LOL at Jessica Biel being big LMFAO the only big thing about her is her head.
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