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Old 09-04-2012, 08:29 PM
 
Location: Grand Rapids, MI
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Perhaps being fit is more important in terms of male attractiveness (althought I've found a fairly overweight guy very attractive: face and personality wise before).

In females, being fit is maybe half if not a small part of it. You could be a very attractive overweight female if 1. you have a naturally attractive face 2. know how to makeup very well and/or 3. knows how to dress well. Besides effort, the last two require skills, time and money which many simply do not have. I'm actually at my heaviest right now (upper range of healthy BMI for my ethnicity) and I actually look better than I did in my teens and early twenties when I was fitter simply because I have more money to invest in my personal appearance.
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Old 09-05-2012, 12:46 AM
 
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A lot of it has to do with self esteem and confidence. Weight loss causes most people to gain confidence that they did not have before.
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Old 09-05-2012, 01:53 PM
 
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I think the concept of having confidence is overrated. I believe that you need it, but I don't believe its the difference between being successful and failing when attempting to pick up women that people make it out to be. If confidence was that crucial, we'd see alot more fat, overweight guys with hot chicks than we would now. For every guy that everybody says that they know that gets hot chicks, there are 10 of them sitting in their mom's basement on friday night with lotion in their hands.
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Old 09-05-2012, 05:52 PM
 
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I guess the OP forgot that lots of people look better larger than thinner.
If I get really skinny,my face looks gaunt,but I would still look overweight from the hips on down.
Also,the face. If you don't have a pretty face to begin with,it won't make much of a difference.
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Old 09-06-2012, 12:31 PM
 
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CD's favorite word,confidence.
Yes,confidence is the magic word.
Nighttrain is right. You can't change people's preception of you.
Oh,and the other"your attitude drives people away"
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Old 09-07-2012, 12:20 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I agree. Being in shape is really important to being attractive. You can do your makeup if you're a woman, wear only the best most fashionable clothes, do your hair, nails, all of that, but if you have fat rolls when the clothes come off most people aren't going to be attracted to you. Surface stuff can only make up for so much.
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Old 09-07-2012, 12:38 PM
 
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The crocodile can sense any self-worth upping drill from miles. Why don't you show us her picture and let us decide?
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Old 09-07-2012, 02:59 PM
 
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I know a couple of women who deliberately made themselves overweight in order to attract a better class of guy. They were attracting all the wrong kind of attention when they were HWP, and the kind of guy they wanted to attract was too intimidated by them when they looked "hot". They're both happily married now. I think this says something very sad about the state of male-female relations when women have to make themselves fat in order to attract nice guys.
LOL. I can believe it. But that's not an option for me - I'm partly losing the weight for health-related reasons (a diabetic mother).
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Old 09-08-2012, 06:03 AM
 
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I agree. Being in shape is really important to being attractive. You can do your makeup if you're a woman, wear only the best most fashionable clothes, do your hair, nails, all of that, but if you have fat rolls when the clothes come off most people aren't going to be attracted to you. Surface stuff can only make up for so much.
Not really. I think having a pretty face is more important than having a nice body.

I wonder do obese women with a pretty face attract more male attention than a woman with a beautifuk body but unattractive face?
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Old 09-08-2012, 07:40 AM
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Not really. I think having a pretty face is more important than having a nice body.

I wonder do obese women with a pretty face attract more male attention than a woman with a beautifuk body but unattractive face?
I think it depends on the observer, really. I have some pretty fit friends who are really picky about the fitness level of their partners. To them, fitness is beauty, and the result is they date women that I do not find attractive at all. On the other hand, as I said already in this post, I like an attractive and feminine face, even if it is attached to an overweight body.

I think that the thing to remember is that when we are talking about attraction and preference, everyone is a little different. There really is no right or wrong answer, and it is often not reliable to box in large groups of people. For example, "Fit guys like fit girls." Maybe this is true, maybe it isn't. I'm a fit guy and fitness is not necessarily a requirement for me to be interested in a girl. I know fit girls who do not necessarily have to date fit guys, too. There are no limits to the possibilities when it comes to attraction.
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