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Old 01-10-2013, 12:00 PM
 
Location: Northeast
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Hello;
My first post in this forum

I am a 30 year old; SAHM mother of two kids;4 and 1 year. I over-weight by 15 lb post-delivery; trying to burn it off but I do think it will take atleast a year to get back in shape.

I wear mostly sweatshirts and jeans. I am very conscious because of the weight and fat around the belly (muffin tops); and it has started to affect my confidence as well. I am now feeling ashamed to go for "get-together" or reunions.

I have enrolled for a course in the community college. I am dreading it as the date nears. Kindly suggest what to wear. I am not looking for dates or any relationship; so I do not need anything that catch the other's eye romantically you know being sexy and all.

I want something decent; economical and chic as I want to pass off without looking shabby.

Thanks
LA
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Old 01-10-2013, 12:15 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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15 lbs is not a lot overweight. Get a pair of jeans that fits right and the muffin top won't be an issue.

My friend who is 30 and a college student wears her school sweatshirts and jeans most of the time. When it's too warm for sweatshirts, I see her in a variety of tops, blouses that button up the front, or polo shirts.
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Old 01-10-2013, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Northeast
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Thanks Hedgehog_mom for your comments.

B/w; I wouldn't mind 15 lb over-weight if it was evenly distributed around. For me 5 lb in bust area; 5 in thighs and the last 5 in belly. Not a "great" distribution; you see.
Since; I am in NJ I feel lucky because of the winter jacket 4-5 months easily pass off. I dread summer; quite honestly.

LA
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Old 01-10-2013, 02:11 PM
 
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I wouldn't go for sweatshirts and jeans. It may be the college wardrobe but it isn't age appropriate or flattering on any body.

I'd look into how to dress for your particular body shape. I'm a fan of Trinny and Susannah's body classifications and tips. They're about dressing to flatter the body you have, not hiding until you get the body you want.

Try this body type quiz and check out their suggestions.

Body Shape Calculator
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Old 01-11-2013, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I wouldn't go for sweatshirts and jeans. It may be the college wardrobe but it isn't age appropriate or flattering on any body.

I'd look into how to dress for your particular body shape. I'm a fan of Trinny and Susannah's body classifications and tips. They're about dressing to flatter the body you have, not hiding until you get the body you want.

Try this body type quiz and check out their suggestions.

Body Shape Calculator
100% agreed. Once we have an idea of your actual body shape, it is easier to make recommendations!

Recommendations for a pear are different than let's say an apple.
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Old 01-11-2013, 10:14 AM
 
Location: US
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Well comfort wise I would trade the sweatshirts in for sweaters. Just as comfy but can still look nice.

If you feel too soft around the middle wear a shaping cami underneath. It will smooth out bra lines too. Then maybe try to get a little active/improve your diet and see what happens to that little bit of weight. I think comfortable flattering smoother cami's (like spanx) can be great motivators to get rid of the extra you don't like too.

If you like jeans find ones that fit you right and pair your sweaters with jeans that are dark rinses. Corduroy is also a nice way to wear pants with a jeans feel.
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Old 01-11-2013, 10:17 AM
 
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Hello;
My first post in this forum

I am a 30 year old; SAHM mother of two kids;4 and 1 year. I over-weight by 15 lb post-delivery; trying to burn it off but I do think it will take atleast a year to get back in shape.

I wear mostly sweatshirts and jeans. I am very conscious because of the weight and fat around the belly (muffin tops); and it has started to affect my confidence as well. I am now feeling ashamed to go for "get-together" or reunions.

I have enrolled for a course in the community college. I am dreading it as the date nears. Kindly suggest what to wear. I am not looking for dates or any relationship; so I do not need anything that catch the other's eye romantically you know being sexy and all.

I want something decent; economical and chic as I want to pass off without looking shabby.

Thanks
LA
As a student you don't need to dress up, so you can wear just about anything. I teach in a community college, and I would suggest the following: skinny jeans, legging or similar pants with tunic tops or long sweaters. I also have a problem with the stomach area, and this is the best way to hide it for me and still be comfortable. Just make sure the skinny jeans aren't the low-rise kind that create a huge muffin top - get mid or high rise, or stretch leggings. My most comfortable outfit right now is a pair of cotton or velvet black leggings with a long sweater and a pair of boots. If you live someplace warm, then you can still wear the same, but with short sleeved shirts or tanks that are loose around the middle - like bubble tops, for example, or just long tunic tops. Ruching around the stomach can also hide it. Instead of boots you can wear comfortable flats or sandals.

For dressing up, there are a couple of brands of clothing that make dresses that really hide the midsection. One is Garnet Hill - All the dresses I have from there are draped in such a way as to completely hide the stomach while still hugging the waist on the sides. They tend to be the kinds of dresses where there is a knot or some pleating just below the bust and the fabric drapes out and down from there (i.e. empire waist). Also Bodenusa.com makes similar dresses. I have a lot of dresses from there and none of them show my stomach.

Finally, invest in good shapewear. It can make a huge difference. For jeans, look for a high waisted short with a control tummy. For dressed, look for the all in one slip with built in bra (or if you are really busty and need to wear your own, look for something that goes over a bra, like the Spanx brand).

Some more ideas - for playdates and playgrounds, activewear is really useful and hides a lot. I like Lucy brand yoga pants because they have a control panel on the stomach. Add a structured workout jacket and it really slims. Or even a loose yoga top (again Lucy has good ones) to cover that area.
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Old 01-11-2013, 10:46 AM
 
Location: USA
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Legalalien, no matter what the age, students pretty much dress the same, whether cc or full fledged university. Some students may appear to be shabby, but, that's mainly due to being dirty and generally unkempt. Nothing wrong with dressing to conceal whatever part you wish to conceal. It's your business, no one elses. Enjoy your class and don't spend another moment worried about what to wear.
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Old 01-11-2013, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Davidson County "Brentwood"
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I've found shift/sheath style dresses are flattering. Don't wear loose clothing, it'll just make you look heavier. Use belts on your waist when you can. Skinny style pants shave off lbs. Wear vertical stripes. To draw the eye up, wear an interesting neckline or jewelry. Heels help. If you can afford to tailor clothes, do it-a well fitting garment always flatters.
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Old 01-11-2013, 11:54 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Skinny style pants shave off lbs.
I have never seen that to be the case.
Heavy people still look heavy - and ofter much heavier - in skinny jeans.
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