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Old 03-16-2013, 03:02 PM
 
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I agree with you to a point. I have noticed that the men I tend to attract (being rather ample busted) aren't exactly 'high quality' and the decent men rarely take me seriously because of the whole 'big boobs = dumb bimbo' correlation that so many still seem to have. As for the bitter stuff, nah..not bitter. Just cautious and mildly distrustful.

Interestingly, I can pinpoint why I'm like this, and I know two other women who I worked with who are currently in the same boat as I am. It's amazing how similar our experiences are currently because of what we experienced at the same workplace.
Mildly distrustful, huh?

So you guys work someplace and had a bad experience, and that makes all men azzholes? Makes perfect sense to me.

 
Old 03-16-2013, 03:03 PM
 
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I'm sure it's just one of those wild, ridiculous, mythical, unsubstantiated and completely stereotypical generalizations which happens to have a grain of truth: guys into big boobs are rarely geniuses.

Just like the wild, ridiculous, mythical, unsubstantiated and completely stereotypical generalization about girls with little boobs being brainy and imaginative.
Pretty much. I think many guys (especially the ones who are my age and 'came of age' during the free internet porn beginning) start to associate big breasts with dumb, easy girls. It gets REALLY REALLY irritating when men are surprised that I can hold a good conversation and that I'm fairly intelligent. Just a few weeks ago I had a guy exclaim 'wow, I had no idea you were smart, you'd never know by looking at you.' WTF is that supposed to mean?!

People are weird.
 
Old 03-16-2013, 03:08 PM
 
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Mildly distrustful, huh?

So you guys work someplace and had a bad experience, and that makes all men azzholes? Makes perfect sense to me.
I've worked at multiple places, lived with men from the time I was 18 (roomates), was in a major where I was one of 4 women in my graduating class and at my last job I was the only woman who had EVER been hired into the department where I worked with 14 other men. If you'd like me to go into more detail, please feel free to DM me.

A bad experience? Try a decade of bad experiences. All men are definitely not azzholes, but I am simply more cautious because of what I've seen and experienced. I don't think it's a bad thing. I have plenty of male friends and they're pretty great for the most part, but dating is a whole different issue.
 
Old 03-16-2013, 05:54 PM
 
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Pretty much. I think many guys (especially the ones who are my age and 'came of age' during the free internet porn beginning) start to associate big breasts with dumb, easy girls. It gets REALLY REALLY irritating when men are surprised that I can hold a good conversation and that I'm fairly intelligent. Just a few weeks ago I had a guy exclaim 'wow, I had no idea you were smart, you'd never know by looking at you.' WTF is that supposed to mean?!

People are weird.
According to him it's a compliment. I bet he was smiling or gigglng like an idiot while he said that.
 
Old 03-16-2013, 06:01 PM
 
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Mildly distrustful, huh?

So you guys work someplace and had a bad experience, and that makes all men azzholes? Makes perfect sense to me.
More like pigs.

One thing I didn't like working around men was that if you have to share a lot of time with them they will hit on you even if they are married. That bother me more than body part jokes. The lack of boundaries. Once you cross that bridge I can never trust you again. Is it really that hard to treat women like human beings and not like pieces of meat?

I think most women big or flat chested can be a victim of that. Maybe bigger more oftem but the others are not immune either.
 
Old 03-16-2013, 08:01 PM
 
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More like pigs.

One thing I didn't like working around men was that if you have to share a lot of time with them they will hit on you even if they are married. That bother me more than body part jokes. The lack of boundaries. Once you cross that bridge I can never trust you again. Is it really that hard to treat women like human beings and not like pieces of meat?

I think most women big or flat chested can be a victim of that. Maybe bigger more oftem but the others are not immune either.
Why do you assume that "men," as in everyone with a Y chromosome, are like this?
 
Old 03-17-2013, 09:13 AM
 
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And, wouldn't you know, now there's even proof:

Men Who Idealize Large Breasts Are More Likely Hostile Toward Women - James Hamblin - The Atlantic

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"men who more strongly endorsed benevolently sexist attitudes toward women, who more strongly objectified women, and who were more hostile toward women idealized a large female breast size."
 
Old 03-17-2013, 10:15 AM
 
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You can tell it's a british study by the size of the computer models. But good, now women with smaller chests can even feel better.
 
Old 03-17-2013, 10:18 AM
 
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Why do you assume that "men," as in everyone with a Y chromosome, are like this?
Because they can get away with that kind of behavior. They will never be labeled sluts and they will eventually find women who will agree with them. No one is gonna go back and tell their wives that John was flirting or screwing his coworker.

I think most cheaters feel zero guilt because culturally men have this "I can't help being a man" mentalitity. They reinforce those believes every time they get together. On top of that many women are willing to put up with cheaters just because they don't want to walk around without a ring.

The main reason for divorce statistically is still infidelity.
 
Old 03-17-2013, 10:53 AM
 
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Because they can get away with that kind of behavior. They will never be labeled sluts and they will eventually find women who will agree with them. No one is gonna go back and tell their wives that John was flirting or screwing his coworker.

I think most cheaters feel zero guilt because culturally men have this "I can't help being a man" mentalitity. They reinforce those believes every time they get together. On top of that many women are willing to put up with cheaters just because they don't want to walk around without a ring.

The main reason for divorce statistically is still infidelity.
Your basic premise is flawed- that most men are cheaters - and that makes everything else way off. The vast majority of married men don't cheat because 1. They can't and 2. They would lose everything in a divorce, because divorce greatly favors women.

Divorce is almost always initiated by women.
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