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My thread on about whether the car a guy drives makes an impression on women brought out some interesting and charged responses. What I thought was obvious in that a guy's presentation makes an impression on women he is seeking to attract, seems to have had a strong reaction. Which left me asking to what extent do women expect men to be image and style conscious, especially given women's emphasis on their self improvement in this area?
You see one of the worst pieces of advice I hear women often give men is "just be yourself". I think the better advice is "be your best self": commit to self improvement and constantly seek to enhance your grooming, appearance, and fitness, along with continuing to develop a better dating skills, lifestyle, and career. And the fundamental distinction between the two approaches is that the "just be yourself" advice suggests "don't worry about it, do nothing, let fate happen" while the other advice requires goals, action, and commitment to self improvement.
But rather than discuss this in the abstract as they say, I thought I would be more interesting to just get your opinion as to how a man's dress and appearance affect a woman's attraction and impression of him. Is this one of those areas where a man should "just be himself" or should he be more style and image conscious?
My thread on about whether the car a guy drives makes an impression on women brought out some interesting and charged responses. What I thought was obvious in that a guy's presentation makes an impression on women he is seeking to attract, seems to have had a strong reaction. Which left me asking to what extent do women expect men to be image and style conscious, especially given women's emphasis on their self improvement in this area?
You see one of the worst pieces of advice I hear women often give men is "just be yourself". I think the better advice is "be your best self": commit to self improvement and constantly seek to enhance your grooming, appearance, and fitness, along with continuing to develop a better dating skills, lifestyle, and career. And the fundamental distinction between the two approaches is that the "just be yourself" advice suggests "don't worry about it, do nothing, let fate happen" while the other advice requires goals, action, and commitment to self improvement.
But rather than discuss this in the abstract as they say, I thought I would be more interesting to just get your opinion as to how a man's dress and appearance affect a woman's attraction and impression of him.
Every guy should have his own 'style' and stick with it. What works for one man doesn't for another.
To put it simply, I don't think the gals at Lowe's who think I'm hot want to see me all smurfed up in goochie clothes. The 'goochie' guy wouldn't even be in there in the first place.
I think what you wear and how you present yourself is extremely important, regardless of gender. I know I get treated A LOT differently when I'm dressed in slacks and a button up shirt with my makeup and hair done vs. no makeup, jeans, tshirt and my hair in a ponytail. It's night and day. Am I any different in those two outfits? Nope, same person.
From my experience, it makes me feel good when another person makes an effort to look presentable for me. It shows they enjoy my company and want to present the best version of themselves. If a guy shows up on a date in ripped jeans and a dirty sweatshirt, he obviously doesn't care much about the date or the impression he's making, but if he shows up in clean clothes (nothing fancy, mind you) it shows that he is taking me, and subsequently our date, seriously.
I've been a conservative dresser since my prep school days in New England. My wife has modified my underwear collection for the better and forbids me to wear loafers, but London is nearby and they make nice casual oxfords and the like.
My thread on about whether the car a guy drives makes an impression on women brought out some interesting and charged responses. What I thought was obvious in that a guy's presentation makes an impression on women he is seeking to attract, seems to have had a strong reaction. Which left me asking to what extent do women expect men to be image and style conscious, especially given women's emphasis on their self improvement in this area?
You see one of the worst pieces of advice I hear women often give men is "just be yourself". I think the better advice is "be your best self": commit to self improvement and constantly seek to enhance your grooming, appearance, and fitness, along with continuing to develop a better dating skills, lifestyle, and career. And the fundamental distinction between the two approaches is that the "just be yourself" advice suggests "don't worry about it, do nothing, let fate happen" while the other advice requires goals, action, and commitment to self improvement.
But rather than discuss this in the abstract as they say, I thought I would be more interesting to just get your opinion as to how a man's dress and appearance affect a woman's attraction and impression of him. Is this one of those areas where a man should "just be himself" or should he be more style and image conscious?
Nah, I disagree with you.
I don't care what a man drives (I finally own my first vehicle under 10 years old), or what his "style" is.
If he's clean and funny, he's my kind of guy.
Suits don't impress me.
I don't even care what he does for a living so long as he's happy with himself.
My thread on about whether the car a guy drives makes an impression on women brought out some interesting and charged responses. What I thought was obvious in that a guy's presentation makes an impression on women he is seeking to attract, seems to have had a strong reaction. Which left me asking to what extent do women expect men to be image and style conscious, especially given women's emphasis on their self improvement in this area?
You see one of the worst pieces of advice I hear women often give men is "just be yourself". I think the better advice is "be your best self": commit to self improvement and constantly seek to enhance your grooming, appearance, and fitness, along with continuing to develop a better dating skills, lifestyle, and career. And the fundamental distinction between the two approaches is that the "just be yourself" advice suggests "don't worry about it, do nothing, let fate happen" while the other advice requires goals, action, and commitment to self improvement.
But rather than discuss this in the abstract as they say, I thought I would be more interesting to just get your opinion as to how a man's dress and appearance affect a woman's attraction and impression of him. Is this one of those areas where a man should "just be himself" or should he be more style and image conscious?
All right dear, just remember one thing; the shiny feathers work for peacock boy, because peacock girls are on greyish side, naturally. The human girls, however, like to wear shiny feathers themselves for a reason.
It all matters IMO. But, walk into a room filled with people you might care to impress, and they don't know where you live or what you drive or what you do for a living. All they can see is your body/mannerisms and your outfit.
My thread on about whether the car a guy drives makes an impression on women brought out some interesting and charged responses. What I thought was obvious in that a guy's presentation makes an impression on women he is seeking to attract, seems to have had a strong reaction. Which left me asking to what extent do women expect men to be image and style conscious, especially given women's emphasis on their self improvement in this area?
You see one of the worst pieces of advice I hear women often give men is "just be yourself". I think the better advice is "be your best self": commit to self improvement and constantly seek to enhance your grooming, appearance, and fitness, along with continuing to develop a better dating skills, lifestyle, and career. And the fundamental distinction between the two approaches is that the "just be yourself" advice suggests "don't worry about it, do nothing, let fate happen" while the other advice requires goals, action, and commitment to self improvement.
But rather than discuss this in the abstract as they say, I thought I would be more interesting to just get your opinion as to how a man's dress and appearance affect a woman's attraction and impression of him. Is this one of those areas where a man should "just be himself" or should he be more style and image conscious?
Flip open a GQ magazine and that's pretty much my wardrobe, even though I'm very athletic.
I have never cared what anyone, especially another dude, thinks about how I dress. I see a style, I like it, and I wear it for me. If a guy has to question my manhood based on my dress, then that speaks more of him than anything. Sorry I'm not a square.
There are women who will like that I wear colored pants, nerd frames, scarfs, blazers, ties with tie bars, matching socks with everything, etc, and then there are girls who don't find that attractive.
Either way, I don't really care.
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