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Old 06-24-2013, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I was responding to another thread and I mentioned a pattern on how and which people approach me based on my outfit. And in general, their outfit can be telling as well.

To make it easy, I will try and use celebrity examples to illustrate the clothing examples.
If I have on a Michelle Obama/Kate Middleton like outfit, here are the types of people who hit on me:
  • well dressed older men: respectful approach
  • sloppily dressed older men: sketchy approach
  • preppy men my age: no discernible pattern, just normal approach
Gym clothes
  • 100% crappy approaches. Almost always something lewd or borderline
Casual outfit sort of like Katie Holmes on the weekend
  • A full range of people and approaches, no discernible pattern
If I "approach," I tend to chat up people who have a sense of style and interesting accessories. You can almost always break the ice by commenting on someone's watch.



What do you notice?


P.S. This isn't gender specific so chime in about who you approach, their outfits and vice versa.
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Old 06-24-2013, 01:05 PM
 
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I can't answer this. I don't know what will make me approach another woman, since I haven't approached anyone in a long time.
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Old 06-24-2013, 10:09 PM
 
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I don't approach people either, and I really don't based on their clothes or accessories.
I don't notice a pattern based on those that approach me either. It depends more on where I am and the environment.
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Old 06-24-2013, 11:35 PM
 
Location: AZ
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In this part of country - no clothes pattern and almost no approaches...Like all men are scared or something...I do not know what is wrong here.
It is different story in one large city in Midwest... A lot of interest from older white collar guys...Very open men, smiling a lot, easy start a conversation...
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Old 06-25-2013, 01:24 AM
 
Location: CA
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I don't notice a difference.

I tend to prefer more offbeat, girly & arty styles, and tend to dress up over dressing down. If I happen to run out in a more low-key look, I may get less looks but don't seem more approachable. Generally, I don't appear to be approachable, for whatever reason (closed demeanor I guess).

Sometimes my clothes are a conversation starter, but much more so with other women.
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Old 06-25-2013, 02:46 AM
 
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I did not pay particular attention to these, as long as they dress can be relatively clean and tidy, I will be willing to talk with them.I think the main character is still the feel to the man.
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Old 06-30-2013, 03:04 PM
 
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I definitely see a difference in who approaches me, based on how I'm dressed.

The more well-dressed, conservatively and professionally my clothing is (elegant dresses; suits; heels, pantyhose)-- , the more the men who approach me are conservative, professional, my age or older and respectful in their approach.

Casual clothing (sundresses, khakis, jeans) brings a mixed bag of men approaching me. They range from the same-age to older, professionals to the more artsy and blue-collar types. They're mostly respectful in their approach, too.

Gym clothes (huge, long t-shirts with yoga pants or spandex shorts) attract the least desirable men, or no men. Often these men don't say anything, but the way they look says it all. The ones who do speak usually have something silly or borderline rude to say. These men often look scuzzy.
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Old 06-30-2013, 03:19 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by aquamarin View Post
In this part of country - no clothes pattern and almost no approaches...Like all men are scared or something...I do not know what is wrong here.
This seems common in much of the US. Two exceptions being: California and NYC.
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