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Now, where is my 20year old daughter's thong bikini? I have had four kids, and a sit down, full time job for 25 years, I am sure that size four thong will fit me, just fine.... - - - look for Jasper12 on the news nest week!
Looks like so many of us have an opinion here, so I might as well add mine.
What bothers me about this issue is the 42-year old mother trying to compare herself to kids her daughter's age. She gets told to cover up, and her response is, basically, "they didn't ask those 16-year olds to cover their string bikinis!" Gee, think of all the things teenagers can get away with that an adult woman can't! It's not fair! She seems like another middle-aged woman showing everyone that she's "still got it." OK whatever you say.
I don't have a problem with appropriate swim attire being judged at the waterpark employee's discretion. I highly doubt the complaint started with the employees, considering (as many of you mentioned) that they see iffy swim attire on guests every day, AND that they are probably afraid of lawsuits over it (like what just happened with this "bikini mom"). Again, like many of you already said, I think she was exposing herself a little too far and inadvertently flashed her nipples a time or two. How could she not while getting out of the water or possibly swimming and jumping around? I personally know because I am larger up top and I have had a couple of mishaps while wearing a swim top that had more coverage than she had (not in a waterpark with people everywhere though!).
Last edited by Tintlelli; 07-10-2013 at 09:44 AM..
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Look, I already posted my opinion about this incident. However, I'd be remiss if I didn't mention the "ick factor." It's hard to explain, but you know it when you see it. Think Joan Crawford in Berserk (although she was playing a character). Women with class seem to know when it's time to cover up a certain area. Even figure skaters in their thirties begin to wear longer, kerchief-hemmed, flowy, skirts when performing. That's because they have class. Unlike, for example, Madonna, who continues to strut across the stage with bitchy aplomb wearing virtually nothing (except bullet-proof fishnets) on the botton. Yuck.
I don't know that I'm comfortable with it being okay to toss customers out of establishments for arbitrary, non-posted reasons that don't apply to all patrons, and everyone being held to a different and individual standard. I don't like the idea of, "You're okay to do this, wear this, etc....but you? You're not." Bad precedent.
This reminds me of the unofficial police forces that some Muslim countries have that go around looking for women who sexually arouse them or whom they think are shameless, and force them to cover up. It is a pretty common belief in religions like Christianity, and to a greater extent Islam, that women use their physical form to harm men's souls. I can only assume these water park employees are cut from that sort of cloth since there is no evidence that she was acting sexually or otherwise provocatively.
And what does it matter if it didn't fit well? Fashion is not the arbiter of morality.
While I echo what some of the other posters said about her top being a bit too small, I don't see why they wanted her to wear a pair of shorts over her bottoms (the initial request). Even if the top was a bit too small, it doesn't look like it warranted the need to cover up with a t-shirt, as was requested by the supervisor.
Again, what can be said about what's age-appropriate or not is subjective, and there's not a water park in existence that says "if you're over X years old, you can't wear string bikinis." If there were, there would be age discrimination lawsuits galore. While it might sound a little bit petty to compare her body with younger ones, she does have a point. It's kind of like seeing somebody who, well, doesn't really have a body that a bikini flatters well wearing one when compared to somebody who is in shape. It might look like, ick, but you don't throw somebody out just because they don't have a physique best suited for a bikini.
I wonder if there is more to this story than what's being reported. As it stands now, I think the park was completely in the wrong, but I am curious if there are more details that haven't been released. Remember, news outlets aren't the best at being in-depth with their stories.
And also, something else that I just thought about is the part where she said she lost over 100 lbs. Maybe she was a heavy woman her entire life and this is the first time that she ever felt like she had the body to wear a bikini in public. Maybe during her 20s, she didn't have that chance because she was heavy. I'm into fitness, and I know many women who don't get in shape until their late 30s or sometimes their early 40s, and they can run circles around women in their 20s.
I found it puzzling that the initial request was for her to put on a pair of shorts, as the bikini top looked a lot more problematic than the bottom. I wonder if she may have been..er.. hiking the bottom to expose more skin to the sun, and basically giving herself wedgie (front and rear?) or something?
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Going to a water park is not a legal right. However, they have a right to set standards of dress. I guess the problem might be age or size discrimination, but that's a stretch, & the same percent of skin was not being shown (this woman's fake boobs were barely covered; I doubt the teenage girls were as exposed in their string bikinis). I think as a business they have a right to maintain a certain kind of environment for the benefit of their business, & that can include rules about the dress of their patrons.
That said, she wasn't wearing anything you wouldn't see at a beach, and while tasteless, it was not shocking & didn't warrant being kicked out with a police escort. But it's not MY business. The water park can do what they want.
Sorry lady but there is a double standard. Your boobs are way too big for that top to be at a water park. Sunbathing at a beach or motel pool, okay. But at a Family water park? No way. First trip down a water slide or in a wave pool and that top is coming off. Happens all the time. In a mosh pit of a crowded wave pool some kids will try to yank them off "accidentally." You should know better.
I'm all for her being happy in her skin and showing off her bod but there's a time and a place and there was not it. And you'll never get them to put in writing that chicks with DD+ boobs can't wear string bikinis. They should probably just ban them entirely. Her being older and not young and taut added to her perceived demerits. Some other fatter moms probably saw her strut around looking too proud and prissy and complained.
Last edited by Tourian; 07-10-2013 at 02:54 PM..
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the "bikini mom"
She seems like another middle-aged woman showing everyone that she's "still got it." OK whatever you say. 
