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Old 07-20-2013, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Wonderland
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I agree that if you're going to be a guest somewhere, you should dress to show respect for the occasion, not to impress others.

Like you, OP, I do a lot of projects around the house, which involve painting, working in the yard, etc. I have a plastic bin I keep my "project clothes" in - a few T shirts and shorts that are splattered with paint, or have some other damage to them. I have no problem wearing them to WalMart or the hardware store IF I've already got them on, in the middle of a project, but I would never put them on INSTEAD of putting on clean, neat, well maintained clothes if I was going somewhere - even the grocery store.
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Old 07-20-2013, 10:25 AM
 
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If someone invites you to dinner, it shows a little respect to at least put on clean clothes that look decent when you go to that person's house. They may have gone to a lot of trouble to fix a good meal for you and to show up looking like a bum shows (IMO) a lack of respect for their hospitality. And if you are dirty and poorly groomed, double that.
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Old 07-20-2013, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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If the hole is where one can't see it, or can't be mended, then I may wear it, anyway. Stains, however, are almost always a deterrent for me and I'll throw the articles away if the dry-cleaner can't remove them. I do have one aqua-colored shirt that I love, and I was upset when I noticed a dime-shaped stain on my boob. It faded but is still there. I wear it, anyway, and it shouldn't be noticeable unless someone's staring at the girls.
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Old 07-20-2013, 07:33 PM
 
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I got 2 pair of shorts from goodwill today. I like goodwill for some things, because it's easier than walking around the mall for an hour. everything is on a rack together, so it saves time.

i'm going to buy a bunch more clothes in the next couple weeks. i will pay a lot for some stuff, like i have have shoes and jeans for over $100 a pair. but those are staples. i don't consider shorts staples. i'm going to get a bunch of new t shirts and tennis shoes, then in the fall get some fall stuff. i also think goodwill is great for hoodies. you can see how they look and fit after they are washed. my favorite red hoodie is from goodwill. i couldn't ever find a new hoodie as good as it.
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Old 07-20-2013, 07:44 PM
 
Location: La lune et les étoiles
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In the last few months I have been going out wearing shorts with stains that don't wash out (nothing gross) or shorts with bleach marks and small holes. I also have been wearing tennis shoes that are really old, dirty or washed a few times and jeans with paint on them. I have a t shirt I like but it got a few holes when it was washed, but I've still worn it a bunch of times. I can afford new clothes, but I haven't bothered to buy much and I just feel like no one comments, so no one cares or notices. I have even gone over to people's houses for dinner with stained clothes and they don't seem to care. Do you think I have crossed the line and need to dress a little nicer? I'm kind of waiting for someone I know to say something.
This is SO RUDE! Your friends and family shouldn't have to tell an adult how to be socially appropriate. I actually had a huge fight with a friend who had the audacity to show up at my house for a dinner party with wet hair and dressed for a day of dirty chores. Its a form of disrespect for those around you. If someone makes the effort to create a lovely meal and a beautiful environment in which to enjoy it, then the least that the guest can do is put on decent clothes out of respect.
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Old 07-22-2013, 10:33 PM
 
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This is SO RUDE! Your friends and family shouldn't have to tell an adult how to be socially appropriate. I actually had a huge fight with a friend who had the audacity to show up at my house for a dinner party with wet hair and dressed for a day of dirty chores. Its a form of disrespect for those around you. If someone makes the effort to create a lovely meal and a beautiful environment in which to enjoy it, then the least that the guest can do is put on decent clothes out of respect.

calm down. it wasn't a dinner party. it was a last min casual dinner on a tues nite. she didn't even start cooking when i got there. i helped prepare the food and clean up. we used some paper plates. i didn't look bad. if you looked close my shorts were lightly stained, so it would be hard to notice. .
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Old 07-22-2013, 10:47 PM
 
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I think you should dress the way you want to dress. If it was a casual dinner with friends, who cares? I wear what is comfortable, which many times is an old, worn (comfortable!) T-shirt with maybe a couple of holes in it. If I've been cleaning it might have some bleached splatters on it. I will run to the store or whatever without changing. I figure if anyone doesn't like it, then that's their problem, not mine. I'm not trying to impress anyone.

I have thought about it many times, and even if I were a multi-millionaire, I would dress the same way. I am going to wear what is comfortable to me and I don't care who likes it. If it is an interview, a meeting, a wedding, a funeral, etc. - that's different. But just everyday clothes? Doesn't matter.
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Old 07-23-2013, 12:00 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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I think it's safe to say that at least a few people who know you have commented about your stained/hole-y clothes behind your back. And some people are likely judging you and making assumptions about you, because of your little social experiment. Even if a t-shirt is clean, for example, if it is stained people will assume it's dirty and make assumptions about your level of hygiene. You also could be giving people the impression that you are sloppy or a slob.

I have to agree with everyone who says it was rude to wear stained clothes to that 'casual' dinner party, if you had more presentable options.

It's a problematic topic, since there are people who simply cannot afford new or gently used clothing in good condition, and their 'sunday best' might well be stained or ragged. But I also feel that if you have clothing that is in better shape, it's appropriate to wear it.

I also don't see why damaged/stained clothing is automatically more "comfortable" than new or unstained clothing.
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Old 07-23-2013, 12:01 AM
 
Location: Floribama
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If the hole is where one can't see it, or can't be mended, then I may wear it, anyway. Stains, however, are almost always a deterrent for me and I'll throw the articles away if the dry-cleaner can't remove them. I do have one aqua-colored shirt that I love, and I was upset when I noticed a dime-shaped stain on my boob. It faded but is still there. I wear it, anyway, and it shouldn't be noticeable unless someone's staring at the girls.
Ugh! I saw a woman in a store wearing an old dingy white t-shirt that had these weird brown stains on the chest. It looked like her boobs were leaking (I know she wasn't nursing). Surely she must have seen that but didn't care, I don't think she was wearing a bra either.
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Old 07-23-2013, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I think it's safe to say that at least a few people who know you have commented about your stained/hole-y clothes behind your back. And some people are likely judging you and making assumptions about you, because of your little social experiment. Even if a t-shirt is clean, for example, if it is stained people will assume it's dirty and make assumptions about your level of hygiene. You also could be giving people the impression that you are sloppy or a slob.

I have to agree with everyone who says it was rude to wear stained clothes to that 'casual' dinner party, if you had more presentable options.

It's a problematic topic, since there are people who simply cannot afford new or gently used clothing in good condition, and their 'sunday best' might well be stained or ragged. But I also feel that if you have clothing that is in better shape, it's appropriate to wear it.

I also don't see why damaged/stained clothing is automatically more "comfortable" than new or unstained clothing.
People like to use "comfortable" as an excuse to be sloppy. It's just as easy to pull on clothes that aren't torn and stained. That's a choice that you're making.

I'm no saint, and I've run to the store in clothes that I wouldn't wear to work, but if I was out working in my yard and my neighbor said, "hey, come over! we're cooking out!" I'd certainly change into something not covered in dirt and grass clippings first.
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