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Old 08-21-2013, 03:10 AM
 
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So that all of you know , she said thank you and went about her business , she just thought it odd that a total stranger would say that to her is all . It was just brought up in casual conversation and i was just wondering how other people might have reacted to that . I just love how some of the posters went off track here . I was just curious is all there was to it .
years ago, men could say and do alot of things, and it wasnt so creepy,,

i helped a lady carry her bags of groceries to the car one day- it was hot and she was pregnant and dropped a bag..the contents went all over the parking lot... i saw that and helped her gather her stuff, and "insisted" i carry them to her car.... when we got to the car, she didnt say anything-,but then said " I was taught growing up , never to trust men, and beware of the smiling wolves." thats why i didnt want your help.at first ..but truly,,,thank you so much,,


however if i had a young daughter, id be warning her that their are kooks in this world, mostly men..
and if a guy said she smelled good,,and nothing more, id hope she'd take it as a compliment.. and move on..


personally, i wont compliment any younger women anymore,,
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Old 08-21-2013, 06:24 AM
 
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"Good Lord you smell good " is a bit overbearing and pings my skeez-o-meter. I'd probably say thank you, not make eye contact, and definitely not smile... don't encourage the stalker.

All sorts of ways to compliment someone politely without coming off all creepy.
That's sad. I feel bad for you.
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Old 08-21-2013, 09:47 AM
 
Location: Central Texas
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Heck, by my twenties (earlier, really) I knew how to distinguish a creep from a nice guy, and how to accept a simple compliment. It was something that young ladies were taught as a matter of course back in the Bad Old Days when people could actually compliment a stranger and there were accepted ways to responding.

As for the exact wording, depends on where in the country you are whether it's over the top of not. Intonation is important, as well.

"Thank you" and a smile, and moving on (or not), depending on your perception of the speaker and whether or not that leads you to want to continue the encounter, is appropriate.
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Old 08-21-2013, 09:51 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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It happened to my daughter the other day and she said she did not know how to react . She said thank you and left the store . I was wondering if this might have happened to any other women out there ? just curious and how you reacted .
Count me in the smaller group who thinks it sounds overly excited. I think it's the "good Lord" part. But I'm only reading your retelling of what happened to your daughter, so all the context is lost. On paper, it sounds weird to me, but there's really no way to judge the comment without being there. "I like your perfume" is fine ... she was wearing perfume, right? Because if she wasn't, he was standing too close, which could have unsettled her.
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Old 08-21-2013, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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What a nice compliment! I would just accept it as such, and say thank you.
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Old 08-21-2013, 10:22 AM
 
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It happened to my daughter the other day and she said she did not know how to react . She said thank you and left the store . I was wondering if this might have happened to any other women out there ? just curious and how you reacted .
Maybe she smelled good?

It happens to men as well. Of course, men are supposed to take that as a compliment while women tend to see it as any but that.

Curious, don't women wear perfume or scents so that others can smell them? Isn't the whole purpose of wearing a perfume or scent so that others will smell the perfume or scent and not something else? If so, why would any comment about the smell be a concern?

It did happen to my daughter once. I thought about it and realized that if a daughter is so young that comments about her smell or appearance bother the parent then perhaps they are too young to be dressing in that manner or wearing perfume. The solution was simple, better choices on the part of both parent and child.

How old is your daughter and is it appropriate for her to wear perfume? I know that these days many mothers often feel it is appropriate for young girls to dress far beyond their age. Of course it seems to that many fathers never other to look or be aware of that either.
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Old 08-21-2013, 10:25 AM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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I've been complimented many times by strangers re: the fragrance I was wearing. And I've complimented strangers of both sexes on the same thing.

It makes my day to receive a compliment from a stranger. My response is to say, "Thank you very much!" and then I go on with my day, smiling.

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Old 08-21-2013, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Curious, don't women wear perfume or scents so that others can smell them? Isn't the whole purpose of wearing a perfume or scent so that others will smell the perfume or scent and not something else? If so, why would any comment about the smell be a concern?

It did happen to my daughter once. I thought about it and realized that if a daughter is so young that comments about her smell or appearance bother the parent then perhaps they are too young to be dressing in that manner or wearing perfume. The solution was simple, better choices on the part of both parent and child.

How old is your daughter and is it appropriate for her to wear perfume? I know that these days many mothers often feel it is appropriate for young girls to dress far beyond their age. Of course it seems to that many fathers never other to look or be aware of that either.
Um, no. People wear perfume because they like it. Or they think it smells nice? Not much to do with everyone else thinks. There is no age limit on perfume. My mom let me "dress up" by putting on her perfume when I was 5.

Why does everything women do have to be about attracting men or male attention? Sheesh!
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Old 08-21-2013, 12:00 PM
 
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Seriously? This IS sad. Why is this thread 6 pages long?

See everyone, this is what all the tablets, droids, iPods does to you. A man complimented someone and now he is either flirting or a stalker. People don't even seem to want to be bothered with anything other than a smartphone these days. If they aren't someone you know and they talk to you, they are a stalker? Really? That's how you make friends, by talking to new people.

Oh boy. If it is this bad now, I'm afraid to think how bad it will be whenever I have kids.
Just sad.
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Old 08-21-2013, 12:18 PM
 
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It happened to my daughter the other day and she said she did not know how to react . She said thank you and left the store . I was wondering if this might have happened to any other women out there ? just curious and how you reacted .
I'd react with surprise, considering all the poo I keep on my person.
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