How do you tell a woman she would look better if (color, legs)

[easternerDC]

Originally Posted by HuntFishRepeat

How do you tell someone you are dating she might want to try a stylish hair cut and some make-up ?
Now, I'm no fashion expert by any stretch, but a woman I dated was a tall" Amazon" type that never liked to cut her hair or wear hardly any make up.
I never suggested anything but, sure thought about it....
Has anyone ever done it with any success. ?

You don't. Unless you want someone telling you that you should change your looks.

[Halo_in_reverse]

Originally Posted by HuntFishRepeat

How do you tell someone you are dating she might want to try a stylish hair cut and some make-up ?

I'm just curious why you would feel a need to control how she looks? Do you think it is somehow a reflection on you? Do you have a need to control women in other areas too?

Could you secretly be a misogynist? Was your mother a super feminine type who wore lots of makeup and was overly concerned with her appearance?

Besides, you would hate to be broached with comments such as,
"you might want to try a different line of work, the on you have isn't making you much money"
"you might want to try a different position in bed, the one you're doing is turning me off"
"you might want to try dumping that bozo best friend of yours, he makes you look bad"
"you might want to try going on a diet, that gut of yours is very unattractive"
"you might want to try different clothing, the clothes you have are ugly"

Can you see how that would come across as controlling and quite honestly very rude and condescending, not at all loving and supportive?

[convextech]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

I've been asked if I was pre-op or post-op by several people

That is so hurtful!!! I'm not sure I couldn't have been ugly about it, back at them.

[trundle]

MY woman is ALWAYS the most lovely of all, and I make certain that she knows that I think so, but of course, I made sure she WAS, before I married her. :-)

[convextech]

To the OP, if you don't like the way she looks, just throw her back

Repeat.

[HuntFishRepeat]

Boy did I open a can of worms ... First of all , I don't think I am controlling at all. I'm a very laid back person that tries really hard not to judge. I new telling her this could be hurtful so I kept my mouth shut.
I think we all know someone that has made an improvement in their appearance at some time.
I guess its one of those things if they don't ask for help don't offer....

[North Beach Person]

Originally Posted by HuntFishRepeat

How do you tell someone you are dating she might want to try a stylish hair cut and some make-up ?
Now, I'm no fashion expert by any stretch, but a woman I dated was a tall" Amazon" type that never liked to cut her hair or wear hardly any make up.
I never suggested anything but, sure thought about it....
Has anyone ever done it with any success. ?

If she had these issues what attracted you to her in the first place? They apparently didn't deter you from asking her out and I guess continue to see her.

[Rhenzanite]

Originally Posted by convextech

That is so hurtful!!! I'm not sure I couldn't have been ugly about it, back at them.

I said 'pre op' and grabbed my crotch.

Like a lady.

I miss my early 20s when I could get away with stuff like that

[North Beach Person]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

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Tall women do have to be careful. I've been asked if I was pre-op or post-op by several people

Honest to God, where do you meet these people that say some of this stuff to you?

[Jukesgrrl]

The only thing I've ever tried (mostly with relatives) is to point out another person who has the look you think they should aim for and say, "Look at that woman in the blue coat. Her haircut is really attractive. That style would look good on you." You'll probably get told WHY it isn't appropriate for the person-who-never-changes-their-look. But at least you've kept it in the positive realm and didn't state that there was anything wrong with the person in question. And if you are met with a defensive attack like, "SO! You think there's some thing wrong with me??" you'll know you're dealing with psychological issues such as fear of change.