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Old 09-20-2013, 08:48 PM
 
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Who said anything about me being annoyed by the responses??
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:54 PM
 
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I'm shocked that you guys say it's not appropriate. I mean, I didn't wear it by itself. I showed the outfit to everyone at my house nobody thought it would've been inappropriate! I basically wore a suit with the cami inside.
If this was a traditional, professional or office-type position, then you probably should've worn something a little more conservative. Yes, it was under a suit. But the point of that cami is to appear sexy in the cut of it (low) and the material (lacy like undergarments) and the fit (tight). When interviewing for a professional position, you want to play up your professionalism, not your looks. This is especially true if you are young. We were always taught in our final semesters of college as we were starting to interview that the younger you look, the more important it is to dress a little MORE professionally than average in order to be taken seriously.
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Old 09-20-2013, 11:52 PM
 
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As others said, it's not necessarily appropriate for an interview for a conservative office position, if that's what it was. I think wearing it under a jacket to the actual job would be fine, but for an interview you need to go a bit more conservative.
That said - it was unprofessional of the interviewer to stare at your chest regardless of what you were wearing. And it's very likely he's just a creep who would've done the same even if you wore a turtleneck. AND, honestly i don't think something like that would be a make-or-break factor for getting the job if you're qualified, unless it's a VERY buttoned-up environment. If anything, maybe the guy would give you the job just because he liked your chest, haha.
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Old 09-21-2013, 06:07 AM
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I don't want to hurt your feelings but unless you were interviewing for a porn movie, you missed the mark.

An early boss of mine once stated "you can never be to dressed up for business." Doubly so for interviews. If you are interviewing for a serious job, spend money on a suit. Traditional blouse and sme moderate heels. Please don't wear pants to an interview.

I sit in on almost all interviews in my organization. Every time the boss lady starts the post interview discussion she first addresses the interview outfit.

Not style but attention to detail, judgement, what message was being sent, what message was received.

Face it, men want attractive women, but not slutty. Women don't want to be threatened. Yeah, that is not PC, but it is true.

The outfit is nice and has lots of uses. Interviews are not one.
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Old 09-21-2013, 07:03 AM
 
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Possibly it looked fine standing up, but when you sat down the front of the jacket might have opened up a little and the whole thing could have become pretty revealing. I am not busty, but recently realized that this can happen with an otherwise appropriate outfit when sitting (someone at work actually pointed it out to me). Just FYI I wore a similar outfit to a bunch of job interviews several years ago, but I don't think I would do it now.
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Old 09-21-2013, 07:31 AM
 
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Honestly, I would wear (and have worn) layering camis under suit jackets in professional settings, before, and they are commonplace as business casual at my work as well when they are used as layering pieces. The main issue is making sure they are not low-cut/showing cleavage. But other than that, a flat-front layering piece is considered acceptable. BUT...I do NOT work in a traditional office setting, and never have.

I think it greatly depends on the type of setting and profession...more conservative workplaces in various fields may maintain a very (literally) buttoned up standard of dress, and it would be frowned upon to wear anything but a standard button blouse under a suit jacket. I work in education, and interview teachers all the time who wear more casual tops like the one pictured as layers. In most academic settings, nobody expects teachers to suit up on the job, and while you generally ramp it up for the interview, it's still not really a formal "suit" type setting. And while "camisole" previously strictly denoted a piece of lingerie in the age of my grandmothers, the ones on the market now are designed as layering pieces, and are not sold as underwear...they are simply knit tops without sleeves, made to be worn under jackets and cardigans.

The lesson here is to do your homework and know your audience, and dress accordingly, erring on the side of slightly more conservative than you think would be expected. Understand that even a more casual dress workplace, the rule of thumb is to go more businesslike for the interview than you think you need to. You wouldn't write a cover letter and open it with "Hey! What's up? I'm looking for a job!" You put your most formal, professional foot forward, and you should with a job interview, too.


The lesson here is also that the interviewer was inappropriate, and probably would have been a letch even if you'd come in wearing a turtleneck.
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Old 09-21-2013, 07:37 AM
 
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I don't want to hurt your feelings but unless you were interviewing for a porn movie, you missed the mark.

An early boss of mine once stated "you can never be to dressed up for business." Doubly so for interviews. If you are interviewing for a serious job, spend money on a suit. Traditional blouse and sme moderate heels. Please don't wear pants to an interview.

I sit in on almost all interviews in my organization. Every time the boss lady starts the post interview discussion she first addresses the interview outfit.

Not style but attention to detail, judgement, what message was being sent, what message was received.

Face it, men want attractive women, but not slutty. Women don't want to be threatened. Yeah, that is not PC, but it is true.

The outfit is nice and has lots of uses. Interviews are not one.
Mmm, no.

Even if your credibility hadn't already been shot one sentence in (the outfit in question is in nobody's world porn material), it would have been by the time anybody read as far as "don't wear pants to an interview," and "boss lady." Good try, though.
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Old 09-21-2013, 08:44 AM
 
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I had an interview today and the guy doing the interview kept glancing at my chest the whole time. I didn't think I was wearing something inappropriate, I mean, I'm not even big chested! Here's what I wore with a Jacket and Pants.

Lace Trim Cami | Ann Taylor

Is it not appropriate???
I work in New York City, the world capital of corporations. This kind of dress with a suit jacket is normal office wear among the women in the city, though women generally up the ante and are super-corporate stylish. The lace may have been too much if you had DDD breasts that were trying to grapple out of an airtight bra for freedom. The fact that the interviewer was checking out your inmates is sort of inappropriate.

But don't feel bad and don't let others make you feel bad. Some of them may be old and may be speaking from a conservative/sexist Mobile, Alabama point of view.
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Old 09-21-2013, 09:12 AM
 
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I don't want to hurt your feelings but unless you were interviewing for a porn movie, you missed the mark.

An early boss of mine once stated "you can never be to dressed up for business." Doubly so for interviews. If you are interviewing for a serious job, spend money on a suit. Traditional blouse and sme moderate heels. Please don't wear pants to an interview.

I sit in on almost all interviews in my organization. Every time the boss lady starts the post interview discussion she first addresses the interview outfit.

Not style but attention to detail, judgement, what message was being sent, what message was received.

Face it, men want attractive women, but not slutty. Women don't want to be threatened. Yeah, that is not PC, but it is true.

The outfit is nice and has lots of uses. Interviews are not one.
AH...no. I work in a professional setting, and pants on women are quite appropriate for an interview. Absolutely fine. Now, perhaps in a BANK, since they generally tend to be much stricter, that might not be the case. However I agree that the cami should not have been worn as a shirt. It should only be worn UNDER a blouse.
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Old 09-21-2013, 09:17 AM
 
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What's funny is that the guy was wearing jeans and his favorite sports team t-shirt, which made me feel overdressed for the interview. I think he said it was casual Friday...And then he started talking about the sport season that is coming up... And I had no idea what he was talking about.
I can't do small talks on a sport related subject and I wore a lace camis; maybe this job wasn't meant to be mine after all.

Oh well.
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