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Old 09-21-2013, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Northern Minnesota
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Whether you're shocked, annoyed, or otherwise, your response indicated a sense of disappointment in the answers you received. Why would you be shocked if you were merely just looking for opinions? Posters are claiming you're annoyed because it seems you were apparently expecting certain answers. You can't ask for advice and get defensive when the answers aren't to your liking. Sometimes posters will agree while others will not. Either way, you need to be open to accept that people are giving advice as a means to help you, even if it's not what you expected. Otherwise you're wasting people's time if they're just giving honest opinions on a question you proposed to them.
EXACTLY!
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Old 09-21-2013, 11:45 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I had an interview today and the guy doing the interview kept glancing at my chest the whole time. I didn't think I was wearing something inappropriate, I mean, I'm not even big chested! Here's what I wore with a Jacket and Pants.

Lace Trim Cami | Ann Taylor

Is it not appropriate???
Unless it was at some trendy-ish clothes store at the mall, I'd so no, it wasn't a good choice.
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Old 09-21-2013, 02:16 PM
 
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Maybe in your case, not sure what kind of job you have. Pants on women are certainly fine business attire. But not a good idea for an interview...based on my 30+ years of experience.

Maybe I work in too lofty an area but I can assure you, the ONLY acceptable interview outfit is business suit, short heels, hose, and conservative blouse. Of course, I am not interviewing or sitting in on interviews for Walmart associates, either. Banking, investments, high level insurance, etc.

If you are applying for Google, wear a bikini, as long as you can code. Or a flannel shirt. Or grungies. Or a cami, or even a camo cami!
That is exactly what I said. Banks (and investment companies) DO tend to have much higher standards. So for YOUR area, pants don't fly, I agree. They ABSOLUTELY DO in most other offices. As for hose, banking is about the only industry I know that still enforces (or encourages) wearing them.
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Old 09-21-2013, 02:38 PM
 
Location: La lune et les étoiles
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I find it strange that some people are not grasping the obvious. An interview is chance for someone to put their best foot forward. It is far better to dress more conservatively than not. The interviewee should be attempting to make the best possible impression and not attempting to make a fashion statement. I have eliminated candidates from consideration based upon 'inappropriate' attire.
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Old 09-21-2013, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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MAJOR Questions:
  1. Where were you applying
  2. What type of post did you apply for
  3. Was the dress code mentioned along with the letter or Email you received from the company prior to the interview
  4. Was the guy who interviewed you from India (A number Indian men have the nasty habit of staring and groping at women. Sad state of my motherland )
Personally, I would have suggested you wore something similar to the link shown below with a black jacket if you want to wear a tank and look professional:

Top:
Theory Braiden Top | SHOPBOP

P.S. Guys, the model really hot .
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Old 09-22-2013, 12:04 AM
 
Location: Florida Gulf Coast
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No, absolutely not appropriate. Anything with that much skin showing is not appropriate for an interview. Hey, maybe all the women in NY wear them, but that's AFTER they have the job. In fact, when I worked in CA, I was shocked at the amount of cleavage displayed in the office, but many times it was women in sales positions who were using it as a strategy on their male customers (LOL).

The fact that the cami is paired with jeans in the ad should have tipped you off that it's not a business look, even if the ad claims it can be worn under a jacket. Anyway, good luck with the job and who knows, maybe it WILL help! (Although the interviewer sounds like kind of a geek.)
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Old 09-22-2013, 01:05 AM
 
Location: Kansas City, MO
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I had an interview today and the guy doing the interview kept glancing at my chest the whole time. I didn't think I was wearing something inappropriate, I mean, I'm not even big chested! Here's what I wore with a Jacket and Pants.

Lace Trim Cami | Ann Taylor

Is it not appropriate???
Wow. Not appropriate. That "shirt" looks like lingerie. First I halfway seriously thought maybe he was looking at you like "if you have sex with me, you can have the job" or just had wandering eyes, and then once I saw the shirt in your link I knew why he was glancing at you that way.
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Old 09-22-2013, 06:57 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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You seem to know it all, sweetie, don't see why you posted but pretty sure I know why you did not get the job,
Uh, what job?

I've been continuously employed since I graduated from college in the nineties (and, shockingly, not in the porn industry, DESPITE my wearing camisole tops as layering pieces!). I'm not the person who made the original post. Sweetie.
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Old 09-22-2013, 07:04 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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I do also feel, with the additional information given, that a workplace that sends in an interviewer who is wearing jeans and a football jersey "because it's casual Friday" and stares at women's chests in the course of the interview is probably NOT a place that needs to be too picky about interviewees wearing demure button-ups. It sounds like a workplace that is neither particularly conservative nor particularly classy.

OP, I would treat that as a barometer of whether or not it's a place you'd really even want to work. Remember, employers are putting THEIR best foot forward, too, and YOU'RE getting a first impression, as well as you being the one giving one of yourself.

It's easy to forget in a tough economy, where everyone seems to think that since it's an employers' market right now, that justifies any behavior on the part of the employer. The fact is, you're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you, and if it's an atmosphere you wouldn't be happy in, why bother taking the job, anyway? And, sending in this dressed-down clown with his gross behavior as the first person you meet, to give you a first impression of the company, should tell you a lot about the company.
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Old 09-22-2013, 07:13 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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[*]Was the guy who interviewed you from India (A number Indian men have the nasty habit of staring and groping at women. Sad state of my motherland )
Why in the world is this a "major question?" Even if it WERE the case that the interviewer happened to be Indian, would that justify it? No.

OP, take the whole thing as a lesson that you need to slightly overdress for any interview, just to be on the safe side...or, if you prefer more casual environs, look for less conservative atmospheres in which to work than the standard large office setting (if that's where you were interviewing). But you'll still want to up your game during the interview process, and dress more formally than you think you would need to on the job.

When I worked for a newspaper, our sportswriters typically came to work in nylon running pants and tees. But when they interviewed, they wore suits. At my current workplace, the dress code for most positions (mine is administrative team, so it's different/business casual) is jeans, tennis shoes, and shirts with the school logo. But nobody would interview wearing any of those things, just because it's an informal dress workplace. They wear standard business attire. Nobody would be docked in an interview for wearing a top like the one you posted under a suit jacket, unless it were very low-cut and revealing of cleavage (it's an alternative school setting for behaviorally disordered youth, mostly teen boys with disabilities, so we tend to keep the necklines high). But different workplaces are going to have different expectations. When you have an interview set up, ask ahead of time what the overall workplace dress code is, and then you can tailor your interview outfit to fit that/possibly bump it up a notch.
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