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Old 10-20-2013, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Planet Earth
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without sounding like a boastful wanker, I have "it".

My niece who is very much like me also has "it", as does her father (my brother).

The rest of the family, while arguably much better looking, just blend into a crowd. I do sometimes wonder if it's just the twinkle in our eye - we all love a good laugh.

Maybe it's genetic, maybe its something about the way you carry yourself. I don't know. What seems fairly standard is, if you have "it" you don't usually know until someone tells you.

Even the charismatic, hell, especially the charismatic, attract criticism and spite.
It's the CONFIDENCE.

With Ms Penny it's her candidness. I think she is beautiful, more beautiful than I could ever be!!!
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Old 10-20-2013, 05:03 PM
 
Location: locked in a castle
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o_o What happens if you're attractive and are socially awkward?
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Old 10-20-2013, 07:32 PM
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there are plenty of girls that get dolled up everyday, otherwise they wouldnt look all that attractive (well to me anyways, everyone sees it differently).

i like a girl that is cute/hot/attractive without makeup
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Old 10-20-2013, 10:04 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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It's all about charisma. If you have attractive futures but zero charisma, people will soon forget how attractive you are. On the other hand, if you are just decent looking but very charismatic, people tend to be very attracted to you. If you are both attractive and charismatic, you're golden
Agreed. Charisma/personality are key.


I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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Old 10-20-2013, 10:16 PM
 
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o_o What happens if you're attractive and are socially awkward?
I am unattractive and socially awkward, but I think it goes better for attractive people. As a society beautiful or attractive people are viewed more favorably.
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Old 10-20-2013, 10:17 PM
 
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there are plenty of girls that get dolled up everyday, otherwise they wouldnt look all that attractive (well to me anyways, everyone sees it differently).

i like a girl that is cute/hot/attractive without makeup
There are some who have been blessed that way.
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Old 10-20-2013, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Northern CA
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Have you ever met someone who is not so beautiful, by society's' standards, but somehow they are attractive?

What are their secrets?

Here is an example:


4,2013-Penny Locker - YouTube
My example would be Benecio del Toro. Could be considered downright ugly by some, but there is something very sexy about him. He's got IT File:Benicio del Toro2.jpg - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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Old 10-20-2013, 11:19 PM
 
Location: Northern CA
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I am unattractive and socially awkward, but I think it goes better for attractive people. As a society beautiful or attractive people are viewed more favorably.
Naturally beautiful people have their own burdens to bear. They don't have to try so hard, so they don't get that sense of accomplishment, they are hit on all the time, boyfriends or girlfriends are insecure and jealous, females are often victims of stalking or worse.
I really think it's better to be average, so we are judged on our personality and who we are, by those that matter, rather than looks that are surface and will inevitably fade.
I'm always surprised to learn of a beautiful person that also has smarts, ambition, and depth of character. I think that's a rare combination.
The worst is those that aren't born pretty, but make themselves attractive thru artifical means and props. Fake people are self-centered and shallow, so those are the type of people they will attract.
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Old 10-20-2013, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Northern CA
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I just watched your video, very touching. She is a beautiful person! How she is treated is a reflection on our society, and it's very sad.
There was a man I frequently saw walking downtown, years ago, with an affliction of having warts all over his face and body. I felt for him. I wonder why we don't see people with such handicaps more often mingling with us - that is what we need, desentization. I don't even see any blind people anymore with the white cane. Where are they?
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Old 10-21-2013, 12:59 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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I am in my twenties now, and since I was a pre teen I have been told by several kids and or much older people that I have it and am fairly attractive, though many times I did not buy it. But I have been lucky in that regard, knock on wood. Does not make my life any better, in fact I am improving my life by making changes.

But I have been attracted to people whom objectively were not that good looking, but I found them attractive.
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