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View Poll Results: Ladies only: how comfortable are you when guys (strangers, hot or not) stare at you?
I'm comfortable; it doesn't bother me 6 26.09%
I'm uncomfortable; it bothers me. 14 60.87%
I don't care. 3 13.04%
Voters: 23. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 10-26-2013, 05:06 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I dont mind being glanced at and smiled at . But when it become oggling then it is uncomfortable . I go to the beach and I wear a one piece and some guys still stare and they stare when i go to the pool so I just get up and leave if im uncomfortable . Im not leaving the beach though there is a reason we drive an hour to the beach and that is too enjoy it not get up and leave . so put your eyes back in your head fellas glad we could give you a treat or show now time to go home .
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Old 10-26-2013, 08:23 AM
 
Location: Melbourne, Australia
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I don't really STARE at women, I mean I look, but to stare and make it obvious?
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Old 10-26-2013, 09:51 AM
 
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Some might be staring at you in a bad way,meaning they stare because they don't like you.

Now if they are staring and licking their lips and touching their privates,that's something different and would make anyone uncomfortable.
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Old 10-26-2013, 10:48 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Some might be staring at you in a bad way,meaning they stare because they don't like you.

Now if they are staring and licking their lips and touching their privates,that's something different and would make anyone uncomfortable.
It also depends on what your relationship/interaction has been so far. Like if after a serious flirting session he stares when you leave.....that is awesome.

But random guy on the bus staring and then deciding make obscene gestures well obviously that's terrible.


I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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Old 10-26-2013, 11:22 AM
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Location: in the miseries
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Doesn't bother me a bit. I like to stare,too.
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Old 10-26-2013, 02:19 PM
 
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I've been going to my gym long enough (5 years) to know who is attracted to me. I mind it less when those guys stare because I'm used to it. Plus they know and talk to me and my husband, so I consider them to be pretty harmless. Hubby is a big, fairly intimidating looking black man....so none of them would dare try and make a move or get out of pocket.

Now random guy in the grocery store staring is a little more annoying.

I think most women who know they are attractive/have a nice body are less put off by the stares. It happens...
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Old 10-26-2013, 02:43 PM
 
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I don't mind it at all, as long as I don't feel unsafe - ie. it's not in a dark alley somewhere when I'm alone or something, and/or the guy doesn't give off a rapist-murderer vibe.
I'll even admit that I enjoy walking down the street and have a guy turn to check me out, or have someone glance over at the gym, provided the guy looks normal and not like a hobo/gangsta/sleazeball/creep.
As pathetic as it may sound, I've suffered from terribly low self-esteem all my life and have gone through my teens and early 20s feeling like an ugly duckling and not getting attention from guys my age. I've only 'grown into' my looks by about 23 and my appearance dramatically improved and I started feeling attractive for the first time in my life, so I'll admit I enjoyed getting attention and looks, even once I was married. Now that I'm 30 and a mom, I'm kinda starting to feel like I'm getting older and more 'invisible' again, even though I take care of myself, stay in shape, do makeup and clothes etc., but I feel like I lost that spark, my face has gotten more drawn and I have that permanent tired/frazzled look of motherhood that settled in the last couple of years that's just an automatic turnoff. At this point, if someone gives me a second glance I feel secretly flattered (even though I'd never show it)
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Old 10-26-2013, 03:17 PM
 
Location: NOVA
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I'm a guy. One day I showed up at work in tight bike pants and helmet because I rode to work that day. A couple of girls in the office "stared" at me, especially on my legs and on the crotch. It felt good, actually. I felt flattered. I had the urge to wear that kind of wardrobe everyday to enjoy the attention, but, you know, I checked myself.

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Doesn't bother me a bit. I like to stare,too.
You are welcome to stare at me.
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Old 10-26-2013, 03:39 PM
 
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Ok, how about when wearing a bikini?

Most girls I hang out with seem to love the attention they get at the beach or the gym{without necessarily be asking for it}. I guess you ladies are the exception.

Looks like the women on here are not going to want to answer this question, as I'm getting the sense that most don't mind being "checked out". (if you do, that's fine. I'm just trying to get an idea of how most women feel like when they are being stared at.) Some people like it, some just don't and others are indifferent. I want to know which one it is.
Being stared excessively and for long periods of time can be especially annoying (and inappropriate!). Even in other public spaces like the subway. I mind if the stares come from threatening, creepy (and often short, unattractive and gross-looking) males - who I suspect are sexually frustrated. I mind less if it's coming from good-looking, attractive males (sometimes I even like it, admittedly). It bothers me when coming from women who come off as "sizing me up" and scrutinizing me from head to toe. I wonder sometimes how incredibly gorgeous women like supermodels put up with all the excessive staring. I read once that Kim Basinger screamed out on set "STOP staring at me!!!" Some women just stare at other women to admire their beauty. I can respect that more than women who stare because they are unhappy and insecure. I personally admire other beautiful women, they are such a pleasure to look (note, not stare) at.
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Old 10-26-2013, 03:41 PM
 
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I'm a guy. One day I showed up at work in tight bike pants and helmet because I rode to work that day. A couple of girls in the office "stared" at me, especially on my legs and on the crotch. It felt good, actually. I felt flattered. I had the urge to wear that kind of wardrobe everyday to enjoy the attention, but, you know, I checked myself.



You are welcome to stare at me.
LOL you are so funny!
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