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Old 11-03-2013, 06:08 PM
 
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it is not only the shallow people but the sheer rudeness of people anymore . I mean you email someone and you write what you think is a nice email and they never answer it and you are like wth ? and i usually write people off after they show me their true selves meaning if they show me that they are selfish and shallow and believe me when I say sooner or later you will see the true self . I wish you luck . I guess people are way to busy on their ipods to have friends anymore .
You know what, that may be the lesson I need to learn here: I can't trust that everyone's a good person. I was naive before but I'm starting to really pay attention to people's true colors. I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from.
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Old 11-03-2013, 06:18 PM
 
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You thinking that "others are too stuck on me" is clear indication of the problem. It seems kind of delusional to think that. And not a bit stuck on yourself.
Just last week my class got on the discussion of diets. Everyone was pretty much complaining about them. I them chimed in that diets make people sad. My teacher who hadn't said a word before said "Shutup, As if you needed to be on any diet" in a rather irritated manner. Ummm I never said I was on a diet, I've just observed how people on diets act. That's happened a lot where I've said something innocent and someone will respond in a mean manner. Like some people have said here, those are the signs that I don't need to associate with those people. They obviously have problems they like to project.

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Old 11-03-2013, 08:12 PM
 
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It is true that women can be very mean to women they perceive as a threat. There is competition in every aspect of life, and looks are one thing people are competitive about. Just be yourself, hold your head high, and learn to love your new look. As my mother always says, "Enjoy your looks while you have them, because they are fleeting." Of course, you need to also treat others well, and develop all aspects of yourself. Good luck.
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Old 11-03-2013, 08:15 PM
 
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I do have friends,there are just a small circle of them. I find that most people don't want to befriend me, while some others have countless friends. The thing I can say is that the friends I do have are of high quality, loyal & genuine so I am blessed. It just bothers me that people GO OUT OF THEY'RE WAY to show they're dislike. That's not very fair don't you think? If you don't like me, carry on with your business. Also, it seems as soon as someone mentions their looks, people want to jump on them and pull the conceded card. Its not viewed as polite to mention your looks but I know others feel this way too as they have told me.

Ah, note that quality and quantity of friends are very different. Tis better to have fewer actual friends you can get to know on a personal level well and spend time with, than worrying about being everyone's 'friend'. The latter tend to be seeking status or gamesmanship in one upping others in pseudo 'friends', a la, the "Facebook" crowd.

As for the few examples you've given of issues in how you've been treated behaviorally, I'd have to say you need to expand the realms of people you meet and interact with to find broader audience (than just peers) as it seems from your posts that you may or may not be one of those natural beauties which a mass media induced conditioned populace finds pleasure in shooting down.

You received some good suggestions: volunteer at some places you have beliefs in supporting [food bank, under privileged, church related (I'm assuming your moniker you have one) etc...].

You will find shallow people all throughout life in many different realms learn to rise above the behavior and antics they engage in and use it as a reminder to yourself to deter you from ever acting that way.
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Old 11-04-2013, 06:08 AM
 
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I know how you feel. People are just nasty, that's it. For as long as I can remember, there's always been some chick trying to **** on my life. Even now there are female coworkers that won't say a word to me and I have no idea why. There's even one who will be nice to my face when other people are around but if I see her alone she'll give me the nastiest looks. What I really hate though, are people who feel the need to comment constantly on my body, whether it's how skinny I am, whether they can tell I've gained weight, or whatever. It's like, what's the point of that???
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Old 11-04-2013, 06:52 AM
 
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What the H kind of people are you associating with? Sounds like a bunch of immature, rude, back-stabbing a$$holes!

Girl, go foster friendships with people who are not that way!
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Old 11-04-2013, 02:12 PM
 
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What the H kind of people are you associating with? Sounds like a bunch of immature, rude, back-stabbing a$$holes!

Girl, go foster friendships with people who are not that way!
Haha! I am in cosmetology school so that probably has a lot to do with it. A bunch of wannabe divas! I do experience this nonsense outside of school on occasion but it mainly takes place in there
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Old 11-04-2013, 02:22 PM
 
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What I really hate though, are people who feel the need to comment constantly on my body, whether it's how skinny I am, whether they can tell I've gained weight, or whatever. It's like, what's the point of that???
Exactly! Like why are you more concerned with my appearance than I am! Its like they expect you to uphold some standard they've set for you & I don't want that responsibility lol.
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Old 11-04-2013, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Greenwood Village Colorado
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Haha! I am in cosmetology school so that probably has a lot to do with it. A bunch of wannabe divas! I do experience this nonsense outside of school on occasion but it mainly takes place in there

Hair dressers have always been drama queens, male and female. Go to college and meet different people. these are mostly high school dropouts.
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Old 11-04-2013, 04:48 PM
 
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Hair dressers have always been drama queens, male and female. Go to college and meet different people. these are mostly high school dropouts.
I suppose the voices in your mile-high head told you that???
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