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Originally Posted by HappyHarley
So should men that weren't lucky enough to be born with it, just jump off a bridge?
I think I was born with it, but my parents and dad who didn't have it, and the schools system, pushed me down, always trying to control me, and telling me what to do.
So pretty much I lost it, and don't think there's any way to get it back now.
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Who said men who "don't have it" should "jump off a bridge"?
My God, people read whatever they want into text - minus the actual content.
I am afraid your personal story has nothing to do with the qualities I mentioned and which most women, if not all, find very attractive. Few alpha males will complain that they didn't end up in "alpha" situation because schools kept them down or parents "stifled" them.
Alpha males use schools (or whatever comes their way!) to get ahead and make the system work in their favor. :-))
Intelligence, confidence, that "winner/can do" aura - this is what women go insane for especially since it's becoming increasingly rare among men. Not square jaw, not blue eyes, not muscle, not "gentleness", "sweetness" or "willingness to feed the baby with the bottle".
Note that I didn't say this type of men is necessarily a "wonderful man, full of virtue or with a flawless character".
Some of them can be major jerks. Others are just "very capable" but still decent human beings.
I am just saying those "alpha" qualities are what women naturally gravitate towards.
Despite intensive efforts of the feminist movement to change reality, women are evolutionary wired to go ga-ga over the "protector/provider" type. I am not advocating this is how it SHOULD be and I am completely empathizing with those less fortunate men who were simply not born with such natural advantages.
All I am saying is most women WILL be attracted to THAT - whether we morally approve of it or not. Just as much as most men continue to be attracted to "sheer beauty" in women - whether society approves of this tendency or not.
Now, just because MOST women are attracted to X and MOST men are attracted to Y, doesn't mean most men will end up with X and most women with Y. In fact, most women will NOT marry alpha males just like most men will NOT marry gorgeous creatures. Just a mater of supply.
So what "most men" and "most women" will do is adapt and "settle" - based on what they themselves bring to the exchange process.
Granted social engineering plays a role too so changes in society will make a difference in what men look for nowadays.
Because fewer and fewer men can be "alpha providers" today, they can no longer afford to look STRICTLY for what they are evolutionary wired to look for in a woman (physical attractiveness).
Many now want their woman to be a "provider" too!
You will find lots of men nowadays stating that they want their woman to be "independent, self-reliant, have a career of her own, have interests outside the domestic area, be assertive, etc".
These are code words for "I need you to bring some money too 'cause I can't keep a family all on my own like grandpa was doing; more precisely, I can't be an alpha type".
There have been more changes in what men look for in a woman than what women look for in a man. I think all women, providers or not, continue to dream of a man with the qualities I mentioned: intelligent, protector, alpha/winner type - mostly so they won't have to play the aggressive/competitive/cut throat game in the labor market, if at all possible. Most women are poorly equipped (psychologically - not intellectually), to deal with such conditions.
Those few women who are naturally aggressive/competitive will still want an alpha type for a partner.
Few, if any, will actively seek "Mr. Mom".
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What physical attributes make a man attractive?
LOL! No, but what we're doing here is describing a definite type. A man doesn't have to be this type to be attractive to women. If a guy answers to these descriptions, he is probably so gorgeous he'll box with you for access to hair dryer and skin/hair care products and space in the mirror. 
