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Old 11-26-2007, 06:59 PM
 
Location: huh?
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a Lesbian! a butch one too!
my husband picked out a couple of polo shirts fro me and whenever i wear them i feel like a lesbian. it's the strangest thing! now i dont actually start craving women but i dont feel attractive AT all. i especially feel butch if i pair the polo with jeans and i absolutely CANNOT add tennis shoes to this ensemble because then i feel like....yep, there's no mistakin it..........she's a lesbian allright! (this is what i picture people saying about me if i wear the combo of polo, jeans, and sneakers).
so i thought hmmm, maybe if i wear more makeup and jewelry with my polo shirts then i will feel better!! but, still i feel butch. (please dont think im saying that butch lesbians are unattractive but it is just not me.) i am now beginning to suspect that my husband chose these polos for me so that i wouldnt attract any attention from men. any advice about feminizing a polo shirt or combining it with something to make it less butch? if you dont help me then i'll have to burn them.

Last edited by nicolepsy; 11-26-2007 at 07:09 PM.. Reason: typo
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Old 11-26-2007, 07:28 PM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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Are they fitted properly? Are they the correct size?

If they don't flatter you and they can't be returned, then I would burn them. (actually, I would donate them. )
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Old 11-26-2007, 07:31 PM
 
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they are the proper size and probably even look great on me but i just dont feel right in them. dont worry, i always donate to goodwill!
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Old 11-26-2007, 07:51 PM
 
Location: in drifts of snow wherever you go
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Sounds like they are not your style. I can't wear clothes that feel like they are "not me."
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Old 11-26-2007, 08:03 PM
 
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maybe i will get used to them? maybe they look great on me and i dont realize it. we all know that that happens lots!
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Old 11-27-2007, 07:00 AM
 
Location: I'm not lost, I'm exploring!
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I'd go with your gut instinct on this one... even if they DO look normal on you, look at the workover they are having on your self esteem! People look better in things they are comfortable in. I could wear a trashbag and be radiantly happy, rather than wear . . . . nevermind. Where ever that analogy was going, it just flew out the window.

I say donate them, and stop letting the hubby pick out your clothes? lol
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Old 11-27-2007, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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If you don't feel comfortable wearing the polos and they are not "you" then get rid of them and get yourself something you feel comfy in. Just explain to hubby that you realize his intentions were good, but you just aren't a polo shirt kind of gal.
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Old 11-27-2007, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Maryland Eastern Shore
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How about with a cardigan type sweater on top - something in the same color family but nor exact match?
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Old 11-27-2007, 10:44 AM
 
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As long as it's not flannel shirts you are okay.
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Old 11-27-2007, 11:25 AM
 
Location: I'm not lost, I'm exploring!
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I say we have a polo bonfire! who's with me!
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