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I'll give you an example about how clueless parents can be about what their daughters wear under their clothes.
A dozen years ago we had a female foreign exchange student living at our house for four months. My husband does all of our family laundry. Shortly after the 17 year old girl returned to Germany my husband commented to me that she must have hand washed all of her underpants because there were never any in the laundry. When I mentioned this to our 17 year old daughter she laughed out loud and said, "Elsa wasn't hand washing her underwear. She never wore any."
So, Elsa lived with us for four months and neither my husband or I even realized what she was or wasn't wearing every day.
So, if your teenage daughter does her own laundry (or own hand laundry) or you are as non-observant as my husband (he sorted the clothes so our daughter's stuff went in her room and Elsa's clothes went into her room) you may not know what your daughter is actually wearing.
Do you let your 16 year old drive? Does she have an allowance or money from babysitting or a job?
Then she may be driving to the mall with her friends and buying whatever underwear that she wants.
Umm....what did she do during that time of the month?
Tell your daughter that if you love wearing sexy clothing that gives boys and men eye pleasure sure go right ahead just don't forget the consequences of being bothered. Your daughter will always say she will be fine and always with friends. Probably more problems because friends make other friends do things they shouldn't be doing.
1. I think it's ridiculous to believe that you have to teach men not to rape. Do you have to teach men not to kill? I think if any man is willing to rape a woman he has some serious issues and even had he been brought up with a loving family constantly telling him rape is bad he'd do it anyway given the opportunity. It's not as if rape isn't a crime or not looked down upon in society, anyone who rapes knows it's against the law and looked down upon, they just don't care.
I think if you ask most men if rape is bad they'd say, "yes, absolutely," but there are situations (like the Stuebenville assault case) where the young men in question didn't think that what they were doing was rape. Or teens will drink, he's tipsy, she's tipsy, nobody said "no," but nobody said, "yes," either. It's important that parents talk to sons as well as daughters about these issues.
I'll give you an example about how clueless parents can be about what their daughters wear under their clothes.
A dozen years ago we had a female foreign exchange student living at our house for four months. My husband does all of our family laundry. Shortly after the 17 year old girl returned to Germany my husband commented to me that she must have hand washed all of her underpants because there were never any in the laundry. When I mentioned this to our 17 year old daughter she laughed out loud and said, "Elsa wasn't hand washing her underwear. She never wore any."
So, Elsa lived with us for four months and neither my husband or I even realized what she was or wasn't wearing every day.
So, if your teenage daughter does her own laundry (or own hand laundry) or you are as non-observant as my husband (he sorted the clothes so our daughter's stuff went in her room and Elsa's clothes went into her room) you may not know what your daughter is actually wearing.
Do you let your 16 year old drive? Does she have an allowance or money from babysitting or a job?
Then she may be driving to the mall with her friends and buying whatever underwear that she wants.
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Originally Posted by PeaceAndLove42
Umm....what did she do during that time of the month?
Hmmm, I never thought about that. I think that she used a menstrual cup (many of my daughter's friends did at that time).
Definetly, way too much information for me to handle.
Last edited by germaine2626; 04-24-2014 at 11:59 AM..
Umm....what did she do during that time of the month?
She probably didn't use pads, so I don't really see what the issue would be. You think women just ruin their underwear each month by letting it soak up the blood?
I think if you ask most men if rape is bad they'd say, "yes, absolutely," but there are situations (like the Stuebenville assault case) where the young men in question didn't think that what they were doing was rape. Or teens will drink, he's tipsy, she's tipsy, nobody said "no," but nobody said, "yes," either. It's important that parents talk to sons as well as daughters about these issues.
According to trial transcripts, at about midnight, the intoxicated victim left a drinking party with four football players over the protests of her friends. They went to a second party where the victim vomited and appeared "out of it." The same group left after about 20 minutes, and headed to the home of one of the witnesses. In the backseat of the car during the 15-minute trip, her shirt was removed and Trent Mays digitally penetrated the victim's vagina and exposed her breasts while his friends filmed and photographed her. In the basement of the house, Mays attempted to orally rape the victim by forcing his penis into her mouth. Now unconscious, she was stripped naked and the second accused, Ma'lik Richmond, also digitally penetrated the victim's vagina. She was again photographed. Three witnesses took the photos back to the second party and shared them with friends.[3]
Unless they were severely mentally impaired, how could they NOT know it was rape? Do you honestly believe had these little scum bags been told growing up "Listen son, just so you know getting a girl drunk, removing her clothes, digitally penetrating a girl's vagina, filming and photographing her naked, forcing your penis into her mouth is rape" that night the boys would have been all "Oh, I know what I would like to do but I was told growing up it's rape I shouldn't do it"? SERIOUSLY?? These are scum bags that KNEW FULL WELL what they were doing! They JUST. DID. NOT. CARE! If it weren't rape, what did they think it was? Just a harmless prank? I wish I could throw these little **** into the fire of Mount Doom
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Originally Posted by Sundaydrive00
She probably didn't use pads, so I don't really see what the issue would be. You think women just ruin their underwear each month by letting it soak up the blood?
Still, even had she been using a tampon or menstrual cup wouldn't it leak?
when she's old enough to know all about sex, what it's implications are. Absolutely NOT before 16. 18 better when she can do what she wants. Try not to mess her up Mom. She's got an entire life of dealing with man who will lie, trying to get into her pants....let's not speed that up. Check out yellowberry bras. Unique, Colorful Bras for Young Girls : Yellowberry Company They are made for this age group.
Those are training bras...I was a C cup when I was 12 and a DD when I was 14. Most of my friends had boobs by that age too. I think the bras in that link might work for ages 10-12, maybe a little longer if a girl is slender. But a girl needs a real bra before she's 16, usually.
Still, even had she been using a tampon or menstrual cup wouldn't it leak?
You can usually feel when a tampon is about to leak and the menstrual cups hold about an ounce, which makes it unlikely to overflow.
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