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Old 06-08-2014, 07:45 PM
 
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[quote=Ohky0815;35151272]It is for religious reasons as well as moral reasons. My parents were not this strict growing up. They had rules but not this many.

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Old 06-08-2014, 08:06 PM
 
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If you've got it, flaunt it. Male disrespect towards females is entirely a function of male mentality, and not of female fashion. If you have the opportunity to spread beauty and joy around the world, do it. Do we lock Mona Lisa in a safe where no one can view it?
This!!

At this point in my life I've had my kids, gotten rid of all the baby weight and I'm fit, strong/muscular and at nearly 40, I look/feel sexier than I ever have in my life. I plan on always being fit and able to wear whatever I want, but who knows how long that will last. I'm enjoying it for however long it lasts. I put in the work daily, eat healthy when I really want to pig put on pizza and donuts, etc....so if every now and then I feel like flaunting my hard work by putting on a form fitting dress or showing more leg than normal, I'm going to do it. Life is entirely too short to allow other people's opinions determine how you dress. Those who feel insecure because their husbands are looking too hard will either need to step their own sexy game up or just build a bridge and get over it.
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:20 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Being an Indian guy, I have no right to open my mouth on this topic .
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:22 PM
 
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Being an Indian guy, I have no right to open my mouth on this topic .
Why??
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:31 PM
 
Location: East of the Mississippi and South of Bluegrass
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Both men and women do many things to get attention such as extensive piercings, tattoos, hair styles ....It's completely up to them to do what ever makes them happy but in all honesty, people will be looking.

I think most married women want to look nice for their husbands and the same could be said for men.
Personally, I always chose to dress modestly.
I agree with bvp, I think whatever men or women decide to wear is certainly their prerogative, however if it is outside of any particular sphere of 'normal' for whatever environment one is in, yes people will be looking. Not me...because I don't care, really.

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I'm past the half century mark. I know what looks good on me and what doesn't. I have a friend who can pull off wearing less clothes and not look bad. I can't.I decided a while back when I'm spending money on clothes, if it's not something that looks great on me I'm not buying it. You can flatter your figure no matter what you look like. Wearing less rarely looks better than dressing with class.

Hey, if you're stopping by for ice on your way to the lake, dress as skimpy as you want but don't be a Walmart People.

OH, I wanted to add, I do turn heads though the men who look are older now. That's okay. I do feel somewhat attractive and it makes me want to make an effort to look nice when I leave the house. My sweetie loves me, too. I want to look good for him.
I do not have a husband or a sweetie but I definitely do dress modestly (in understated, timeless and classic pieces) when I have the occasion to do so. Just running around, grocery shopping, errands I prefer my jeans and a sweater/blouse/henley (boots, gym shoes, or sandals)...simple but appropriate for what I 'have on my plate' for the day.

I do, however, recall in my youth the leering and/or catcalls (yes, I dressed modestly then as well) and I have to say I never appreciated it at all. It made me very uncomfortable and I made a conscious effort to try and avoid such environments (working downtown during summer construction was horrific) at all possible costs. It never gave me an emotional lift or boost to my self esteem...far from it.
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:35 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Why??
In India, this topic has been beaten to death after the gang rapes (and all the convicts were killed in jail anyways).

Basically, what women say is that ALL MEN who dont "look good" attempt to attract women like creeps by leering at them .

I don't have good looks at all, but I sure don't leer at women for attraction.

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Old 06-08-2014, 08:39 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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Wow!

Are you a Mormon? Just asking because those are pretty strict standards.
I'm not sure if you know this or not, but Mormon standards are not that strict!
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:46 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Because we constantly hear from women how awful it is for men to pay attention to them. I get women don't like cat-calling, especially if they're not dressed provocatively. But a man just looking isn't bad, so why do women demonize that?
They don't. I've never heard of women who dress tastefully complaining about being looked at. There's nothing wrong with that.
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:49 PM
 
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Modesty is illegal in Australia.
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Old 06-08-2014, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I agree with bvp, I think whatever men or women decide to wear is certainly their prerogative, however if it is outside of any particular sphere of 'normal' for whatever environment one is in, yes people will be looking. Not me...because I don't care, really.

I do, however, recall in my youth the leering and/or catcalls (yes, I dressed modestly then as well) and I have to say I never appreciated it at all. It made me very uncomfortable and I made a conscious effort to try and avoid such environments (working downtown during summer construction was horrific) at all possible costs. It never gave me an emotional lift or boost to my self esteem...far from it.
I agree whenever I hear one of those catcalls it is not fun. I don't mind other compliments (from anyone) like you have a great smile, love your outfit, you are stylish etc. Free stuff works too.

I notice here we are making value judgements on the women here based on the women based on their attire, but not on the men based on their words and actions.
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