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dressing to be attractive but not looking like a hooker is not easy
no greater example than the women of saudi arabia who are supposed to attract men-- quality men-- the best of saudi arabia-- while wearing a opaque black veil-- head to toe.
how do they do it?
in a nut shell
catching fish without bait.
or maybe catching fish without a hook or bait
They don't attract men on the street. They are mostly introduced by their parents and family.
Of course I dress to attract a man. He's called my husband. My husband has also told me he's well aware that other men are going to look at me and it's not something either one of us can control.
Not surprisingly, I'm sure men like their wives to be looked at by other men. "Look what I've got." Ask your hubby how much he wants that to stop.
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Originally Posted by Adi from the Brunswicks
Might be true in Newark, Trenton, Camden, St. Louis, Detroit, NO, parts of Los Angles, parts of Oakland, and other bad places. But lewd behavior isn't all that common in most reasonably safe areas. Once again, why would anybody (man or woman) want to go nearby an area filled with GFN guys who cause trouble. Most guys out there are nice people, its only a few who lose control and act in an indecent manner.
I think guys are more apt to openly remark if around other guys with similar bad manners. Women think the same when they see a hot guy, except they're all only thinking it, not saying it. Unless one is brave enough to break the ice and then they all have a good laugh.
Yes, they do generally dress fairly conservatively, but they defnitely can and do wear make-up, nail polish, have their hair cut, styled and colored any way they wish. They also can wear pants, including capris and shorts that come to the knee. Form-fitting clothes are also fine, just as long as they are not exaggeratedly so.
At this point in my life I've had my kids, gotten rid of all the baby weight and I'm fit, strong/muscular and at nearly 40, I look/feel sexier than I ever have in my life. I plan on always being fit and able to wear whatever I want, but who knows how long that will last. I'm enjoying it for however long it lasts. I put in the work daily, eat healthy when I really want to pig put on pizza and donuts, etc....so if every now and then I feel like flaunting my hard work by putting on a form fitting dress or showing more leg than normal, I'm going to do it. Life is entirely too short to allow other people's opinions determine how you dress. Those who feel insecure because their husbands are looking too hard will either need to step their own sexy game up or just build a bridge and get over it.
At this point in my life I've had my kids, gotten rid of all the baby weight and I'm fit, strong/muscular and at nearly 40, I look/feel sexier than I ever have in my life. I plan on always being fit and able to wear whatever I want, but who knows how long that will last. I'm enjoying it for however long it lasts. I put in the work daily, eat healthy when I really want to pig put on pizza and donuts, etc....so if every now and then I feel like flaunting my hard work by putting on a form fitting dress or showing more leg than normal, I'm going to do it. Life is entirely too short to allow other people's opinions determine how you dress. Those who feel insecure because their husbands are looking too hard will either need to step their own sexy game up or just build a bridge and get over it.
The italicized show the selfish attitude I'm describing...and no...its not like the husband looks.
And the insecurity is not because one does not feel attractive enough.
Its that there are values...insecurity can be because some values are being disrespected.
So now others also have to am up the sexy act?
so sexy is equivalnet to worthy?
and thus sex object is what women want to be?
and so if women start going around like strippers or give lap dances, other women won't feel insecure because a boundary is being breached?
instead THEY must also start doing the same?
Probably why women are getting more and more into dressing provocatively and convincing themselves and others that their sexual appeal or potential is the ONLY main value for them...
and thus deeming sex objectification for women.
who wins? is this really women's liberation? the freedom to go around semi nude and provocative in public with no regards to one's own sense of dignity...desperate to feel good about oneself by showing off some goods
aka...bargaining skin show to feel lovable and worthy?
probably why younger and younger women are dressing provocatively and trying to be sexy and having sex outside a marriage or committed relationship.
Who wins?
men get to see a free show and get a woman to cross boundaries without having to invest much.
and women are even more relegated to being sex objects.
So now women would be doing pole dancing naked in public?
would that be enough to feel ''lovable and worthy''??
and does that make a woman ''liberated'' or more caught up in seeing their self worth involved with a man's lustful attention...which is mostly what a woman who dressed like that gets usually
isnt a woman more than her body?
why not stand for some values?
why not wear a sticker to fight for cancer or fighting hunger?
why really need other's attention and disrupts other people's peace and harmony because one things one got it one will show it and walk semi- naked and not care about public decorum or the effect on children?
A lot of women will stare too and usually it's because we think it just looks awful but the fact is, when women dress a little too revealing, pretty much everyone stares. Really, it doesn't mean the person dressed that way looks good.
I agree...and I think people would stare if a man walked around wearing only a very tight set of underpants too which shows the shape of everything...there is a shock effect.
Does not mean it looks good. Just means its out of sorts.
Not surprisingly, I'm sure men like their wives to be looked at by other men. "Look what I've got." Ask your hubby how much he wants that to stop.
LOL, nice try but no cigar! I am a modest dresser, so there isn't any advertising here. Sorry to disappoint
I find it interesting people get perturbed when asked about women who don't dress revealing, yet receive male attention--- but then they are still perturbed when women do dress revealing. Make up your minds, people! If women didn't dress revealing, then the men would complain about all the "Duggar-style" women and how they can't see any skin. Go figure.
I don't dress revealing and dress in more of a vintage style (50s), men don't seem to like it but oh well. I'm not comfortable bearing large breasts for all to see. I don't care if some other women dress trashy, that's their business, men like when everything is hanging out and I guess they're happy to oblige.
I used to spend a lot of time walking and would get cat-called no matter how I was dressed...which most of the time was on the conservative side.
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