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Old 06-18-2014, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Washington DC
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Originally Posted by Adi from the Brunswicks View Post
To MissLexi. Here is what I do everyday to stay healthy:

Shower in the morning with coconut oil and use sandalwood powder
Lift weights every afternoon and use deodorant afterwards
Keep myself well hydrated
Avoid eating too much

Do I in Anyway look attractive ? Judging by the opinion of CD posters, its a loud and clear No.

So get on with stuff, there are more important things to do for me than look good for attracting potential wives.
Grow some confidence, stop determining your attractiveness on the opinions of strangers on the internet. I am not encouraging other people to take care if themselves solely to attract the opposite sex but for THEMSELVES. You have to have more then your appearance to offer to a relationship.

If you truly take good care in grooming yourself, dieting, and presentation then you should be happy about were you are with your appearance and health. Physically I look the best I have ever been, but I don't look anywhere close to a Victoria Secret model or any of the airbrushed beauties in Men's magazines. But I am happy and content with my appearance because I know I have preserved my nature beauty to its fullest. I may not have perfect curves to appear in Playboy anytime soon, or won the genetic lottery when it came to having a plump butt/big boobs but I still love my body and natural beauty. Your problem is you compare yourself too much to airbrushed pictures of models who society puts on a pedestal as the epitome of human aesthetics. You don't need to look like that to be attractive, having a great attitude and carrying yourself with dignity can add to anyones attractiveness along with a good personality.

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Old 06-18-2014, 10:04 PM
 
Location: MN
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Wow people as usual on CD in the Fashion forum are taking things waaaaaay too personally.

Here's a good vid (only 6 and a half mns):


Why You Should Always Dress Your Best - YouTube

Notice how she said TRY to look your best. She didn't say look like a supermodel, get plastic surgery, get hot enough for an SO, etc. It's a little funny people think this post is judgmental and nasty when if you look at a lot of the threads here...yeah. Just saying.
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Old 06-18-2014, 10:31 PM
 
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Since nobody asked...but what if someone looks better being obese?

Also,what if someone just has an ugly face?
How does someone with an ugly face look better?
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Old 06-18-2014, 10:43 PM
 
Location: Washington DC
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Since nobody asked...but what if someone looks better being obese?

Also,what if someone just has an ugly face?
How does someone with an ugly face look better?
I honestly can't imagine anyone looking better obese since it usually makes your face look bloated. A lot of women look better when they are full figured(Christina Hendricks) or curvy.

The only thing in my experience that hinders someones facial aesthetics is acne, and with amount of acne regimes available today I don't think its impossible for the majority of people to control theirs. Also beauty is the eye beholder, that ugly face could be beautiful to someone else. If you take care yourself to the fullest you may not turn into a supermodel but you let your true natural beauty shine brighter. If at your best your still not good enough for society's strict standard of beauty then you can't let that get to you. There is more to a person's beauty then what is on the outside as many have pointed out.
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Old 06-18-2014, 11:43 PM
 
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I honestly can't imagine anyone looking better obese since it usually makes your face look bloated. A lot of women look better when they are full figured(Christina Hendricks) or curvy.

The only thing in my experience that hinders someones facial aesthetics is acne, and with amount of acne regimes available today I don't think its impossible for the majority of people to control theirs. Also beauty is the eye beholder, that ugly face could be beautiful to someone else. If you take care yourself to the fullest you may not turn into a supermodel but you let your true natural beauty shine brighter. If at your best your still not good enough for society's strict standard of beauty then you can't let that get to you. There is more to a person's beauty then what is on the outside as many have pointed out.
Look at Jennifer Hudson. Most people say she had a prettier face when she was obese.


My face tends to look haggard when i am under 190 lbs.

I am extreme pear shaped,and that has something to do with it.

I do notice,as you have,that Latino women are the best dressed,and that holds true even in Nj.

Its classy,but they do have their days when they are dressed too skimpy.
They always told me "if you it,flaunt it".
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Old 06-19-2014, 12:03 AM
 
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About makeup: it's really a very individual thing, but you need to be objective and honest with yourself - I hate to say it but yes, some women won the genetic lottery and they can look fantastic rolled out of bed - clear radiant skin, nice features, long dark eyelashes, plump lips, etc. If that's you - I'm jealous , lol, and for those women makeup is just the icing on the cake for special occasions.
However, the vast majority of regular women do NOT look like that, and look significantly better with a little bit of makeup for a fresher appearance - to bring out their features, accent the positive features, even out skin tone, brighten up eyes and cheeks, cover under-eye circles, and so on. Personally I look like a different person with and without makeup - without, my eyes are practically non-existent and i look like I just woke up, I'm pale and have dark circles under my eyes no matter how much i've slept. A quick touch of makeup transforms me from looking ill to looking fresh and put-together. And a lot of women i see definitely look like they could benefit from a bit of makeup to improve their appearance. They just don't care enough and/or think it's too hard, takes too long, is useless, etc.
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Old 06-19-2014, 12:09 AM
 
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Also,what if someone just has an ugly face?
How does someone with an ugly face look better?
The older a woman gets, the less her naturally-given appearance and facial features start to matter, and the more her attractiveness is determined by the amount of care and effort put into it - taking care of your skin, hair, light makeup, fit body, and flattering clothes is generally enough to make any average middle-aged woman more attractive than average. At 18, the fresh-faced 'natural beauty' will win every time; by 40, however, the 'ugly duckling' who is not naturally pretty but who has taken care of herself throughout the years will win hands down over the natural beauty who hasn't done a thing to maintain her looks. These former beauties are the ones that tend to end up overweight, dumpy, frumpy, and sighing over their cheerleading days.
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Old 06-19-2014, 07:54 AM
 
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The older a woman gets, the less her naturally-given appearance and facial features start to matter, and the more her attractiveness is determined by the amount of care and effort put into it - taking care of your skin, hair, light makeup, fit body, and flattering clothes is generally enough to make any average middle-aged woman more attractive than average. At 18, the fresh-faced 'natural beauty' will win every time; by 40, however, the 'ugly duckling' who is not naturally pretty but who has taken care of herself throughout the years will win hands down over the natural beauty who hasn't done a thing to maintain her looks. These former beauties are the ones that tend to end up overweight, dumpy, frumpy, and sighing over their cheerleading days.
This is so true - I see it time and again. Best to try to take care of oneself throughout your life.

And on another note, the other day my husband saw one of those articles on the internet about female celebs caught without makeup - and HE COULD NOT STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! He just couldn't believe how "bad" some of them looked. The point being that YES, makeup helps just about every female who is not a fresh-faced teen anymore.

As far as as anyone's weight goes, I have seen plenty of women who are well overweight that I think look really nice because they dress nice, wear a little makeup, maybe some accessories, and carry themselves well. It's not really about what one weighs. It's all about being "put together" and projecting an air of confidence, stand up tall, and walk with a strong stride, that sort of thing.
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Old 06-19-2014, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Birmingham, Alabama
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OP: I'm not shocked at all that you had some trouble making readers understand what you were getting at, early in the thread. Personal appearance is something that most people I meet just ignore. Particularly in the deep south. Bad dieting and lack out outdoor, or indoor for that matter, activity just builds up over time.

As a result, they either become dis-engaged when the conversation turns to fitness or appearance, or at worst, become very defensive/jealous. They will defend their choices as part of "getting older" or "raising a family". I am doing both of those, and still carve out time to maintain SOME level of fitness, and I'm far from the magazine or TV version of perfect for a 38 year old male. It doesn't come easy, and you have to somewhat enjoy the challenge of keeping up with yourself.

I think some of it comes from never having to deal with it growing up, and then just taking for granted that one will always look "perfect" or whatever. Then it's a shock when their fitness falls off.

If a person doesn't want to be fit and doesn't take any pride in how they look, that's their choice, and I won't deride them for it. The last thing I ever want to be called is judgmental, but I would appreciate the same in return just because I DO take pride in my appearance. None of the jealousy or judgemental-ness is necessary, welcomed, or healthy.
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Old 06-19-2014, 08:40 AM
 
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OP: I'm not shocked at all that you had some trouble making readers understand what you were getting at, early in the thread. Personal appearance is something that most people I meet just ignore. Particularly in the deep south. Bad dieting and lack out outdoor, or indoor for that matter, activity just builds up over time.

As a result, they either become dis-engaged when the conversation turns to fitness or appearance, or at worst, become very defensive/jealous. They will defend their choices as part of "getting older" or "raising a family". I am doing both of those, and still carve out time to maintain SOME level of fitness, and I'm far from the magazine or TV version of perfect for a 38 year old male. It doesn't come easy, and you have to somewhat enjoy the challenge of keeping up with yourself.

I think some of it comes from never having to deal with it growing up, and then just taking for granted that one will always look "perfect" or whatever. Then it's a shock when their fitness falls off.

If a person doesn't want to be fit and doesn't take any pride in how they look, that's their choice, and I won't deride them for it. The last thing I ever want to be called is judgmental, but I would appreciate the same in return just because I DO take pride in my appearance. None of the jealousy or judgemental-ness is necessary, welcomed, or healthy.
Well said, I feel the same! ^^
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