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Old 08-19-2014, 09:55 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Why has my skin darkened .
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Old 08-19-2014, 11:35 PM
 
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If you are like me sometimes you look in the mirror and wonder what other people see? The person looking back at you in the mirror certainly isn't the younger person you are eternally in your own mind!
How does a middle aged woman find some kind of solace in this world where being eternally 20 something like Jennifer Aniston, is the sought after ideal?

I found this article today and wanted to share it, because its short and sweet and because we all need to read it.
What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier | elephant journal
I’ve been a massage therapist for many years now. I know what people look like.

People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.
Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. (And that’s very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them.

It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks.

Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say — what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule.

At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.
I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
I think.. wow.. where did all my hyaluronan go?? I used to have so much baby fat around my face, and now they're all gone!!
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Old 08-20-2014, 12:42 PM
 
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I've been avoiding mirrors as of late for fear of turning myself gay.
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Old 08-21-2014, 04:43 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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If you are like me sometimes you look in the mirror and wonder what other people see? The person looking back at you in the mirror certainly isn't the younger person you are eternally in your own mind!
How does a middle aged woman find some kind of solace in this world where being eternally 20 something like Jennifer Aniston, is the sought after ideal?

I found this article today and wanted to share it, because its short and sweet and because we all need to read it.
What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier | elephant journal
Iíve been a massage therapist for many years now. I know what people look like.

People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what youíd look like on my table.
Letís start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they donít have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. Thatís how it works. (And thatís very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them.

Itís dimply and cute. Itís not a defect. Itís not a health problem. Itís the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks.

Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say ó what, this is it? Theyíre kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because itís unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or theyíll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesnít matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I donít know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as youíre all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule.

At that first long sigh, at that first thought that ďI can stop hanging on now, Iím safeĒ Ė a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and weíre easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: Iím in it for the glow.
Iíll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
What a wonderful article. Thank you, OP!

And to answer your question, when I look in the mirror, I think to myself, "Dang, gotta clean this mirror!" ;-) My bathroom needs some serious housekeeping attention.
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Old 08-23-2014, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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I have lost my good looks thanks to heat and humidity .
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Old 08-23-2014, 09:24 AM
 
Location: 500 miles from home
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What DO you think when you look in the mirror?



"MOM...is that YOU?
Haha! That is exactly what I think!

I work out all the time ~ but at 50 I definitely have my Mom's stomach. Then my thinking goes something like this ~ so glad that I FINALLY have great hair but ~ dang - where is the motivation to keep working out because my body sure ain't it.

Then I go hit the gym because ~ use it or lose it and it usually relieves my stress.
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Old 08-23-2014, 09:59 AM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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It depends on the day.
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Old 08-23-2014, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Starting to get hairy again. Time to shave my face, arms, and underarms.
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:18 AM
 
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Well', I'm kinda weird. Sometimes I just don't notice my flaws and I'm like "Damn I look good." sometimes I actually notice all my flaws and I'm like "I wish I didn't have this, that bla bla" but I'm kinda confident so I'm not worried.
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:49 AM
 
Location: USA
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Many years ago, I read how to see myself as someone else sees me. Hold a mirror perpendicular to a mirror on the wall and look at the reflection in the mirror being held against the other mirror. Look for the one where you are seeing yourself opposite of how you appear to yourself when looking in a mirror. I have a small mole on one side of my face, so that's how I found the correct view to see myself as I was seen by others.
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