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Old 07-01-2014, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Concord, California
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If you are like me sometimes you look in the mirror and wonder what other people see? The person looking back at you in the mirror certainly isn't the younger person you are eternally in your own mind!
How does a middle aged woman find some kind of solace in this world where being eternally 20 something like Jennifer Aniston, is the sought after ideal?

I found this article today and wanted to share it, because its short and sweet and because we all need to read it.
What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier | elephant journal
Iíve been a massage therapist for many years now. I know what people look like.

People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what youíd look like on my table.
Letís start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they donít have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. Thatís how it works. (And thatís very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them.

Itís dimply and cute. Itís not a defect. Itís not a health problem. Itís the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks.

Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say ó what, this is it? Theyíre kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because itís unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or theyíll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesnít matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I donít know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as youíre all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule.

At that first long sigh, at that first thought that ďI can stop hanging on now, Iím safeĒ Ė a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and weíre easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: Iím in it for the glow.
Iíll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
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Old 07-01-2014, 01:57 PM
 
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I usually just grumble becuase it means I have to shave
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Old 07-01-2014, 02:00 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I think celebrities are the worst role models for aging because none of them want to age gracefully. Of course their livelihood is at stake because there are probably very few acting roles for older women. As far as popular culture goes, we just assume everyone is either 20 to 30 or try to look 20 to 30.
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Old 07-01-2014, 02:21 PM
 
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Thanks for the OP, that was interesting.

I'm kind of glad that I don't live in a city in the sunbelt area. I live in a smallish Canadian city where being pale and middle aged with a huge derriere isn't considered the end of life as we know it... but if I lived in Miami or LA or someplace where more people were more critical about checking each other out, or obsessing about looking eternally young and lean and tanned all the time... well, I can't even imagine it, actually. I'd probably rebel and get covered in tattoos...
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Old 07-01-2014, 02:38 PM
 
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I think celebrities are the worst role models for aging because none of them want to age gracefully. Of course their livelihood is at stake because there are probably very few acting roles for older women. As far as popular culture goes, we just assume everyone is either 20 to 30 or try to look 20 to 30.
I don't feel like that's as true as used to be. You have to understand, a lot of boomers are still alive. I feel like there's a lot of shows and movies about older people. Look at Sex and the City and the whole X Is the new Y mentality. I.e. 30 is the new 20.
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Old 07-01-2014, 02:39 PM
 
Location: southern california
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If you are like me sometimes you look in the mirror and wonder what other people see? The person looking back at you in the mirror certainly isn't the younger person you are eternally in your own mind!
How does a middle aged woman find some kind of solace in this world where being eternally 20 something like Jennifer Aniston, is the sought after ideal?

I found this article today and wanted to share it, because its short and sweet and because we all need to read it.
What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier | elephant journal
Iíve been a massage therapist for many years now. I know what people look like.

People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what youíd look like on my table.
Letís start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they donít have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. Thatís how it works. (And thatís very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them.

Itís dimply and cute. Itís not a defect. Itís not a health problem. Itís the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks.

Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say ó what, this is it? Theyíre kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because itís unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or theyíll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesnít matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I donít know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as youíre all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule.

At that first long sigh, at that first thought that ďI can stop hanging on now, Iím safeĒ Ė a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and weíre easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: Iím in it for the glow.
Iíll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
Mostly dead sterling in 15
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Old 07-01-2014, 02:40 PM
 
Location: NW Nevada
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Wow....what I see in the mirror now is nothing like it was 20 years ago.lol.....Only my eyes haven't changed much. Just calmer now. That bit of wild streak that used to show in them is gone. Years of sun and cold and wind have polished me up a bunch. Ha! Doesn't bother me though. Its who I am.
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Old 07-01-2014, 03:21 PM
 
Location: not where you are
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I don't know, for some funny reason, I'm always compelled to twist my body around, then something funny happens, a sound cues up, then it hits me, hits me, baby got back starts playing in my head.
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Old 07-01-2014, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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It usually makes me think of cleaning because of the tooth paste spots on it.
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Old 07-01-2014, 04:37 PM
 
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At 50 I like what I see, I've made peace with myself...
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