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Old 01-22-2015, 10:06 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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OP, you can be honest with us. You were trying and really want to get in her panties right?
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Old 01-23-2015, 05:10 AM
 
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Many years ago, I made the mistake of giving a female co-worker a compliment. I said along the lines that she looked really fit and I was issued a warning citation from HR dept that person took it that I was trying to hit on her. She knows that I have a gf too, even the HR person knows me well said that they're going to let it go because they know that I didn't have any intention.

But, it's ok when women say that to a guy or another gal that they look good today or they look fit while guys can't say anything to women in fear that they'll get reported on.

If women want equality, how can such double standards exist?
Yep, it's that word -- "fit" -- that would give me pause, but I wouldn't take offense and report it. I've ALWAYS appreciated compliments from men OR women -- I'm the chick who used to wave back and do a little cheerleading dance for all the construction workers who ever wolf-whistled at me (from afar).

But the "fit" word has a slight sexual undertone/connotation. I wouldn't tell a guy he looked fit; it just wouldn't occur to me.
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Old 01-23-2015, 05:24 AM
 
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I call BS. You can't get in trouble at work just for complimenting a woman. You could even be all like, hey, how you doin, you're lookin fit today....owoooo....and still, if she tells you to get lost and you leave her alone, that is not harassment. So either you made this silly story up, or you did more than tell her she looked fit. Which by the way is a weird compliment anyway, unless she was wearing a bathing suit. What does it even mean?
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Old 01-23-2015, 06:11 AM
 
Location: U.S. (East Coast)
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For those of you who aren't aware: "FIT" is a pretty popular compliment around the world (not in America) to basically say that someone looks sexy or attractive.

"FIT" to us Americans is like saying "oh, you must work out, you have a nice muscular body" but in other cultures it has definite sexual and/or attraction vibes to it. Almost like saying someone is hott to us. It's not over the top or offensive but it still implies attraction or interest in some way.
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Old 01-23-2015, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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So ladies, have you ever complimented a guy for his looks.

I've been called butterball due to my chubby & smooth face .
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Old 01-23-2015, 07:44 AM
 
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So ladies, have you ever complimented a guy for his looks.
Not in a professional setting.
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Old 01-23-2015, 08:20 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Yep, it's that word -- "fit" -- that would give me pause, but I wouldn't take offense and report it. I've ALWAYS appreciated compliments from men OR women -- I'm the chick who used to wave back and do a little cheerleading dance for all the construction workers who ever wolf-whistled at me (from afar).

But the "fit" word has a slight sexual undertone/connotation. I wouldn't tell a guy he looked fit; it just wouldn't occur to me.
I was told by HR to just be careful of talking about non-work related issues that anyone could be sensitive about an innocent comment.

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OP, you can be honest with us. You were trying and really want to get in her panties right?
No way, she's not my type. At the time she's probably a couple of years older than me. She's known as a maneater around the office gossip, she does the hunting. She probably reported me because she probably had a bad day and wanted me to back off.

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For those of you who aren't aware: "FIT" is a pretty popular compliment around the world (not in America) to basically say that someone looks sexy or attractive.

"FIT" to us Americans is like saying "oh, you must work out, you have a nice muscular body" but in other cultures it has definite sexual and/or attraction vibes to it. Almost like saying someone is hott to us. It's not over the top or offensive but it still implies attraction or interest in some way.
We can twist the meaning around in whichever way is one thing, reacting to it is another thing. I didn't have any intentions other than making a compliment in a conversation. I know she probably didn't really wanted to have a conversation with me but she's the chatty type herself and couldn't stop yapping with me and I was comfortable enough to just mention that she looked fit.
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Old 01-23-2015, 08:37 AM
 
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Americans, so neurotic and socially maladjusted that people can't interact like normal human beings any more.
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Old 01-23-2015, 08:40 AM
 
Location: kansas city
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because you said it wrong buddy. Its all in how you say it
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Old 01-23-2015, 09:34 AM
 
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So ladies, have you ever complimented a guy for his looks.

I've been called butterball due to my chubby & smooth face .
All the time, including at work. I'll tell a man that his haircut looks nice, or I like his coat, or I think his beard looks cool. Just normal person-to-person conversation.

I also compliment other females for their looks.

I appreciate aesthetics, so I will gladly give a compliment where it's due. I'd be shocked if someone thought I was "coming on" to them.

How is it that we can tell random children that they are just "sooo adorable", but we can't compliment each other as adults without people taking it the wrong way?
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