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I have lunch with a man in his 50s once a year, and I noticed at our last lunch that he has no grey hair. I looked at the lines on his face, then back to his hair ... back and forth. They didn't match. Afterwards, I realized that this conflict made me think that he is insecure. Given his job and family background, he shouldn't be insecure ... in a sense, I perceived the fact that he dyed his hair as a weakness.
Everyone is insecure about something. There is actually nothing wrong with being insecure. It is a normal condition. Those that act as though they are very secure and unshakable are just hiding their insecurities a little better than most.
I would assume that A.) it's more "passable" on men than women for whatever reason, and B.) it has more to do with the physical makeup of the person with the gray hair than anything else. If a guy is in his 50s or something and he's in good shape and styles his hair nicely but it's gray, and I would assume that a woman would find that on the "distinguished" and attractive side more than old and unappealing.
Do you like gray hair on others? Do you think it makes them look, as we often hear, more distinguished, wiser, more intelligent? Would you even go as far as to say that gray makes them (as some in the media like to say) hotter/sexier?
Or does it have the opposite effect on you and just remind you that they are someone that has now passed the peak of their physical prime and are on a different course in life?
p.s. this is not about hair care; it's about perception in this day and age.
I don't care what others think about my greying-hair (for me, it's weird looking in the mirror and seeing this chick (as I once was) with greying brown hair. In our society there's a dead set-up to believe grey hair looks bad and that sells products to cover it and it's complete with a double-standard in men and women. I accept it and happy I'm no longer adding heavy-duty chemical products on my head. It's sort of like death and taxes, it happens to all of us.
Everyone is insecure about something. There is actually nothing wrong with being insecure. It is a normal condition. Those that act as though they are very secure and unshakable are just hiding their insecurities a little better than most.
In the context of the question ... whether people with grey hair appear more distinguished, wiser, more intelligent, and sexier ... I think that people that hide their grey hair appear insecure about their age, and people that don't hide it appear comfortable with their age. Grey haired people are not, by virtue of having grey hair, any more distinguished, wiser, more intelligent, sexier than others because of the colour of their hair.
By the time of graying hair, most men are probably glad to have hair at all, LOL.
As for women, my opinion is that gray/white hair looks better than brittle dyed hair...if the woman is getting decent hair cuts which flatter her face. I happen to prefer a soft, wavy, chin-length "bob" cut on older women.
Too many women start chopping off their hair as early as their 40's, and as far as I'm concerned, instantly add 15 years to their appearance of age. What's worse, they give off the impression of "I just can't be bothered going to any trouble." This is not attractive. The worst is when straight-haired women have their hair all cut the same short length and parted in the middle, so it looks like a split loaf of bread on their heads.
Or they get a "pixie" style which they think makes them look younger (since it looks adorable on 22-year-olds) but which is quite wrong for an older face. Our faces change shape as we age, and I think women need some wavy hair around their faces to soften the angles and heaviness which tend to develop. The texture of older hair also tends to make the pixie cut look spikey rather than soft.
It looks better on people with thick, dark hair, and some color to their complexion.
Bingo! I think complexion has a lot to do with whether a person looks attractive with gray hair. People with olive or dark skin or a lot of warm tones in their complexion can look absolutely stunning. I happen to be fish belly pale, so gray hair washes me out. Maybe I'm insecure, but I think I look much better with dark blonde hair than I would with gray.
I love grey hair! LOVE it! I always said I did not care about whether or not I greyed or not, just as long as I still had hair!
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