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Originally Posted by MissmamaAnnie
When ever I get my hair done and wear make up etc sometimes at work I always get other females telling that I look nice .However I never get guys saying things like "looking nice"like other females do.expect one time when this guy I fancy complimented me so I started thinking he likes me since guys rarely compliment females unless unless they are trying to flirt.
Are guys afraid to give the wrong idea by complimenting a girl on her appearance? Its not a big deal.I am just crurios and intrested to hear other people opinion. thanks
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miss, this is a great question...
and if this frustrates you,,,it frustrates men twice as much,
20-30 years ago, we use to joke around,,, at work, good hearted fun,,,no one got offended,,
I was raised to respect women,,,open the door for them, help carry something to her car if she was struggling, etc..
here's what I saw happened,,,the whole sexual harassment policies in the workplace broadbrushed men as predators, perverts...
about 12-15 years ago it was mandatory to take sexual harassment and culture classes twice a year at work,,,and it was all about men,,,how we offend women,,, and what can be sexual harassment..
we men were put on notice,, the feminists and men haters got there way ..if a man was to say " you look nice today" this is objectifying a female , thereby creating a hostile environment..
since looking at a woman can be sexual harassment,,,,, our bosses, men and women,,behind closed doors said WATCH EVERY WORD YOU SAY TO A WOMAN AT WORK, no more jokes, no more ANYTHING, since sexual harassment is 99% one way and its a females interpretation,,,
DONT EVEN PARTICIPATE IF SHE IS TELLING A JOKE, WALK AWAY ... its better to avoid, appease, than be sue'd or fired
I use to like giving compliments, making anyone laugh or smile,,,no more!!
and many women think this is b.s.
but...
even if I take one woman to a working lunch to get away from the workplace, maybe there's a few issues to talk about,,, and she wants to go,,i wont do it anymore,,, because it might "alienate" another female in the office, because I didn't take her to lunch and hence played favoritism"..
I cant even reward good behavior,,i use to buy gift certificates with my own money ,,
I use to give these out for good performance,,,yet even then,,,the poor performers sexualized it,,,,so I stopped doing all of this....
i wont even have a facebook account because what if i friend one woman at work and not another...sounds stupid?? well, apparently, you've never had a talkin to from h.r. saying a woman complained because i gave her a larger office ...even tho i can prove why i did on work performance,,,because she was a looker,,the other women said it was because she was pretty...
so there it is,,,other women in the workplace, jealous of how one lady looks,,and i still take the brunt of this b.s.
this is political correctness gone stupid
yes, we men still notice women,,,we are programmed for this,,,and would love to give you a compliment,,,,but what if another lady heard it?? talk about a firestorm,,,,
and unfortunately, this carries over in other areas of life,,,men are 50 times more introverted than 30 years ago... we are conditioned,,,,anything and everything can be offensive
the feminists, men haters have got their way.
oh,,,,its a world apart from a woman giving a guy a compliment,,,,we like them,,,don't get all offended.. from hugs to any compliment,,,,women can say anything,,,,so please do..