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Old 03-25-2015, 12:04 PM
 
Location: Bay Area, Calif.
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Too many men have given compliments with the sole reason of hoping to get the woman in bed for the night, often it is some lame, shallow, and pathetic attempt at a compliment. As we saw on the "why do you not smile more" thread, many men look for any idiotic reason to compliment a woman or ask the equally idiotic "why do you not smile", in hopes of it going all the way to the bed. This is not being "nice", as when challenged about it, they do not compliment guys, just girls, so it seems their "niceness" only applies towards those who the guy will sleep with.

On the flip side, some women have the attitude that if so much a word is spoken from a guy, that means he is flirting with her. I have personally witnessed/experienced some of the most ridiculous reactions from women towards men, ridiculous meaning unwarranted. Example; guy and girl are coworkers, they (there was four other people there as well) are talking among the group about the guy going on vacation, and they discuss a few things as she visited the same place a year earlier. After he leaves, she starts ranting to everyone about how she thinks he likes her, and now what she going to do because she is not into him, blah blah blah.
Ive seen that too. I think a lot of women forget that prejudging all men lecherously is just as bad as racism, lumpling a whole group of people together in a negative way. Or in other words sexism. Sorry if I seem to jab below the belt, but if women are more mature then men as the common opinion suggests, then how about some room for miseducation when it comes to men, just as we are demanded to be more mindful of their feelings? Something I happen to agree with.
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Old 03-25-2015, 12:21 PM
 
Location: A cold & gloomy place
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If they aren't romantically involved they are probably afraid it will be taken (or twisted) the wrong way.

Those sexual harassment classes....
That is true, especially the former.
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Old 03-25-2015, 01:51 PM
 
Location: Huntsville, AL
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Didn't you hear? there's a war on women... we can't open a door, that's saying that we feel as if we're more capable.
We cannot offer you a jacket at dinner, that's saying we feel we're stronger and more able to handle cold.
We cannot make mention of how nice you look, that's only done because we want to throw you on the table and have our way with you...

Sad isn't it? Chivalry is dead... to some... but not to me!
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Old 03-25-2015, 02:28 PM
 
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Didn't you hear? there's a war on women... we can't open a door, that's saying that we feel as if we're more capable.
We cannot offer you a jacket at dinner, that's saying we feel we're stronger and more able to handle cold.
We cannot make mention of how nice you look, that's only done because we want to throw you on the table and have our way with you...

Sad isn't it? Chivalry is dead... to some... but not to me!
THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Thank you for posting this.

I am sick and tired of people acting like porcupines every time someone is just trying to be nice, polite or just a freakin GENTLEMAN!

Follow: @modgentleman1 & @SuperiorGent on Twitter! and be reminded of how you should act. And ladies: get over yourselves. Try and learn the differences between a jerk and a gentleman!
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Old 03-25-2015, 02:54 PM
 
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I worked with a girl some years back that was very flirtatious. She complimented me and some of the other guys. Until one day a new guy heard all the complimenting and decided to compliment her. She was completely disturbed by this and went to management. A few days later he was fired.
what type of the compliment the guy say? Was it about her looks?
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Old 03-25-2015, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Scrapple country
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Thank your feminist friends for that. The same bunch who made opening the door for you a punishable crime.
Oh come on. Like guys were lining up to compliment the new hairdos of *women they weren't trying to flirt with* before anyone ever heard of sexual harassment.

"Did you do something new with your hair?" is just not something most men have ever done, and it has nothing to do with me and my feminist friends.

Here's another thought. Most women who compliment other women on hair, make-up, new shoes etc. are just making conversation. They don't even necessarily mean the compliment. It's just socially-accepted small talk, when it's woman to woman.
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Old 03-25-2015, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Vineland, NJ
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Most likely out of fear of sexual harassment. Most of that can be blamed on modern feminism.

It also doesn't work the other way around as women can give males compliments all day and they generally won't be stigmatized for doing it.

Last edited by gwillyfromphilly; 03-25-2015 at 04:03 PM..
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Old 03-25-2015, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Vineland, NJ
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Oh come on. Like guys were lining up to compliment the new hairdos of *women they weren't trying to flirt with* before anyone ever heard of sexual harassment.

"Did you do something new with your hair?" is just not something most men have ever done, and it has nothing to do with me and my feminist friends.

Here's another thought. Most women who compliment other women on hair, make-up, new shoes etc. are just making conversation. They don't even necessarily mean the compliment. It's just socially-accepted small talk, when it's woman to woman.
It doesn't have to be just a hairdo, it could be a compliment on anything. Society is very quick to demonize men who go out of their way to compliment women. Just because a man gives a woman compliments doesn't mean that they want to sleep with them. Some men are just friendly just as some women are friendly by nature. The main problem is that American society perpetuates a negative and gender bias stereotype that all men are sexual predators or have some sort of hidden motive to take advantage of women.
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Old 03-25-2015, 07:28 PM
 
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The climate today forces me to choose the most gender-neutral and platonic language I can think of. So giving compliments based on appearance has long been abandoned.

It reminds me of bullies in grade school-- you had to be careful of what you said around them, so they didn't twist your words to make fun of you or to start a fight. ("Don't ever tell me to take it easy!" "Buddy? I'm not your buddy, why would I hang out with a loser?")
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Old 03-25-2015, 09:01 PM
 
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It is a work place and complimenting a girl on her appearance may bring stressful situation in his working environment. It also depends on the mindset of male colleague how they view the matter. In most cases fear factor works in their mind.
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