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Old 04-18-2015, 05:39 PM
 
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Unless you look like this:



Or




You probably look kinda gay. Especially with that broach thing. No matter what though I'm sure it looks pretty stupid as do the gentleman above.
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Old 04-18-2015, 05:59 PM
 
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I actually don't care if you believe it or not. Just sharing some thoughts with people and getting their opinions. You are entitled to yours. And I am certainly not out to convince anyone about anything!
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I don't know if this picture is well taken. I wore a charcoal grey suit today with a navy blue tie. See picture of my coat showing today's buttoneer. Its 18k gold, with 6x0.3ct sapphires and 13 about 0.15ct diamonds. Seen one like it before?
It's quite lovely....but not on a guy outside of India...and when combined with everything else....oy.

Why don't you want to just wear one or two pieces at a time rather than all at once?
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Old 04-18-2015, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Wartrace,TN
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Having sex with people of your own gender is gay; wearing jewelry is wearing jewelry. As a man I never understood why a guy would wear any kind of jewelry as it seems kind of effeminate to me.
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Old 04-18-2015, 06:59 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Hi

I'm a degreed senior professional (6-figure salary) late 30s male. My dad's family is Latin-European (Portuguese) and my mom's Asian (Indian). In both these cultures men wearing jewellery (even "blingy" pieces) is quite common and I grew up in an environment where even the average Joe sported decent pieces. However, its becoming too often that my taste in jewellery is thought to say something about my sexual preference.

When I'm in formal clothing, I would traditionally wear:
- An earing on my left ear (simple stud/hoop);
- A gold gem-studded boutonniere (alternating with a pocket square or a beaded flag lapel pin depending on occasion);
- A neckchain either in Yellow Gold (with Blazer/Sports Coat) or Platinum (formal 2 piece suit) over my shirt ending under my tie;
- A wrist watch (I collect fine Swiss time pieces, Rolex/Cartier/Omega/JLC etc) on my left wrist;
- A yellow gold arm chain on my right wrist;
- Cufflinks (mainly gold gem-studded);
- Right hand: 2 tone White/Yellow Gold Thumb ring & Yellow Gold and Diamond Pinky Ring;
- Left hand: Yellow gold and diamond dress ring;
All the rings are in very masculine settings and many of the pieces are inherited items (so other men before me had no problem wearing them and I would rather wear them than leave them in a safe!)
Also although the list seems long its no Liberace look for sure!

Since I've been working on my career and I've been hit quite badly by the "great recession" I haven't had the opportunity to settle down in a meaningful romantic relationship. And just being single in my 30s raises some eyebrows!

As far as sexual preference goes I've decided to marry a wonderful woman (how we met is the subject of a different posting) but because my interest in helping people (I think single people have more time to do that) is so often thought to have selfish/ulterior motives ("he wants to get into your pants!") by both guys and gals I've decided that that I will wear, for now, a mangagement ring (I've decided on a platinum 0.5ct diamond - again in a very manly setting) and just a plain platinum and white gold wedding band.

I will openly admit that I am metrosexual, I pay attention to what I wear, work out daily and eat healthily to keep my body in good shape and enjoy wearing fine fragrances [Acqua di Gio Essenza is my "signature scent"]. I think I work very hard and have had to make many sacrifices to afford these luxuries and therefore should spoil myself [Life is short and if I don't spoil myself I've learnt no one else will] and I'd like to think it says something about loving myself.

What I can't understand is how jewellery has come to be an expression/symbol of sexual preference? Is it a "redneck American thing", is it a "Cowboy's don't cry", sort of thing. I am actually quite frustrted by the assumption that I'd like to be with another guy and indeed by my colleagues outright asking me this! I'd would think that in 2015 people would be quite upfront about their sexuality and secret symbols should have past their sell-by-date.

I'd really like to know how jewellery took on this meaning and how others who like to spoil themselves this way react to the stigma. Please share your thoughts:
You know it is a free country, and you are free to present yourself as you please. But you have asked for input, and I have to say you really do wear too much jewelry for a guy in North America. Some others have recommended which pieces to leave home. I think the jewelry you are wearing sends an image that you are uncomfortable with. So, use some restraint. Watch the CBS news with Scott Pelley sometime. That guy is impeccably dressed. He wears cufflinks, a Rolex and a wedding band. He looks very dressed up. Do what he does, keep the earring and that is enough. That's my advice.
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Old 04-18-2015, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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Gay? No, just weird. The brooch is really over-the-top old ladyish.

I'd suspect that your coworkers asking if you're gay is their way of suggesting that you're wearing way too much jewelry. I'm not a "fashionable" guy so wouldn't normally tell anyone how to dress, but the descriptions of your jewelry has me wincing. Ugh!

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Old 04-18-2015, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Denver CO
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Actually, you have a fourth choice:
Wear the pieces, but not all at the same time.

Seriously.
Less is more.
This. It's just too much. And fwiw, I'd say the same thing about a woman wearing that many accessories at the same time, with the small difference that on a man, each individual piece makes a stronger statement since it's more unusual for men to wear much jewelry.
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Old 04-18-2015, 08:30 PM
 
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Having sex with people of your own gender is gay; wearing jewelry is wearing jewelry. As a man I never understood why a guy would wear any kind of jewelry as it seems kind of effeminate to me.
My husband wears jewelry...and he looks like a Viking with a full beard and shaved head. However...he might wear one ring...his dress watch. He always has earrings (they aren't gem stone)...he has a few very nice tie tacks...they get brought out on those very rare ocassionslly he wears a tie....so jewelry on a man isn't always effeminate at all....but the OP's main issue is just too much of a good thing.
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Old 04-18-2015, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Originally Posted by Treffer View Post
Hi

I'm a degreed senior professional (6-figure salary) late 30s male. My dad's family is Latin-European (Portuguese) and my mom's Asian (Indian). In both these cultures men wearing jewellery (even "blingy" pieces) is quite common and I grew up in an environment where even the average Joe sported decent pieces. However, its becoming too often that my taste in jewellery is thought to say something about my sexual preference.

When I'm in formal clothing, I would traditionally wear:
- An earing on my left ear (simple stud/hoop);
- A gold gem-studded boutonniere (alternating with a pocket square or a beaded flag lapel pin depending on occasion);
- A neckchain either in Yellow Gold (with Blazer/Sports Coat) or Platinum (formal 2 piece suit) over my shirt ending under my tie;
- A wrist watch (I collect fine Swiss time pieces, Rolex/Cartier/Omega/JLC etc) on my left wrist;
- A yellow gold arm chain on my right wrist;
- Cufflinks (mainly gold gem-studded);
- Right hand: 2 tone White/Yellow Gold Thumb ring & Yellow Gold and Diamond Pinky Ring;
- Left hand: Yellow gold and diamond dress ring;
All the rings are in very masculine settings and many of the pieces are inherited items (so other men before me had no problem wearing them and I would rather wear them than leave them in a safe!)
Also although the list seems long its no Liberace look for sure!

Since I've been working on my career and I've been hit quite badly by the "great recession" I haven't had the opportunity to settle down in a meaningful romantic relationship. And just being single in my 30s raises some eyebrows!

As far as sexual preference goes I've decided to marry a wonderful woman (how we met is the subject of a different posting) but because my interest in helping people (I think single people have more time to do that) is so often thought to have selfish/ulterior motives ("he wants to get into your pants!") by both guys and gals I've decided that that I will wear, for now, a mangagement ring (I've decided on a platinum 0.5ct diamond - again in a very manly setting) and just a plain platinum and white gold wedding band.

I will openly admit that I am metrosexual, I pay attention to what I wear, work out daily and eat healthily to keep my body in good shape and enjoy wearing fine fragrances [Acqua di Gio Essenza is my "signature scent"]. I think I work very hard and have had to make many sacrifices to afford these luxuries and therefore should spoil myself [Life is short and if I don't spoil myself I've learnt no one else will] and I'd like to think it says something about loving myself.

What I can't understand is how jewellery has come to be an expression/symbol of sexual preference? Is it a "redneck American thing", is it a "Cowboy's don't cry", sort of thing. I am actually quite frustrted by the assumption that I'd like to be with another guy and indeed by my colleagues outright asking me this! I'd would think that in 2015 people would be quite upfront about their sexuality and secret symbols should have past their sell-by-date.

I'd really like to know how jewellery took on this meaning and how others who like to spoil themselves this way react to the stigma. Please share your thoughts:
It doesn't matter what your background is. You probably come off looking like a clown. A watch is ok. The fragrances can go, and a "signature scent" would scream gay to many, as would using a term like that. Signature scent, come on that has to be a joke.
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Old 04-18-2015, 09:21 PM
 
Location: Southern New Hampshire
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Originally Posted by Treffer View Post
I actually don't care if you believe it or not. Just sharing some thoughts with people and getting their opinions. You are entitled to yours. And I am certainly not out to convince anyone about anything!
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I don't know if this picture is well taken. I wore a charcoal grey suit today with a navy blue tie. See picture of my coat showing today's buttoneer. Its 18k gold, with 6x0.3ct sapphires and 13 about 0.15ct diamonds. Seen one like it before?
OP, sorry, but that piece in the photo looks like costume jewelry. Sounds like it's not, but it LOOKS like it is.

I think Pitt Chick had a great suggestion ... you can still wear your jewelry, just NOT ALL AT THE SAME TIME!! What do you think about that suggestion?

(And BTW, I wouldn't think you were gay, just, well, showy. Most men I know wear a watch and a wedding ring, and that's it.)
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Old 04-18-2015, 10:22 PM
 
Location: Under the Milky Way
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I'm sorry, but the way you describe yourself makes me picture a narcissist who thinks he looks good, but is in fact tacky and ostentatious. It sounds like you're trying to show off your success and "good taste", yet are really only succeeding in showing your superficial and shallow personality. My suggestion is to get over yourself, and stop parading around like a peacock on crack, lol.
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