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A very great many Americans have a negative obsession about gay men. Jewelry, schmoolry...it could be anything a male does or wears that someone doesn't like, it gets labelled "gay."
That list reads as overcompensation for shortcoming(s) in other area(s).
This was one of my first thoughts too. Whether it's a conscious effort or not, that much bling on display makes me wonder why. That much jewelry is a form of statement........just what that statement is - "I'm successful", "I'm pretty" or just "look at me" only the OP can say.
As a side note, the spelling issue is negligible......but the way the OP chose to spell the word is much more common outside of North America. Another clue?
No straight guys I know wear that much Jewelry. If I saw you with all that on, I would think the same thing, and don't even know you. Sorry. You asked. You sound like you look Gay, from what you describe.
I've never ever ever seen a gay man wearing the amount of jewelry described by the O.P.
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Who cares what other folks in other Countries do. Here is not over there. In some places, a bone through your nose is fashionable. Here, kids and adults would likely run from you. Native Americans wore Leathers and Feathers. Seen any lately?
Right! The real problem is the O.P. doesn't look like any standard issue Murican, so he must be a baddie of some sort.
Not exactly random people coming up to me. Its more that people who share my social space (e.g., personal trainers at my gym) would tell me that is what other members are talking about. Pope Francis says that gossip is our favourite pastime.
Other than that many of my colleagues tell me "guy X from accounting/hr e.g.", thinks I look "cute" and wants to get to know me or similar kinds of statements, when I get a bit annoyed they tell me it's the image I'm projecting with my clothing/jewellery combinations.
The chain outside the shirt under the tie --- no words to describe this. Sounds like jersey Guido. I have visions of Tony Soprano or John Travolta's character in "Staying Live." It all just sounds way, way over-the-top though I understand there is a cultural component here.
I'd consider this: don't dress for where you are. Dress for where you want to be. Look at executives ABOVE your level, not just jewelry, but clothing also.
I've been told to wear the chain underneath the shirt so that just a glimpse of it shows through an open buttoned shirt. Problem is that the tie normally goes on in the morning and stays on until quitting time.
I'm not sure about trying to imitate my seniors. The idea of doing something both "just to fit in" and to look like a "suck-up" just makes me uncomfortable.
Learn how to spell "jewelry". And I hope you don't pronounce it like you spell it!!
I'm quite offended by this comment. Actually Americans spell like they speak so American-English jewelry is the appropriate spelling. Unfortunately, if you speak English correctly (my mom call's it "the Queen's English") jewellery is the correct spelling.
I personally don't like jewelry on men. A nice watch is all that is necessary.
I had a Customer a few months ago with a stunning watch on his wrist. I commented on how nice it was. He told me it was his gift to himself after he returned from Afghanistan. Sweet little story that I will always remember.
Now if he had all that other stuff on, I would have said nothing because all that bling would have distracted from his stunning watch.
Sometimes less is better.
For me, personally, a man who can confidently wear jewelry (and throw in a nice cologne) is hot, hot, hot. It might be my Italian heritage, but, dayum!
Otherwise, wear your stuff with confidence. Explain the history of some of your pieces. Be bold and unafraid!
Great post, thanks. The advice to "explain the history" is actually very good indeed. My family are descendants of the Portuguese Viceroy to India (Estado da India Portuguesa) [hence my mixed Indian/Portuguese ethnicity] and many of the pieces are inherited. All the gold and gem boutonnieres are family heirlooms. And I have only ever purchased 3 cufflink sets in my life (none gold - unless you count "gold plated" - and certainly none with gems) my gold and gem cufflink collection too are family heirlooms. And I certainly won't be prepared to shell out for a platinum necklace (even if I had the extra cash), that too comes from my family. I have three choices:
(1) keep inherited stuff in a safe - what's the purpose? If I'm not prepared to wear them why should anyone else, so save them for whom?
(2) sell the items and invest the monies elsewhere: I actually don't think this is morally right (they did belong to my fathers) and I don't need the extra money anyway.
(3) wear the pieces - thanks' for the boost of confidence
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. My family are descendants of the Portuguese Viceroy to India (Estado da India Portuguesa) [hence my mixed Indian/Portuguese ethnicity] and many of the pieces are inherited. All the gold and gem boutonnieres are family heirlooms. And I have only ever purchased 3 cufflink sets in my life (none gold - unless you count "gold plated"
- and certainly none with gems) my gold and gem cufflink collection too are family heirlooms. And I certainly won't be prepared to shell out for a platinum necklace (even if I had the extra cash), that too comes from my family. I have three choices:
