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Who really cares? We victimize ourselves trying to be young(er) and pretending we are not getting old. Feeling good is the key. Screw appearance and killing yourself exercising like a crazy person. Moderation. Positive thinking. Good companions. Good pet. The appearance thing is a matter of taste. I am past 70 and my wife is just behind me. Life is good and she does not have to turn off the lights to undress whereas I need a closet. Still, I enjoy life.
I think people tend to see what they want to see. Really it goes both ways.
Some men, and some women continue to look great into advanced ages, other do not. More often than not, general health combined with the level of care and maintenance they give their bodies over the years play a huge factor.
You cannot smoke, drink excessively, be a total couch potato, suffer a heart attack at 40 from terrible diet, and expect to look good at older ages.
Even when you do everything right, genetics and simple bad luck can cause health altering situations which take their toll. Yet, the people, men and women, who continue to look good are likely eating relatively well and working out to maintain a healthy body.
My wife, very late 60s, never fails to stun my senses when she undresses. This old boy has nooooo interest in the younger women. Most of them do not come close to my girl. Lucky me.
Bygeorge, you're the kind of man every woman wants. Your wife is a very lucky woman.
Based on what I have seen on Facebook, the women I went to school with look pretty good, whereas, sorry, the men look terrible. Many of them lost their hair and/or gained a lot of weight. Why does it seem that there is this myth that men look better when they get older, but not women? Why does it persist? I have talked to a number of 50+ women that have no interest dating men their own age because they just do not take care of themselves.
BTW, the comedian that uttered the phrase in the title is Patric O'Neal. He is dead and I am not. So there's that.
You should come here to Eugene. Everyone works out daily and shops for groceries in the health-food stores. The men and women are physically-fit and good-looking until a very advanced age. Then, they go quickly and leave behind beautiful bodies.
But there is much more rigid perfectionism in terms of how women are expected to look -- having absolutely no flaws. Whereas when men have rough skin, big pores, wrinkles, mild sagging, a big nose, etc, it's overlooked and all that really matters is how well-groomed he keeps himself. In fact, flaws to a certain extent are positively viewed in men -- as a sign of 'character'. So being an attractive man is much more achievable at a higher age, whereas for women, you pretty much have to be jailbait in order to meet the impossibly strict standards of beauty.
You should come here to Eugene. Everyone works out daily and shops for groceries in the health-food stores. The men and women are physically-fit and good-looking until a very advanced age. Then, they go quickly and leave behind beautiful bodies.
They sound like pod people. Do they scream and chase obese outsiders?
I still think older women have a "certain beauty" about them that defies the notions of youthfulness as the standard of female beauty. Maybe it's the fact, for some, of their beauty being connected to their "natural" ability to present themselves in ways that attract men, and then you see that they truly admire men, unlike the youth who mostly admire the image in the mirror. Do women age more gracefully, no, on average they don't, and neither do the men who fail to take care of themselves, but as it has been pointed out, men and women who DO take care of themselves look very well put together in a way that youth can't match.
I've seen some gorgeous women, who at seventy and older look absolutely stunning, great genes I guess, but then again I realize they look good for the fact that they dressed that day in a way that made them look fabulous, and that realization goes to show that presentation of oneself is what people see. One poster commented on the poorly dressed and out of shape people we see each day out in public, I guess they just don't care about looking good, and worse, some appear to look really bad and wear it as a badge of proud individuality.
We will always appear as a mirror of our ability to look as we want, health issues aside, most do want to look good in their old age, but it takes a mountain of will power to achieve that healthy, sexy demeanor. I'm like most men of seventy, overweight but not obese, I'm aware that my wife looks better than me at this point and she's three years older, we both work out three times a week and it is working, we are trimming up and feel much better, eat and drink in moderation, jeez, mom was right after all...
I just love your post and you sound like you are at a healthy point in your life regardless of natural aging. Kudos to you and your wife!
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