Can cosmetic surgery make someone more attractive? (looks, difference, thin)
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I think it is the missing confidence ... not your looks.
I would agree with this. Sure, cosmetic surgery can make someone more attractive (otherwise, why would anyone do it?), but I think the bigger issue here is a severe lack of confidence.
OP, consult with a surgeon (or two or three), but I would also recommend a therapist. Because changing your facial features may not make a bit of difference if you still lack self-confidence. It's actually a fairly common thing with people who lose a significant amount of weight ... they may have a new slim and trim body, but they still feel like a fat person. It's also why you see so many people go overboard with repeated plastic surgeries. They keep trying to find self-confidence at the end of a scalpel, and that doesn't work.
I sort of understand you but not really. How about you ask a friend what feature he would change on you if he could?
So no huge nose, obese, very short, droopy eyes, huge ears? NOTHING of that?
I think it is the missing confidence ... not your looks.
My nose is fine I guess, I'm 5'10 so I'm definitely not short, my ears are also normal sized I guess, and my eyes are pretty much the only thing I've ever been complimented on. I do lack confidence but that's only because I've been called ugly a lot on my life, people from family members to random people have called me it before. I've probably been called ugly before more than I've ever been complimented, most people have never been through that and will never know what it's like. Friends or family wouldn't be objective in my opinion, that's why I wanted to consult with a surgeon.
I don't know what's exactly unattractive about myself, people have just called me ugly throughout my life. I think my facial structure might be one problem. I figured I could consult with the surgeon prior to the surgery and see what he could do for me.
Maybe its the real ugly people you ve had around you all your life...
I would agree with this. Sure, cosmetic surgery can make someone more attractive (otherwise, why would anyone do it?), but I think the bigger issue here is a severe lack of confidence.
OP, consult with a surgeon (or two or three), but I would also recommend a therapist. Because changing your facial features may not make a bit of difference if you still lack self-confidence. It's actually a fairly common thing with people who lose a significant amount of weight ... they may have a new slim and trim body, but they still feel like a fat person. It's also why you see so many people go overboard with repeated plastic surgeries. They keep trying to find self-confidence at the end of a scalpel, and that doesn't work.
I didn't really plan to overdo it, I just wanted to get a consult first then see what options I had. I'm only 19 and I don't have a lot of money right now, for all I know I may never even be able to get the surgery. It's just a dream for now. Therapy is not a bad idea but at the end of the day it's not going to make me look any different or change how I'm treated by people.
Maybe its the real ugly people you ve had around you all your life...
That's true but I also feel like if enough people tell you one thing then it's probably the truth. It took me a long time to accept it and stop denying it, but I realize that I'm not good looking. Now I'm just focused on trying to change that.
I didn't really plan to overdo it, I just wanted to get a consult first then see what options I had. I'm only 19 and I don't have a lot of money right now, for all I know I may never even be able to get the surgery. It's just a dream for now. Therapy is not a bad idea but at the end of the day it's not going to make me look any different or change how I'm treated by people.
No, but it could change whether or not you give a sh*t about what people think about what you look like. If you're confident enough, people will be attracted to you.
Frankly, IMO, 19 is too young to be worried about plastic surgery. Work on fixing the inside. It'll serve you well not only in your personal relationships, but quite possibly in your professional relationships as well.
My nose is fine I guess, I'm 5'10 so I'm definitely not short, my ears are also normal sized I guess, and my eyes are pretty much the only thing I've ever been complimented on. I do lack confidence but that's only because I've been called ugly a lot on my life, people from family members to random people have called me it before. I've probably been called ugly before more than I've ever been complimented, most people have never been through that and will never know what it's like. Friends or family wouldn't be objective in my opinion, that's why I wanted to consult with a surgeon.
I have been called ugly in my youth, too. A lot. But they never let me wonder, why.
I cannot believe they call you ugly and none of them said WHAT it is that makes you ugly. How do you want to fix what you don't know is wrong??
Jennifer Aniston had work done on her nose. It was huge, and she got it done a few times before it looked right, to her. And she's good. Doesn't look like a mutant, like Courteney Cox.
So if it's something you think would work for you, and give a confidence boost, I say go for it. Fact is, some didn't hit it big in the genetics lottery, so their lack of confidence does in fact come from the hand they were dealt in the looks department. Get those problem areas fixed, and it can perk a person up.
OP, it's isn't normal or mature behavior for people to tell other people they're ugly. It sounds like the kind of bullying that goes on with school-aged kids. I'm not dismissing your feeling or the fact that people have said this to you "a lot" but as you get older, I think you will find fewer and fewer of those people around.
They just don't say it after early adulthood (offline). They still might think it. Also, since when are mean people required to be specific in their "ugly" insults?
I don't know why I thought "randomguy18" is older, but it doesn't matter. I'm waiting for pictures. If things have stopped growing, there's still a window for a few more years in which less invasive or non-surgical approaches might be able to 'fix' some facial features and also bypass bad experiences that can cause bitterness. That is, if we're talking genuine physical unattractiveness.
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