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Old 03-22-2017, 04:05 PM
 
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I have been called ugly in my youth, too. A lot. But they never let me wonder, why.


I cannot believe they call you ugly and none of them said WHAT it is that makes you ugly. How do you want to fix what you don't know is wrong??
They didn't really go into detail about it from what I remember, they just described me as ugly. I figured that getting an opinion from a surgeon would help me out.
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Old 03-22-2017, 04:08 PM
 
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OP, it's isn't normal or mature behavior for people to tell other people they're ugly. It sounds like the kind of bullying that goes on with school-aged kids. I'm not dismissing your feeling or the fact that people have said this to you "a lot" but as you get older, I think you will find fewer and fewer of those people around.
The last time someone told me something disparaging about the way I look was last year. I do feel like going through puberty helped me a little bit but I still don't really feel good about my looks. The actual bullying did stop for the most part after middle school though.
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Old 03-22-2017, 04:09 PM
 
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They just don't say it after early adulthood (offline). They still might think it. Also, since when are mean people required to be specific in their "ugly" insults?

I don't know why I thought "randomguy18" is older, but it doesn't matter. I'm waiting for pictures. If things have stopped growing, there's still a window for a few more years in which less invasive or non-surgical approaches might be able to 'fix' some facial features and also bypass bad experiences that can cause bitterness. That is, if we're talking genuine physical unattractiveness.
I sent you a message with a picture of me.
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Old 03-22-2017, 04:20 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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Everybody has this stupid long beard now and looks the same. If you want to fit in, grow a nasty beard like everybody else. If you have ugly facial features, they will be hidden.
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Old 03-22-2017, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Bay Area California
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Maybe its the real ugly people you ve had around you all your life...
This says more to me than anything.

Random, it seems you're in the middle of some very ugly people and a self confidence issue.

I'm not sure where you're living or the stage you're at in life, but it's possible once you get out more in the world you're going to meet people who think you're perfectly grand just the way you are!

Personally, I think any surgeon worth his/her salt would insist on you doing some kind of therapy before even considering surgery anyway. A surgeon can't fix someone elses opinion. And they can't fix your self image. Those fixes have to come from inside. They take a lot of work...but they're well worth it.

Sometime just for the heck of it, try looking in a mirror. Look for the features that you really REALLY like about yourself. Figure out what it is you like about them and maybe even write it down. Strong jaw? Warm smile? Plump juicy cheeks? Nice hair? And for heaven's sake, when you do this mirror practice, smile at yourself like you really like that image looking back at you.
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Old 03-22-2017, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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Maybe its the real ugly people you ve had around you all your life...
No doubt. However, ... we know this and maybe OP knows this but it doesn't go through to him.
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Old 03-22-2017, 05:09 PM
 
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This says more to me than anything.

Random, it seems you're in the middle of some very ugly people and a self confidence issue.

I'm not sure where you're living or the stage you're at in life, but it's possible once you get out more in the world you're going to meet people who think you're perfectly grand just the way you are!

Personally, I think any surgeon worth his/her salt would insist on you doing some kind of therapy before even considering surgery anyway. A surgeon can't fix someone elses opinion. And they can't fix your self image. Those fixes have to come from inside. They take a lot of work...but they're well worth it.

Sometime just for the heck of it, try looking in a mirror. Look for the features that you really REALLY like about yourself. Figure out what it is you like about them and maybe even write it down. Strong jaw? Warm smile? Plump juicy cheeks? Nice hair? And for heaven's sake, when you do this mirror practice, smile at yourself like you really like that image looking back at you.
I've definitely been around some mean-spirited people before but I also feel like there's some truth to what they said since so many people have told me the same thing. I just don't like being ugly. There are legitimate advantages to being attractive but there are none for being ugly. The worst part is that I didn't choose to look the way I do, if I had a choice in the matter I would've been born with great looks. I know that the surgery wouldn't make everyone think I look good, every person on the planet is ugly to at least one person. I just wanted to be able to look and feel good. I do think I have some positive attributes though, my hair is pretty nice looking and my skin is pretty clear.
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Old 03-22-2017, 05:20 PM
 
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I've definitely been around some mean-spirited people before but I also feel like there's some truth to what they said since so many people have told me the same thing. I just don't like being ugly. There are legitimate advantages to being attractive but there are none for being ugly. The worst part is that I didn't choose to look the way I do, if I had a choice in the matter I would've been born with great looks. I know that the surgery wouldn't make everyone think I look good, every person on the planet is ugly to at least one person. I just wanted to be able to look and feel good. I do think I have some positive attributes though, my hair is pretty nice looking and my skin is pretty clear.
You're a guy right? No offense, but one standard of attraction for men is height? How tall are you? The taller you, the uglier you can be. *does not apply to women*
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Old 03-22-2017, 05:25 PM
 
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You're a guy right? No offense, but one standard of attraction for men is height? How tall are you? The taller you, the uglier you can be. *does not apply to women*
Yes I'm a guy and I'm 5'10, which isn't really tall but not short either. I'm definitely taller than most women though. Sometimes I wish I was taller but it's not something I dwell over.
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Old 03-22-2017, 05:34 PM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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Yes though I only would if it is needed. Say a deviated septum or injuries from an accident. For the most part I don't find it attractive but I wouldn't really be able to tell the difference unless it was obviously.
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