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Old 07-19-2017, 08:18 AM
 
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Op, that's an interesting observation, come to think of it, that's pretty much what happens to me, as well. For me, a passing moment of feeling dejected due to vanity and ego that needs to be in check for all of us, but definitely not depressed. I think Post #10 about attitude wrinkles or no, holds the key.
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Old 07-19-2017, 08:49 AM
 
Location: My House
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For example most people I know who tell people their age are told they don't look that age but if I tell someone I'm 42 they don't seem surprised at all. I heard a 22 year old tell someone they were shocked they were 45 but didn't seem surprised at my age. Most people tell me I have no wrinkles but then aren't surprised by my age. I'm very depressed about it.
Nope. I am my age, so why should people be stunned to find out that I'm my age?

I mean, people usually tell me they thought I was younger than my age, but people aren't great judges of some EXACT number that delineates the passage of time.

I'd say you're wasting time worrying. Try to look as nice as you can FOR your age and be content with people telling you that you look good, your outfit looks good, you have a great haircut, or whatever.

I mean, if you want compliments at all.

Maybe that person was surprised your friend is 45 because your friend acts like a younger person. Or because they had assumed that your friend was older than 45.

You never know.
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Old 07-19-2017, 08:51 AM
 
Location: My House
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I tend to think that when someone says, "Oh, I never would have guessed! You look much younger" that they're just blowing smoke.

I have never been unhappy about the age I am, although I know some people go through a terrible time when reaching a certain birthday - 30, 40 - it's all the same to me.

First off, don't tell people how old you are. None of their business. If you must tell them, add 10 or 15 years and see if they say, "Oh, I never would have guessed! You look much younger"

I get the "you look much younger" but I think it may be more my attitude and demeanor than my actual looks. In any case, I'm not fretting about how I look.
I think that this is usually what it is.

Sure, it's helpful if you don't have as many wrinkles as the the person is used to seeing in someone that is your actual age (I really don't have much in the way of wrinkles, but that's genetic).

But, ultimately, I think it's the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, and the way you act that leads people to assumptions about age.
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Old 07-22-2017, 07:14 AM
 
Location: Wonderland
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So what if you look your age? You ARE your age. Embrace that age, whatever it is. Revel in it. It's part of who you are.

Like someone else said, why give that power away to someone else?

When I let my hair go it's natural color - it's natural color is a salt and pepper gray and blonde and brown mix. Personally, I love it. And I LOVE not having to dye it anymore. It shines in the sun. It's very healthy. But I did notice that people no longer assume I'm younger than I am. And you know what - I don't care. I don't mind being 55. I don't mind looking 55. I AM 55 and I have enjoyed getting to this point!

Now I freely admit that I don't want to look older than I am, but looking my age? So what?
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Old 07-22-2017, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Montgomery County, PA
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You are not answering my question though.
A lot of people may think you look younger but may not say it. Looking "young" has a lot to do with your posture and how fit and trim you are. It's not just about facial features. If you are heavy you look older.
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Old 07-22-2017, 07:30 AM
 
Location: In The South
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No, I feel the age I feel. Which on any given day may be older or younger than my actual age.

Are you really "very depressed" about this? Have you considered counseling, OP?

There seem to be so many threads about looking your age (or not). I just find it hard to believe so many people have conversations about this.
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Old 07-22-2017, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Stuck on the East Coast, hoping to head West
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No, not at all. I think you're just being influenced by our youth-obsessed culture--which I am so over, by the way. Why do you want to look younger? What age do you hope they'll say you look? What does it really mean to you? That others find you sexually attractive? Relevant? Interesting? You can still be all of those things without looking younger (whatever that means).

When they say you look younger, do you really think they're telling the truth? I just assume they're being nice. If someone thinks I'm 35 or 45, is it really that big a deal? I'm never gonna pass for 22.

Personally, I find being older very freeing. I have found my soul-mate, I have $, I have learned so many things I've lost count. Oh, and the confidence, is amazing.
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