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Old 10-07-2018, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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So I went to a party yesterday, which I thought was gonna be a low key game night. Turned out to be a busy singles mixer.

So I put in a super casual and comfortable outfit since I was thinking couches and games. This was fancy workout leggings - moto inspired. And a drapey super soft t-shirt. And flat mules. It was a fancy t-shirt, tunic length with nice drape. Crew neck - so I was covered up. It had a conversation starting phrase on it, in my chest. But casual nonetheless. The mules were the only “dressy” element.

Definitely not what I’d wear if I was “trying” to look cute. My go to is a dress.

So I ran into a person (he’s gay) I met at a previous party. And he commented on my shirt. I gave him the bsck story. And told him I got it because it was really soft. He agreed and commented “it is like you ate wearing pjs and it accentuates your rack.”

I was completely confused that this shirt was perceived as breast-enhancing. It was just a basic t-shirt lol. Not super thick, but not even remotely sheer, nor was it thin enough to make out the lines of my non-seamless bra.

Then I started to wonder if other people read it the same way. And if I could wear it on casual Friday. I thought it was downright conservative.

So have you noticed cases where men and women perceive outfits completely differently?
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Old 10-07-2018, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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Was it tight across the bust?

Maybe the wording draws attention to the bustline...perhaps that's it.
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Old 10-07-2018, 10:37 AM
 
Location: Queen Creek, AZ
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I know many women perceive men who wear pink as confident enough in their masculinity, while many other men perceive it as gay.
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Old 10-07-2018, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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I perceive men who wear pink as preppy and a bit old school.

I think young men will always see women a certain way, no matter the clothes. The fact that this guy was gay, probably shows that he is tuned in to how others might perceive you. I think what he said was tactless, personally.
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Old 10-07-2018, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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So I went to a party yesterday, which I thought was gonna be a low key game night. Turned out to be a busy singles mixer.

So I put in a super casual and comfortable outfit since I was thinking couches and games. This was fancy workout leggings - moto inspired. And a drapey super soft t-shirt. And flat mules. It was a fancy t-shirt, tunic length with nice drape. Crew neck - so I was covered up. It had a conversation starting phrase on it, in my chest. But casual nonetheless. The mules were the only “dressy” element.

Definitely not what I’d wear if I was “trying” to look cute. My go to is a dress.

So I ran into a person (he’s gay) I met at a previous party. And he commented on my shirt. I gave him the bsck story. And told him I got it because it was really soft. He agreed and commented “it is like you ate wearing pjs and it accentuates your rack.”

I was completely confused that this shirt was perceived as breast-enhancing. It was just a basic t-shirt lol. Not super thick, but not even remotely sheer, nor was it thin enough to make out the lines of my non-seamless bra.

Then I started to wonder if other people read it the same way. And if I could wear it on casual Friday. I thought it was downright conservative.

So have you noticed cases where men and women perceive outfits completely differently?
Oh men definitely can get charged up by clothes that aren't traditionally sexy. Kind of like the woman wearing only a man's button down "the morning after"? And most men will tell you that a woman in good-fitting T-shirt and jeans is by far sexier than one in a dress.

The soft drapeyness of the shirt probably was what got him. You don't have to show cleavage for your boobs to look good. Just the way the fabric hangs can show them off a certain way.

But his comment about "your rack" was super-rude.
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Old 10-07-2018, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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What was the "conversation-starting phrase"?

But yes, if you have words displayed across your breasts, guess what, people will stare as they read, and then go back to check for proper capitalization, spelling, and punctuation.
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Old 10-07-2018, 08:56 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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So I went to a party yesterday, which I thought was gonna be a low key game night. Turned out to be a busy singles mixer.

So I put in a super casual and comfortable outfit since I was thinking couches and games. This was fancy workout leggings - moto inspired. And a drapey super soft t-shirt. And flat mules. It was a fancy t-shirt, tunic length with nice drape. Crew neck - so I was covered up. It had a conversation starting phrase on it, in my chest. But casual nonetheless. The mules were the only “dressy” element.

Definitely not what I’d wear if I was “trying” to look cute. My go to is a dress.

So I ran into a person (he’s gay) I met at a previous party. And he commented on my shirt. I gave him the bsck story. And told him I got it because it was really soft. He agreed and commented “it is like you ate wearing pjs and it accentuates your rack.”

I was completely confused that this shirt was perceived as breast-enhancing. It was just a basic t-shirt lol. Not super thick, but not even remotely sheer, nor was it thin enough to make out the lines of my non-seamless bra.

Then I started to wonder if other people read it the same way. And if I could wear it on casual Friday. I thought it was downright conservative.

So have you noticed cases where men and women perceive outfits completely differently?

As you described it, it sounded to me like an attractive, comfortable, easy-going outfit.

Wear it to work on casual Friday. I guarantee you no one will tell you that they think it accentuates your rack.
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Old 10-07-2018, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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What was the "conversation-starting phrase"?

But yes, if you have words displayed across your breasts, guess what, people will stare as they read, and then go back to check for proper capitalization, spelling, and punctuation.
Just some local slang - hella - and a slightly snarky definition. Basically the next logical question is where did you grow up.
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Old 10-08-2018, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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If your gay BFF thought it looked like pajamas, I would not wear it to work.
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Old 10-08-2018, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Dunno OP. But I like women to showcase their breasts and show as much as possible.
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