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Perhaps a strange question but I will ask it anyway ...
I like to wear raggedy clothes. Not only worn out a bit, faded or alike. Really raggedy, like tattered jeans, holey tops with the snapped straps fixed with safety pins and so on.
Anyone else likes that? Or am I just a lone nut job when it comes to that?
Well I'm a big ol' **** then with my one pair of jeans with some frayed spots in them The worn jean look has been around since at least the 90's, so a little more than a "second". I wore them in HS in 2008, 2009, 2010. And they are still "a thing". And God forbid someone actually like a trend.
There's a big difference between garment wash type fading and a less conspicuous frayed fabric edge and something that's deliberately tattered, stained, with gaping holes!
It might be a phase you need to need to pass through. Wearing raggy, holey clothes might satisfy some need. If the old clothing expresses how you feel about yourself, You might want to ask yourself a lot of questions.
Does it get you attention? Does it garner you pity? Do you feel unworthy? Is this a form of rebellion?
In terms of attention seeking, I can guarantee you are receiving negative attention. Is that what you want?
There are many ways to express yourself via the clothes you put on your body. Choosing to wear purposely worn out clothing will set you apart. Just make sure you really understand how you are setting yourself apart.
Well stated. Remember what they say about first impressions and how hard they are to change.
So add me to the bandwagon of "no's", but for the following considerations:
1. There is a noticeable difference in how I am treated in public when I am dressed up nicely (especially if wearing eye makeup) vs. dressed casually. I don't even want to imagine how I would be treated (maybe not outright horribly, but I would definitely expect a certain level of disdain or disregard) if I was dressed in "raggedy" clothing, which is not common around here anyway.
2. I would feel too vulnerable with holes/tears/safety pin fixes. For me, clothing serves a certain "security blanket" purpose and I would not feel comfortable with that level of (potential) exposure. Also in part because I don't have the body of a 20-year-old model.
A shrink would have a field day with OPs behavior. It is not normal. Either you feel you are undeserving of better, or you like to shock people to draw attention to yourself.
Some of these posts sound like a snooty rich Granny with her nose in the air. Wanna talk about "this says that about you and people are judging!" You sound like a boring old snob, talking like that. Well?
I mean, I'm a 40 year old woman, and I can move comfortably through most social groups. I know what situations demand dressing up, and which permit dressing down. Most people do, I think. At least, most adults.
When a favorite and very comfortable pair of pants got a hole in 'em...I stopped wearing them to the office, sure, but I still wear them to Walmart. It's only my knee hanging out, not my backside, and I really don't care what the people in Walmart (or Target or the gas station or grocery store) think about me. I'm not dressing to set fashion trends or impress anyone on those days. If it's Saturday and I've spent most of it doing housework, or making art, or laying on the couch with a good book and my cat, I can wear my old comfortable pants. If I am going to a BBQ or game night at a friend's house, I can wear them.
And I think it's pretty obvious when someone, especially a young person, since teens are very keen on expressing their own style a lot of the time, is trying to do "a look" versus when they're like...some kind of a sketchy bum. My son's ex-girlfriend was all about 90's grunge music and the accompanying fashion statements, with a dash of emo. She was really cute, in her slashed black jeans and bright flannels over little rock band t-shirts. Was she dressed as one would for a job interview in a posh office? Or, say, a church service? Uh, no, but she had no need to be. That's a time in a person's life when they SHOULD totally be having fun with their clothes.
So add me to the bandwagon of "no's", but for the following considerations:
1. There is a noticeable difference in how I am treated in public when I am dressed up nicely (especially if wearing eye makeup) vs. dressed casually. I don't even want to imagine how I would be treated (maybe not outright horribly, but I would definitely expect a certain level of disdain or disregard) if I was dressed in "raggedy" clothing, which is not common around here anyway.
2. I would feel too vulnerable with holes/tears/safety pin fixes. For me, clothing serves a certain "security blanket" purpose and I would not feel comfortable with that level of (potential) exposure. Also in part because I don't have the body of a 20-year-old model.
But wouldn't it be fair to say that OP might feel the exact same way with HER clothing choices? We all have different style preferences.
OP said she LIKED dressing a certain way, BUT she didn't say it's ALL she wears.
But wouldn't it be fair to say that OP might feel the exact same way with HER clothing choices? We all have different style preferences.
OP said she LIKED dressing a certain way, BUT she didn't say it's ALL she wears.
I'm not sure I understand this response to my post. I merely answered the OP's question and gave my own reasoning. Not sure how you inferred all that additional stuff.
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The worn jean look has been around since at least the 90's, so a little more than a "second". I wore them in HS in 2008, 2009, 2010. And they are still "a thing". And God forbid someone actually like a trend.
