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I think her age is relevant because her outfit is fairly typical for that age. It would not be for me because I'm twice her age. And while I support women wearing whatever they want, I personally do not try to dress like my 20-something nieces
The Golden Corral patron said she wore the shirt because her husband thought it was cute. Well, my late husband thought I was cute in the nude - didn't make me rush out to have dinner at GC.
The outfit she was wearing, regardless of her size or the fit of the garments, was appropriate for working in the yard, pegging clothes on the line, chasing littles around the swing set. Otherwise, she should have gone through the drive-thru to pick up her meal.
Whether or not it was right for GC to ask her to leave, I don't get a vote on that. But I would rather dress appropriately in public and even on a quick trip to the convenient store, I wouldn't wear that outfit.
Age is not the only factor when choosing an outfit.
I don't really worry what others think of my clothing - since I know I'm not being offensive in my choice.
This thread was prompted by a thread now on Current Events in which a middle-aged and overweight woman was kicked out of a Golden Corral due to wearing a skimpy outfit that many people would consider to be unattractive on her.
Leaving the right or wrong of a restaurant acting as some sort of fashion police out of it, how many of you try to dress in public according to what you think most people would find attractive or unattractive?
(And please also leave out opinions as to what is okay and not okay based on body type, as I do not want this to turn into any kind of body shaming thread!)
Function over form: I wear what allows me to carry all personal items (cellphone, wallet, keys, concealed firearm) comfortably with easy access. The firearm is usually carried in a pocket holster with disguise flap (this one), so the priority when shopping for pants is deeper and wider front pockets that are easy to reach into in case of a dire defensive situation, and not so tight that they'd reveal its physical outline during everyday errands. I've found that carrying at the waist/belt level just isn't practical when out & about (bending over for a low-shelf item or reaching way up for a top-shelf item could easily draw the shirt up and reveal "it" in a waist holster), but the pocket position has worked just fine for years and becomes unnoticeable to both myself and others with ease. Otherwise, not too particular...may be khakis or jeans, shorts or full-length. Shirt is usually a decent t-shirt or polo. (I save the old, ratty ones for use around the home. )
I think her age is relevant because her outfit is fairly typical for that age. It would not be for me because I'm twice her age. And while I support women wearing whatever they want, I personally do not try to dress like my 20-something nieces
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as I do not want this to turn into any kind of body shaming thread!)
It's not body shaming if she is falling out of her cloths.
I would compare her to a guy with a beer belly with his shirt too short and pants too low. Would he be asked to leave? Maybe. Maybe not. It's a hard call to make. I guarantee he would have been noticed.
I do. I try to dress appropriately for the situation/location/occupation, etc.
Agreed. I don't have the latest fashions- I buy classic styles and wear them till they fall apart- but I dress up a little more when I'm flying, when I go to church or to a Garden Club meeting than I do when I'm out buying groceries. Most of my clothes are VERY comfortable, so I don't need to look sloppy to feel comfortable.
And I don't leave a lot bare. I do wear short shorts because most of the time I'm coming to or from the gym on my other errands, but no crop tops, plunging necklines, strapless, ripped jeans, etc. No moral issues with it- but I'm 66 and I think it would look silly (or worse) on me.
It's not body shaming if she is falling out of her cloths.
I would compare her to a guy with a beer belly with his shirt too short and pants too low. Would he be asked to leave? Maybe. Maybe not. It's a hard call to make. I guarantee he would have been noticed.
This is absolutely body shaming.
My point was that young women her age wear clothing like that all the time. The only reason it was an issue was her size. And that's no one else's business, if she felt comfortable wearing clothing that other young women wear. She's not "falling out of" her clothing just because they are on a larger body.
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