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Old 06-11-2019, 08:28 AM
 
Location: PVB
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All things aside, go to a dermatologist (we have one in our family) and get your acne treated. With all the advances in skin care you should not have that issue. After that, see how things go.

 
Old 06-11-2019, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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In general young women have a beauty that older woman cannot match. There is also something about youth that feels wholesome and optimistic. But I think the OP is posting about desirability, not beauty. And it is true that men of all ages gravitate to young women as moths to flame.

Not all young women are great beauties, of course. I certainly was not. But while you are young, I think you should revel in your youth and vigor. All ages have their rewards but being young and always in the moment, or looking forward with optimism, is a short lived experience.

Stop comparing yourself. Be yourself. Most of us are not great beauties, and did not have men trailing after us with desire. But we got on with living. It is obvious that you are aware of flaws; make sure you are aware of your assets!
 
Old 06-11-2019, 09:47 AM
 
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Beauty is subjective, and many get into relationships way beyond the "desirable age".

You must have heard of this plenty of times before, but you are still young. Take time to discover your own style that you would be comfortable in and would make you feel beautiful. Pick out features that you like about yourself, physical and otherwise, and let them shine.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 10:46 AM
 
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The men who say these things online say them not because they are true, but for two reasons:


1) To put down "older women" (which always makes me laugh because most women they are trying to "put down" are too wise to fall for that crap. At least the ones I know anyway).

2) To make younger women feel insecure because it's not reality (and they hope "desperate" to date them. I think this is the true motivation).


Don't fall for either. They are playing mind games. Men who say these things are out to use women and are men to be avoided.

In reality is it's hard for everyone except a very few to find someone. Not only do you need to find someone you are attracted to and could love, but they need to be attracted to you too and see you as someone they could love. It takes time and a lot of effort.

Based on what you said, I would recommend talking to a dermatologist about your skin issues (you never said what they are) but they may be treatable and therefore something temporary in your life. As for looking like a teen and such, it sounds like you take care of yourself and look young for your age. Taking care of yourself will serve you well when you get older. Not just physical attraction, but you will be healthier and feel better (and maybe even live longer) for being so good to yourself.

My guess is, like so many young women, you will find that you are a late bloomer. While it can be disheartening now, in the long run, it can be a great advantage. It give you time to grow and develop mentally into a deep, strong, and interesting person while avoiding those men who are manipulators trying to tear down women.
I really appreciate your message. Thank you!
Yes, the flaws on my face is acne and it's literally the only thing that makes me insecure. This might sound crazy but social media doesn't help either when most of my peers have crystal clear skin whileI have to guzzle down bottles of water and still breakout.

I'm going to schedule with a dermatologist and dietician to form a regimen for my skin and try to eliminate foods that exacerbate my acne. The "looks" prime thing really gets to me because I never "peaked" in high school and with college, I'm practically invisible despite being socially active. I agree with you on how some men can say such things to use as a scaring tactic for women but I'm going to try to not buy into it. I always said my 30s would be my prime years because my 20s are like an extended adolescent phase that I didn't think would ever exist.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Try shaving off your eyebrows an painting big black blotches on above your eyes. That seems to be the earmark of beauty for today's young women.

Personally I think it looks ridiculous but someone must like it because it seems to be very common. Maybe you are just missing eye blotches. Try it and see if guys get in line to talk to you.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 11:56 AM
 
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I really appreciate your message. Thank you!
Yes, the flaws on my face is acne and it's literally the only thing that makes me insecure. This might sound crazy but social media doesn't help either when most of my peers have crystal clear skin whileI have to guzzle down bottles of water and still breakout.

I'm going to schedule with a dermatologist and dietician to form a regimen for my skin and try to eliminate foods that exacerbate my acne. The "looks" prime thing really gets to me because I never "peaked" in high school and with college, I'm practically invisible despite being socially active. I agree with you on how some men can say such things to use as a scaring tactic for women but I'm going to try to not buy into it. I always said my 30s would be my prime years because my 20s are like an extended adolescent phase that I didn't think would ever exist.
Do whatever you need for your skin, Mod cut..

Yes, I do think men especially online overstate things and don't think about what they are saying, and many of them are young and inexperienced at life and relationships. Yes your thirties can be your prime years, absolutely. Some people come into their own at different times than others.

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Old 06-11-2019, 11:58 AM
 
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Try shaving off your eyebrows an painting big black blotches on above your eyes. That seems to be the earmark of beauty for today's young women.

Personally I think it looks ridiculous but someone must like it because it seems to be very common. Maybe you are just missing eye blotches. Try it and see if guys get in line to talk to you.
I know the makeup trend you're talking about lol
My hair is jet black but I just need to grow my eyebrows thicker. Thankfully, thick eyebrows run in my family so I'm hopeful my eyebrows will grow back. My eyebrows will make my face look 10x better along with my eyes.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 12:02 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I really appreciate your message. Thank you!
Yes, the flaws on my face is acne and it's literally the only thing that makes me insecure. This might sound crazy but social media doesn't help either when most of my peers have crystal clear skin whileI have to guzzle down bottles of water and still breakout.
It's a lot more likely that they have photoshop and use filters than that they all have perfect skin.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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I really appreciate your message. Thank you!
Yes, the flaws on my face is acne and it's literally the only thing that makes me insecure. This might sound crazy but social media doesn't help either when most of my peers have crystal clear skin while I have to guzzle down bottles of water and still breakout.

I'm going to schedule with a dermatologist and dietician to form a regimen for my skin and try to eliminate foods that exacerbate my acne. The "looks" prime thing really gets to me because I never "peaked" in high school and with college, I'm practically invisible despite being socially active. I agree with you on how some men can say such things to use as a scaring tactic for women but I'm going to try to not buy into it. I always said my 30s would be my prime years because my 20s are like an extended adolescent phase that I didn't think would ever exist.
Find a guy with acne. Problem solved. I know they are out there. I made some. Wonderful guys. However they are shy and would not likely approach you or any gal. today's guys seem to be even more pansified than we were. So terrified of the possibility of rejection, they would rather just be alone. You need to be blunt as in 'Hi if you asked me out, I would say yes.

By the way it almost always goes away with age. I knew a lot of people with really severe acne. All of them cleared up by their 30s. Most sooner.

Also just so you know, the average age for American women to marry for the first time is now 27 or 28 and rising. I watch so many young women get antsy because they are 27 or 29 and not married or even dating. At 27 you are just getting to the average. That means half the women your age are not married.
 
Old 06-11-2019, 12:54 PM
 
Location: OHIO
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I donít think I turned into a troll on my 26th birthday, but maybe I did lol There are beautiful women of all ages and men out there who are attracted to them.
Young doesnít equal beauty, it just equals young .
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